How can I stop my kids arguing all of the time.

Reason behind this is your sons feeling alot of mental agony dealing with his problem. In a evil way, this is like him trying to scream out to everyone to hear "im sad and and i hate my life". That's exactly how I was. I know exactly how he feels and it's normal. Just do somethign that makes him happy. But most importantly do soemthign that's goign to take care of his problem, in the end he will be a better person because of it please belive me.

It is time to "Kill 2 birds with one stone!". I advocate for you an old parenting trick for solving siblings fighting. You can cause them to unite and co-operate together by giving them reason to oppose and dislike you. Of course, when they are older they will realize what you were doing and respect you for it, (hopefully). What am I talking about? When the kids start to fight, do something like calmly tell them they do not have time to fight as they need to get busy with (pick one or several). 1) mow the lawn 2) wash the car 3) clean the garage 4) paint the house 5) fill in the blank with onerous chore requiring 2 people. Do this evertime they fight. Don't tell them the chore is connected to the fighting. Let them figure it out. Soon they'll be "buds" together facing their new adversary (you!). When they are old enough to understand, explain it to them.

SERIOUSLY!! TUNE I OUT!! im sure ur the type of parent as wel all are that needs to Settle the *fighting* or stop the fighting each and every time! well ... ur doing them more harm then good! ... im one of 8 kids inmy family!! can u imagine he Gray hairs my parents have by now?... well only one parent does and ironicly NOT the one that delt with us on a REG basis!! my Mother is still RED!! siblings do that to *LEARN HOW TO SURVIVE* sounds sily but its true!! they have to learn how to deal with all sorts of people as they get older - beating up on, teasing, bashing, even smacking eachother is allaway of growing up! if we settle all thier fights they will NEVER learn to handle the REAL WORLD!! and the *crap* from thier childhood NOW is whats going to bond them!! u can always say hey calm down or if its gets out of hand of course take care of things but anything short of BLOOD i let them handle it ( with a third ear onit of course) now we only have two but girls but it can be like a FULL SORORITY HOUSE!! OH BOY!! AND i want to add a bit here about the boy being older 16 - well hes not hurting her right? not bruising her or makingher bleed or anyting like that right just teasing!?? thats LOVE!! strange, sick, twisted whatever u want to call it! it is thier way of bonding!! HE WILL be the first one to stand for her if a boy get out of hand! u watch!! he will be if not already protective of her - itll happen without him knowing it or admitting it! My bro did for me which shocked me he was ALWAYS hitting mewith a towel hed swirl it u know and then snap it a me, my butt, belly u name it i HATED IT!! But then i came home upset by a boy and my bro FLEW out the door to get him!! ( unfort hes passed away now - but i will NOW as i did growing up cherish those swacks on my butt!) lol Siblings are a funny bunch! i only know so much coming from such a big family AND ALWAYS ONE BATHROOM i migh add!! lol the both boys will as they get older! ullsee so unless they are drawing blood and or hitting horrible bad on eachother smacking things like that that hurt then i wouldnt pay much mind - learn to *SWTICH it off or HALF* always half an ear on whats going on and laugh at the reast or u WILLbe gray way before uneed to be :) lol Took me a bit but once i got the hang on it and calmed down reading or cooking or knitting ( yes i do that too ) i was easy! AND ull see they will *FIGHT* less they will see it DOESNT work U UP!! ( strange but true always more fun when moms getting *steamed*) LOL so relax let them handle most of it on thier own! *just my two cents* hope it helped - im sure not made sence but... its true!!