my hubby locked our son in the bed room alone...... i hate him for this

yes, thats the reason i told him i will kill him if this thing happens again just to make clear to him that he should next time make sure that it is safe before doing something. it a child as young as this, he is really helpless.

lol. yeah me too here. I thought it was really true and I was thinking about the baby. Gosh! Hmmm..nice title friend, it can really attracts attention. hehehe Well, about what had happened, it's ok, anyway it was just an accident. Just be careful next time. :)

why didnt i think of that? lol. well yes it was an accident. yes i heard a lot of news that parents look their kids inside the house on in the car.

OML! Noriko, please dont pay any attention to what she just said. OF COURSE IT WAS AN ACCIDENT! You said yourself that your husband was singing to him and playing and laughing. Dont let this comment play on your conscious and have you thinking horrible things like about your husband. It was a mistake, plain and simple.

yes he didnt mean it, but still i was really scared.

that his middle name hahaha

i hope he learns from that, yes he was forgiven too.

sometimes when we are really so upset and scared and angry we tend to say words then take it back. my son was crying as soon as the door was closed. he was expecting that his dad will just peek and boo, but when dad didnt come back for a boo he started crying.

And you are obviously the loving caring Mummy that your boy will truly be proud of.They say that a boy's best friend is his Mother,but I will add it can only be so with Mothers like you.I know this because my Mother was of the same high calibre as you are.I pray that you will enjoy the same Mother-son relationship with your boy that my Mother had with me May God richly bless you and your family,and special blessings,luck and success in every facet of your boy's life,all his life.May God grant guidance to you and your husband in raising a fantastic young man.!!!!!!!!LOL!!!!!!!

Thank you very much Jungle, you made my morning a real good morning. yes as a mother i would do anything and everything to be supportive to my child and make sure he is always ok. specially in this stage where he is in his formative years. yes accident may come but if parents always have a watchful eyes then i think accident can be prevented specially inside the house. prevention is better than cure.

he is a loving father but careless in so many ways. thanks for the calming words you said you deserve a + rate

yes thats what exactly what happened, i was really angry then calm down after maybe 20 minutes. well i know we mothers are really like that. thanks for understanding the way i felt. + for you sviswan

Thanks:)

it was an accident but i think my reactions are but natural. he was freaking out as soon as the door was shut.

yes he is only human, and so as me. so if i reacted that way it is because i am human. i didnt say i was all high and mighty and of course i make mistakes.

thank you ladydulce for understanding what i feel. i wish everybody is as broad minded as you. happy posting

I can't blame you for reacting the way you did. Any mother's first instinct is to protect her baby, even if it means killing her own husband. Nothing comes before your child, and instinct says to eliminate any threat. It's when logic kicks in that you realize it was an accident and your hubby was just as terrified. He probably beat himself up for it more than you did. Everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn't mean we can't be scared and mad and shaken over them. That's how we learn from them and prevent them from happening again. After I locked myself in the bathroom as a kid, my mother didn't let me go by myself or without her permission until I turned 10, lol. I've knocked my son on his head a few times, which always kills me. He can't afford to loose any more brain cells! Every time I leave him with someone, I worry because I know my son. He'll fall off a chair or table or lock himself in the closet if you turn your back for two seconds. These things happen, and it's perfectly natural and normal to freak out when they do. It just means you're a human mother. Blessed Be

thanks forthe advice i need we really have to do that.

oh my goodness, are you claustrophic? good thing mom was around when that happened

oh, thats too bad to hear. maybe that lock at the trunk issue made you cloustrophobic.

I wasnt before that but I am a bit now. I have a major issue with clubs and that sort of thing where I dont have enough personal space and fresh air. I do go out but I try to stay closer to the door (I have had about 4 panic attacs in my life in those situation whwr I almost vomited or whatever you want to call it) and lifts are a big issue as well I always feel hot in lifts. My mother was about to go to the market lucky she decided to wait for my neighbour so they can go together. Oh and my sister still remembers the beating the got that day.

wow i didnt expect that the title will really call attention. but thanks for sharing your piece of mind

that was so sweet of you wendy. some responses was upseting too. i think my reactions was all but natural. make a watchful eye and make sure your baby is always safe

yes he does

thanks for the calm.... i am calmed already

well i was mad. its too late not to tell me not too. but i just wish this wont happen anymore. i just hope he will be more careful.

it was horrible thank you for understanding what i felt. a same thing happened to my nephew but my nephew was 3 years old so he understands every word his parents was saying and he was calm while waiting for the door to open. my child is so young to understand what was really goin. and all he can express was to cry for he is alone in the room.

It may be that your husband was really terrified as well. I don't think he intended to lock his son up. Of course that was an accident. Nobody is perfect. Plus, just maybe, the nagging made your son more traumatized than being locked up. But it's natural. That's how we, women, show how afraid we are or terrified. Let's just not forget that we are talking to a person who loves our son equally. Though we might be mad for that accident. Let's keep in mind that we should learn to say sorry and watch our words. Just my cent.

i will wait for him to do something terrible? i dont think so... he doing this (for me) is terrible. and he himself admited it that he has done something terrible do our kid. he should be aware thats what he said.

what will his punishment be? divorce? this is your other option..forgive and learn from his past mistake or just throw away your marriage over ONE incident...I have raised two children in a divorce situation and it really messes the childrens minds up...but if you cannot resolve your issues with your husband then maybe you should part and remember that he still will have parental rights to live with the children as the court allows...maybe at a certain age the child will pick to stay with the father...my neice just lost her two children in a divorce settlement..the husband moved back with HIS parentss and lost his job and my school teaching neice has to pay $800 a month child support plus expenses...plus they lost their two homes they owned due to the fact the husband was fired from his job on embezzlement charges..but the teenage sons want to live with "DAD"..as at a certain age the minor have the right what parent they live with..now my sister can't see the grand children...and once they were very close..so think about what actions you are taking...it is cheaper to board them then to keep them...but maybe there is issues that you have not told us...divorced mothers are the majority of the parents raising the children of American. Good Luck...I feel bad for the child. Either way he will be losing a parent.

only the lawyer wins in the end...$$$