It seems like wasted words and maybe wasted time to have friends

I know what you mean. I've shared this kind of particular "problem" with my blogger friends and they say that it's just a phase of life. My closest friends (we've been friends for around 10-15 years) have been pretty busy with their own lives so that we don't communicate that "deeply" anymore. I wish we could continue having such a deep friendship, but I'm afraid for this period of time, I can't expect them to give me more than that. I'm learning still to let go and to find other friends to have a deep connection with. I'm also learning not to lean on them too much. It IS sad, though, to feel that our close friends have now become more like "acquaintances". However, I think that when the time is right again, when they have more time to give me, if they're really true friends, we'll be able to continue being close friends again. Maybe this is just a season of life...just like everything else in this world. I know it's such a pity, but what else can we do? The only thing we can do is just be the best kind of friend that we can be.

Friends are one possession you should try never to lose because some of them can never be replaced.You have the best times of your life with your friends,they are there when you need them.They are a shoulder on which you can lean when you feel weak,a shoulder to lean on and cry to.All you need to keep the friendship going is spend some time with them,its not asking too much considering the amount of time we all waste in front of the T.V.

Yes I have felt that way many a time in the past and it is true somewhere at some time you just seem to drift apart

I have never felt that way, everyone who has come into my life in the past, was there for a reason. I feel that each one of them, whether still a friend or not was important for some reason or another, either they were there to teach me something or to help me through a difficult time. I have been betrayed by some and let them go, but I will never forget that they had a purpose for being part of my life no matter how long it was for.

I had a friend who I thought would be my best friend forever. We had been through so much together. Then one day she just totally turned on me. Accused my boyfriend of some really nasty things and spread rumors all over town about us. Since then I dont let people get that close. I have casual friends but I will never have a best friend again besides my husband.

I felt what you feel before. I have this close friend since elementary. When we separated in high school to college, since she went to other city to study, we lost our communication. Then 3 years ago, she was able to find me through friendster.com. We started sharing experiences again, hanging out, etc. But we stopped communicating again. I felt my time was wasted that time - spending a lot of time chatting with her in the net, hanging out with her if she's in the city, etc. Until now, we are still not in talking terms. I feel it should be better that way.

You've got the wrong sort of friends if you don't hang out after a couple of years. I still keep in touch with old high school buddies. We don't hang out as much because we don't see each other every day anymore, but we still talk about stuff and help each other.

It was not wasted because you've had fun with them before and you did lotsa stuff with them together. You had them to be with you when you were down too. Even when you've stopped communicating, all those times were not wasted. Since they didn't ask you out, maybe you can try taking the initiative to ask them?