If u could go back & change 1 thing in ur past,what would it be?

@claire03 (1443)
United States
September 19, 2007 9:10pm CST
If i can just go back and change something in my past, it would be the time when my father and mother broked up and got separated, i was just a baby then and couldn't do anything and my brothers were still small. It affects me and my brother so much. Until now, we have hurt feelings for what happened in our life and that we didn't grew up without a mom and now she's back it hurts more to find out the truth why they separated and why she left us. i just hope we had a complete happy family. Our childhood wasn't normal because of that. We went through a lot so if i could just change that one event in my past i would just to make it better for our family and i hope they could have saved their marriage or just have a good separation for the kids sake. How about you? what do you want to change in your past if you could go back to change one thing? share it to us. :)
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@beaniegdi (1964)
20 Sep 07
That is really sad and I hope that now you can maybe come to terms with what happened and make your peace with your mom. I know children are always badly affected when their parents seperate. If I could go back and change things I think I would have liked to have had a career in nursing. I often used to think of it but did other things but now I think I should have gone for it as I think it would have suited me.
@claire03 (1443)
• United States
20 Sep 07
my mom and i already talked on the phone even if i didn't see her i know that deep inside she means all the things she said to me. and i know it's not all her fault, i understand her now. We never really had a fight, we just talked on the phone about what happened between her and my dad. i feel sad i couldn't change that part of my life but i'm glad i've overcome all that and makes me a stronger person that i want to be. hope be in the field that you really want. goodluck and Godbless!
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
Sad to hear about your childhood life, I know it really affect a kid's life when parents seperate but hey I think you have such agood and happy life now..so in a way you did overcome it. Mine would be a mistake I did when I was already an adult.When I have that chance to go back..I wouldnt do that again.
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@claire03 (1443)
• United States
20 Sep 07
yes i am glad i overcome that part of my life but my brother didn't. he still has problems about it now and i feel sad for him. At least you learned from your mistakes cefaz. God bless.
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@jhanna (334)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
If I could go back to my past, I would have taken medical transcription instead of hopping from one course to another. I realized that medical transcription is the right career for me. And if I had find out about this earlier, I might have my own business doing transcription and hire people to work for me in this field. Well, but at least I am now doing MT jobs in the office and some homebase jobs once in a while but definitely, someday I will be successful with this.
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• United States
20 Sep 07
I think it would be that my husband & I would've spent more time with his maternal grandmother. She passed away about a week after our youngest daughter's first birthday in 2005. My husband was very close to her so he was upset that he had taken a job that took away from the last few months of his grandma's life.
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@chym1101 (169)
• China
21 Sep 07
hello,claire! I am so sorry to see that your childhood is not lucky. If I can go back and change something, I prefer to bring the time to 6 years ago. I will tell my uncle not to drive after drinking. So he would not die. My uncle is just 11 years older than me and 10 years older than my sister, and when he was studing in highschool my sister and I are on our piquant age. And when he was out of home, we entered his room and disordered his things. When he came back he complained to my grandma not to let us in his room, scolded us and then lifted us over his head. How happy those times were! He was only 29 years old when …… We all love him so much and we are missing him all the time. How I wish, how I wish he would come back!
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
I will not love that much- to the point that nothing was left on me. So even he dump me, my world will not crumble and I'll not break into small pieces. I hate remembering one past love that ruined my life, took away my self-confidence, and made me miserable. Well, it's over. I'm a renewed person now.
• United States
20 Sep 07
My parents are kind, decent, intelligent, loving people. But if I could change one thing, it would be that those same parents were kind, decent, intelligent, loving, and rich people. Very rich!
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• Philippines
20 Sep 07
If there is one thing that I would want to change in my life, it would be the day that I decided to let go of the one I love. I do not think of having met that person as my greatest mistake. I do not even think of it as a mistake. I did not choose to meet him. Love lead him to me. One thing that I could have chosen to do and would do, if I can only bring back the past is to choose to be with him. There are decisions that we make that leave painful marks for the rest of our lives. However, I have no regrets of having met and fallen for him. After all, in the words of Lord Alfred Tennyson,"It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."
