women -their own worst enemies?

I sometimes wonder about the same thing myself. I guess it also depends on how ambitious/competitive the women are and if they're willing to practice this adage "the end justifies the means". I also think that women should support one another. I think, though, once in a while we do meet those good women who aren't catty, don't you think so? I'm not an outgoing type, so I don't have too many experiences on this. However, I hope I'm not that kind of woman in the eyes of my friends/acquaintances.

I know wht you are saying my husband works with lots of women (about 99%) so the things that he tells me are shocking. The comments made to people and behind their backs makes me want never to work with women. He does say things to them like: why did you just say that for, cant you just do you works and live those things out. One lady (she is very sensitive and depresed and all) said something like " we went there last week with my frieds" and everyone laughed and one lady said "yeah right like you have any friend". Poor lady cried for hours and soon after left the job.

Being a man I do agree 100% with you - but my friend men also think in the same manner,when it comes to having a baby they prefer and pray that their wives give birth to male child inorder to carry on their hereditarial surname-my wife gave birth to a girl baby first - and she changed my luck within 3 months of her being born.I was and still am very proud of her- much to the astonishment of my friends relatives and parents.I dont consider a girl child to be a pain in the neck or butt but a blessing in disguise-because if there were no women then how would the male child come?Its the women who give birth-not men- my friend.SO NEVER FEEL LET DOWN OR FEEL CATTISH AMONG YOURSELF-WOMEN ARE THE ORIGIN OF LIFE.

I hate to add vinegar to your wounds but women don't like women because of the same reasons men don't like women. They're unpredictable, don't say what they think and they're conniving. (but that's not to say they don't have their good traits also). and in the workplace where you already have enough in your pate as it is this would just add to the stress. Aside from my own experiences I used to know someone who preferred boys as close friends more than girls. When we asked her why is this so she said men are easier to figure out and get along with than girls... Women need to stick together but they also need to be more assertive and true to themselves also.

I do agree with you on this one. I worked in a large office full of both men and women for 12 years. The one thing that I did not miss when I changed jobs was the cattiness of the women. It was the worst part of the job. I avoided these types of women like the plague. I would sit alone on breaks or lunch rather than be a part of that. In doing so, I did meet a select few other women who felt as I did and we became very good friends. We began sitting with the men at breaks and lunch and were quite surprised that they too are just as guilty of gossip and cattiness. I now work at a convenience store and we have tables for people to sit at and eat and drink coffee. It is always full of men! They sit there night after night and do nothing but gossip. I do agree that women need to stand up stronger but men have it all over us when it comes to shallow thinking.

I completely agree. I am so tired of my girlfriends for that exact reason. All we do is talk about each other. Last year we all had a huge falling out with one of the girls in the group and it ended up being a really horrible situation. Then, when it was all said and done, two of the girls went after another girl and here they are living together and are miserable. I pulled out and lived with my boyfriend to keep my own sanity. Guys leave emotions out of things and can just be friends and have a good time. They support each other with a headbutt or a handshake depending on the situation and for that they survive. Guys all understand that they all have different lives and don't get offended when one can't be with everyone at times. My mom has repeatedly had problems in the work place with this because she worked for women. If the women saw she could possibly be competition, they let her go. My mom is such a hard worker but lost her job 2 times for intimidating the female boss. It's such crap. Great topic.

Couldn't agree more many women measure therelife and sucess against other women are cannot just be happy with what they've achieved, wether that be in the workplace,in the home,or even they way they look. And it seems that it makes them feel better to look down on other women. I can admit to this although on the whole i would say i'm not that bad i do have the odd catty moment. Lets just allchillout then yes we could rule the world.