My 15 yr old son wants to move in with his dad

Your situation sounds a lot like what I went through. I wanted the divorce though. My son at 15 did go to live at his dad's house, he was a little sneaky about it, he didn't want to tell me so he moved out a little at a time. We had very liberal visitation, he could see the kids and take them whenever he wanted, provided he wasn't drinking. My son was there for almost a whole year, until his dad moved his girlfriend in, and things drastically changed for him. He was afraid to tell me that he had made a mistake, his sister told me what was going on and I told my son I was coming over to help him get his stuff to come home. He has been happy ever since, we still have arguments and disagreements, but that's part of parenting and growing up. I don't think you'll ever loose your children, let him know that you love him, and if he does decide to move in with dad, that you'll always be there for him and your door is always open. Keep the faith and don't worry to much, as a mom, I know how hard that is, but please try.

There is a saying i'm sure you've heard "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence". The absent parent doesn't have to deal with every day stuff. the harmonal changes, the moodyness, the bad day at school like you do. So his haveing full custady might change his mind. There is the fact too that a judge will probably figure that at 15 your son is old enough to make up his own mind. My daughter lost custady of her oldest daughter at this age. My daughter had moved to Mi from Ne. and she sent her daughter to visit her dad in Wy every Christmas and spring break and a month out of the summer. He has a ranch in Wy. aqbout 3 years ago Jessie decides to stay with dad. Now Mon gets the visits at Christmans spring break and a month in the summer. If you let yor son go live with his dad you get to be the good parent. Let up on the hair and the clothes. Have him put his hair up in a pony tail at home. Compermise. Chose your battles. Tell him that you'll stop complaining about his room if he cleans it throughly once a week. it's a kid thing. All kids go through it. It's a bid for independance. My son was growing up when the boys and men had long hair,I mean long hair. He ended up in the army wher the hair is short and I mean short. You have to let go and maybe letting him go youwill be getting hem back. especially if your ex is remaried. Step moms really don't want the exes kids around all the time. I know I'm rambbling but I hope you can glrean some good advise in there some where.

It sounds like your son is doing what any 15 year old boy would do - taking the easiest option. He obviously doesn't realise that there are reasons for you to be so "strict" and he may get a shock if he does live with his dad because, as far as I am aware, in the main, the "absent" parent is less strict anyway. His dad might only be less strict because he hasn't got him all the time and things may change if he does. Your son is 15 and so should be able to make the decision for himself. You need to explain why you would like him to stay with you and how living with his dad might not be as good as he thinks. If he still wants to go then let him. I think your relationship with him will be better if you give him the choice than if you try to force him to stay with you. As for taking you to court for the others, I don't know how it works exactly but I think your ex would have to prove that you can't look after your other children if he was to get custody of them.

Your son is older now and he is old enough to make that type of decision on his own. Not to say that he can over rule what you say. Just sit down and have long talk with him and let him know how this is making you feel. Try to understand that your son still loves you and that he is just getting older so he wants to be around his other half for a while. Your ex husband is being very childish about the situation because of his resentment towards you. The best thing to do is to hope for the best and let your son know exactly how you feel about it and how it makes you feel.