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@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
20 Sep 07
There is only one thing that I would change....that is getting married the first time. It was the biggest mistake of my life, and one I am still paying for.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 07
I am not a young person anymore. I have a my own kids and a partner. In short, i have my own family. If i could turn back the time to chanage, I think I rather not to change anything because my kids are very precious to me. If I change my life, I will not able to see them again. Eventhough my life for me is not a good one, I will not change it because of my kids.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
20 Sep 07
i can change one thing in my past, then i hope i had never met my ex-boyfriend. frankly, i take him as a relative, and i hope he can live a better life, but i really don't want to be his girlfriend. he is a kind person, but not a strong-mind man. we have happy time, but it is too short, it is about only several months. but we live together for over 3 years. so i have a bad memory with him. if i could erase the memory, then i would be better. but it is impossible, and now i feel it is a good thing for me, then i can know the meaning of true love. experience is a treasure, although it is a bad one.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
20 Sep 07
i can change one thing in my past, then i hope i had never met my ex-boyfriend. frankly, i take him as a relative, and i hope he can live a better life, but i really don't want to be his girlfriend. he is a kind person, but not a strong-mind man. we have happy time, but it is too short, it is about only several months. but we live together for over 3 years. so i have a bad memory with him. if i could erase the memory, then i would be better. but it is impossible, and now i feel it is a good thing for me, then i can know the meaning of true love. experience is a treasure, although it is a bad one.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
20 Sep 07
To be honest it would be to go back in grade school and kick some snotty kids butt because I was taunted and ridiculed because of my hearing problem which made me feel below them and because my parents couldn't afford the high priced clothes either so I'd kick some butt if given the chance.
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@ssf12ster (488)
• India
20 Sep 07
whatever you lost for eg debts,relationships may be.that is something youwant to happen all the time in your life.
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@sherrir101 (3670)
• Malinta, Ohio
21 Sep 07
If we could turn back time, I would have gotten out of a relationship in my past sooner than I did. Five years is along time to be verbally abused and metally it hurts you for the rest of your life. It also affects all of your relationship, including the ones with your family. I have had to undergo some serious counseling for it.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
How sad. That must have been devastating and painful to go through. I mean, my dad and mom do quarrel at times and it even hurts me.. What more if they would end up just like what happened to your parents. But I do hope you will still be strong to still continue on with your life no matter how it hurts you for no longer having the family that you always wanted. About me. The one thing that I do want to change in my past is the when I fell in love with my best friend. ;( Exactly Feb.14,2003 , I just woke up that day and realized that I was in love with him already, so in love. When he knew about it, it was over. Our friendship fell apart, we never talked to each other. I haven't seen him for quite awhile. It really did hurt me. He never became mine, we never rekindled the same friendship we had before I had feelings for him. I don't really regret anything for loving him. It's just the thought that "What if I didn't love him? Or what if he didn't knew I love him? Would he be still a sweet and caring friend. Would he be still calling me on the phone to cheer me up especially at times when I feel sad and low? It hurts me up to now, I love him and I just fought for what I feel even though it means losing him as a friend. But atleast I tried. I hoped the outcome turns out as a happy ending for me, but it wasn't. I just have to be strong, stand up for myself and move on no matter how painful it is to walk away from the love I never even had. :(
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@heartsick (832)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
if only i could turn back time, i want to be a kid again and i want to start my school right. when i was a kid i was so lazy studying. although i know i'm good in my subjects but now i realize i want to be the best in our class. i want to be an honor student. now i'm done with school, an ordinary graduate student,
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
22 Sep 07
Dear Claire, u r right when in family u have kids then you should be compromising on issue between u as a husband and wife and think of ur kids. Kids of broken family loose a lot, not only love of their parents but it create gap in their lives as well. Well i am happy with my past, dont have such regrets there, sure their were sad and bad moments, but i think life is color ful with them Take care and hope u must be better parent for ur kids Byee
@claire03 (1443)
• United States
22 Sep 07
thanks cupid74. I will really make it sure that my kids wouldn't experience what i experience in life, having a broken family is tough and the kids are mainly affected by this. I always pray to God for guidance. i'm glad that you are happy and contented with your past and present life. God Bless!
@claire03 (1443)
• United States
25 Sep 07
thanks for wishing me good luck cupid74. i wish you more happiness in your life too. take care and nice seeing you again. :)
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
24 Sep 07
Dear Claire , wish u and ur family best of luck and sure u would be happy family as well. Take care
• Malaysia
20 Sep 07
hi, claire03..erm... you have done great.. i think that me will change about my handwriing.. my handwriting really ugly and when small always say by teacher.. i hope can change it... but don't how change.. but me already habit my handwriting
@claire03 (1443)
• United States
20 Sep 07
bad handwriting is not a big problem hawaiiblue. we have the chance to practice and change it anytime. hope you have a nice day!
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Nothing, I choose to accept everything for the way it is. Everything happens for a reason and if I go back and change something something else won't happen. Plus, I don't regret anything, life's too short for regrets.
@claire03 (1443)
• United States
25 Sep 07
i agree that we shouldn't regret anything with our life cause there's always a reason for everything and one of the reasons is we learn something from it specially from our mistakes in life. :) thanks for sharing gradyslady. see you around.