how do you deal with friends who have crab-mentality?

you know that this kind of people have a verry big insecurity problem? try to stay away from theme and find a real friend. true friend never let down thier friend and anyway they will giving you, an exact comment about what you should do. but never let you down.friend should give you incouragement or option in anyway.but never hurt your feelings directly, why you need othere opention, when you know who you are and what you do and you know you can do it.?

Then I'd wonder if I should befriend them any longer or if I should tell them about any good thing at all. If I still befriend them, I'll definitely not tell them about my achievements 'coz I know already what they'll say. I'd tend to avoid this kind of friend though, but if I've been friends with them for a while, I think I may also confront them and ask point-blank why they keep on doing that to me. And I'd ask their opinion on what kind of friend does such a thing to one another, 'coz friends are supposed to be supportive of one another. If they say, "But we're just telling you the truth so that you won't be disappointed", I'd say, "I'd appreciate it if you can just be supportive. Whether or not I'll be disappointed or not, it's my own consequences and I dare taking that risk, thank you very much"

I have decided when friends get this way is that they are usually jealous because it was not them that was picked. When this happens I let it go in one ear and out the other unless they keep going on about it. If they keep trying to bring you down about something that you are excelling in ask them this. Ok if it were you how would you want me to react. Most likely they would say they hope you tell them what they are telling you but ya know that isn't the truth...lol just smile and nod. I don't know why our friends think they know what is or is not best for us.

Those people aren't real friends. A real friend may feel that you may fail but they will encourage you to follow your dream. They would hope for the best and for the worse. They would be there if you did fail. And they wouldn't say, I told you so when you failed. They would support you in everything you do. The only time I can see a real friend trying to stop you is when you are either trying to drive drunk or trying to do something illegal.If I had a " friend" that was so negative with their remarks, they wouldn't be my friend long.

By proving them that you are not crab mentality. if they said you can't do it, then do it. if they said you can't be Miss Universe then be one, or at least achieve something else that they said you can't. I met many people like that saying I can't do anything because I can't afford it or not good enough and blocked my way when I was pursuing my dream. Yet here I am with my dream, having my own small business in a foreign country. The road is tough and costly, but I ain't letting it go just because some people say I can't. let them be the crabs, and you be the shark.

that was normal in this life. my suggestion is you must be patient and keep going with your activity. don't listen to negatif output form your friend which is according to your feeling was wrong.

Hello, I have to say that is very often in life!!I am much,much older than you are and i have some experience in this meter!!there is a interesting way in life!!If you are positive Pearson with a lot of new and fresh ideas you will alway find a friend with opposite characteristics!!!