How would you respond if---

I would support them in their decision. It is a personal thing, you can't help you love and who you are attracted to. Just as some teenage girls and boys will "go out with" guys and girls that steer them in the wrong direction, or hurt them in the end; it is part of self development and part of them as a person. If you love and respect your child you would be accepting of their choices in life. There is nothing wrong with being "gay" - afterall, we have termed homosexual relationships thus, and what is the true meaning of the word "gay"...joyfulness. If that is what makes them happy and fulfilled, then who am I to stand in their way.

*laughs* I'd say... "You and most of the rest of the family." *shrugs* My father is gay, my husband and I are both bi... I don't think having a gay kid would surprise or bother us at all. =P In fact, when I was really new to mylot, many moons ago, I started a discussion about "What if my kid turns out to be straight?" That sounds very silly, but I do sometimes wonder if he'll feel uncomfortable admitting he is straight to us, because he'll worry we'll think that means he's anti-gay or something. (Since my child is less than 2 years old now, it's not really an issue yet, of course, but this is all speculation.)

Well it will be a shock to me.The first thing will be to approach the situation with a cool head.I will talk to my child and try to find out whether it is for real.Then I will take him or her to the doctor and check about the normalcy.If everything suggests that my child is gay I give in and accept and take care of the health part of it.

Wow, this is realy one of the very sensitive topics I've joined in to. I guess I would feel devastated at first, because my expectations somehow turned into a disappointment. I would get mad too, because my son has a heart of a woman. But I guess as a parent a loving one also, all I need to do is understand and support my son to what will make him happy. As long as he doesn't bring any problems in our house, I will welcome him with arms wide open.

I have to say that I'm happy that my two boys love girls because you can see how excited they get when they see a beautiful girl ,but if they were gay I would love them the same way as now. At first, I would be kind of sad ,but I would support them and advice them to be careful the same way as I do now.

Honestly, I would support my child no matter what. I have a gay aunt. Which I have no problem with. I joke to my husband sometime that I do wish my daughter would turn out gay, at least then I would know she wouldn't end up pregant at age 17 like I was.

I would accept it. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and I would promise to support them in everything they do. I would be a little surprised, but not at all angry or upset. I would be happy that they chose to be honest with me, and like I said, I would be supportive.

well i have to support him/her. theres nothing i can do about it for i have relatives who are gay and i think this is in some way hereditary. atleast i heard it from him/her. it would be a shock if i learned it from others.

I would support his choice. It wouldn't change who he is or how much I love him. It wouldn't change much, to be honest. I would still hope for his happiness, for him to find someone he loves and wants to spend his life with. I would still hope for him to have children if it's something he wants. Nothing would change, really.

First thing I would do is ask why they would think that and who told them? (Usually this happens because someone tells them, like a school counselor, just heard about it today.)

Hmm my first reaction would be like, "huh? So how much would be the cost to invest for a beauty parlor?" heheh just kidding. As parent, you may observe it earlier as he grow up. They way he moves, talk, his likes and dislikes, so when he tell you, you will not be shock anymore. When the time comes that he tells me that he is gay, my first move will be..I put my arms on his shoulder and rest assured him that he is still accepted in the family wholeheartedly as of nothing change. All we could do is to guide him still in the right path of life. It is ok. It is not a problem. Wherever he will be happy we will be there for him. I had remembered when I called my hubby on phone and we're talking about the kids; it popped up on my mind and asked that question too. It takes 5 sec. to be exact of silence,hehe, and finally he said "It's ok babe, we will support our kids wherever they will be happy." well of course for good. :) I do have many gay friends too. I am honestly enjoying by their company than those of straight sexes. hehe

hhmmm.. that's a tough question for me cause i don't even want to think about having a gay son or daughter. well, if it happens we'll still accept him/her for what he/she is cause it won't change the fact that he/she's our son/daughter. We need to just understand that things happen in our life that we have no control of so we need to accept it. :) have a nice day!

well, that's a tough question since we don't want any of our future kids be like this, but if it happens we will still accept our son or daughter for who they are cause they don't really choose to be that way and it's unintentional cause they don't mean or want to be that way. We'll still be here for them as parents and as long as they jst continue to be a good person there's nothing wrong with it. There's a lot of gay in the world and they come out in the open a long time ago so we should be open-minded about it :)

Of course I will be shocked and maybe a little diappointed. He' a boy when he came out in the world and all of a sudden he become a gay. But theres nothing I can do about it, so I have to acept the fact that he wants to be in the other gender. At least I have known it from her and not from other people.:]

I have a few years before my kids start talking to me about that kind of thing as my oldest is only 7. If, in the future, either of my kids told me they were gay, I might be shocked - not least because they already flirt a lot with girls! I would support them and be there for them. To me, being gay isn't a problem and I really don't see why it should be unless there is some religious issue about it or something. The way I see it is that being gay, straight, bi or whatever else, that is only one part of a person and it is a part which I don't see is any of my business. My best friend is gay and it is very obvious because he is so effeminate but he has a boyfriend who, had he not been introduced as such, I would not have had any idea that he was gay. My personal opinion is that it isn't "normal" to be gay but that doesn't mean I think it is abnormal. As I say, someone's sexuality is only one part and it really doesn't matter because it's not going to change the rest of their personality usually. Anyway, I don't think I would "react" per say but maybe just be a little shocked. It would just mean that the "birds and bees" discussion would have to be altered slightly!

i think i would be embarassed at first but i would realized i really couldnt do anything about it so i'll just accept it. besides, i have gay friends and i love them because they're so much fun, hardworking and talented. if my son is gay but he possess these good qualities, then i wouldnt be angry at him. ^__^ plus, gays are already accepted in the society. maybe in some communities they are still not accepted but time will come that people will open their minds and eyes and see that gays are important part of the society too.

i'd first of all ask him his reasons for making that decision and doing that? i'll ask him the benefits he drives from being a gay. Then i'll tell him to reconsider that act for that will ruin his future and could spell doom for his bright future. i'll simply speak to him in a humble manner. Then let him look at his friends who are not and probably ask him to follow those friends who object to such social vice.

Well its not the end of the world! Imagine, if they told you they just found out they had terminal cancer? or had killed their best friend. Now that would be Different! Gay u say? No child of mine (old enough to date) Could surprise me with a statement like That. I've raised 4 boys so I know what I'm talking about. Parents who are surprised by their children being Gay, would have to be living on another continent. Therefore I believe I would have little or No reaction.

To be honest I don't think I'd really care if one of my kids told me they were gay. As long as they were happy with who they are then I'd be happy for them. I wouldn't treat them any differently then I do now. Same rules would apply to dating as it would if they were straight, same as my judging their partners. As long as they found someone who treated them nicely and loved them for who they were then I'd be happy for them.

I would be glad to and hug my child if he says he's gay. There is nothing wrong with being honest to yourself and to your parents and I will support him and give him advises to what to do to protect himself.