Would You Tell Your Ex...

I've been asking myself that question for a while now, lol have you turned mind reader? Honestly my ex and I are really good friends now, we talk on the phone weekly. We both have feelings for each other but it's been years since we were together or even since we last saw one another and though we each know that the other has feelings left, we try to ignore it and act as if we don't notice. I would love nothing more than for us to be together and he wants the same thing the problem is that each one wants it to be on their terms and to their ideal. Reality is that there's too many things in life and in our own personalities or beliefs that keeps us from having what we want. We settle for being amazingly close friends despite the distance and just pretend not to hurt deep when one of us is dating someone else. And to be truly honest I think it's a bullsh#t way out and it's only a matter of time before we either have to face what's there and go towards it or go our seperate paths completely or we'll only end up hurting not just each other but anyone else we pretend to care about emotionally.

Hello wondericequeen, I think if I want to win back his heart and be with him again, I will do whatever it takes to get him back. I will tell him that I still love him and I do hope that we can get back together. But if I think that there is no way for us to be together, I am not going to tell him anything, anymore. I will just forget him and move on with my life. I am not good as a pretender and if I still love him, I don't think I want to lose him forever before I try for the second time.

Hi Wondericequeen! For me I'd rather pretend that I feel nothing for him already eventhough I know that I'm still so much in love with him. Simply because I know that we will never end up together and forever. I know it's hard but it's much harder if you will give it a try once again and failed for the second time.

I would never tell him about this...I thought since we have broken up,its pointless to tell him about that.Both of us should move on and have a new life.Life is so short so we got to do more meaningful things...What do you think?

Yes. I told my ex this in an email last year after no contact with him for about seven years. I still love him to this day and I told him this. He is married now and I'm not trying to break up his marriage but I just wanted him to know that after all these years he is the only one I love. I was the stupid one and broke up with him and I regret it for the rest of my life.

I will tell my ex that i still feel for her even though i know deep within my heart its impossible for us to be back together again.. And since so, then y dun we just say it so as to make ourselves feel better??

There is no point of me telling him that i still love him if there is absolutely no way that we can be together...it is somewhat like crying over spilled milk... and dwelling on something that can never be... besides, it might ruin the healthy relationship that we have... plus, it will show him that i still have not moved on... i have pride... so i won't tell...

If he doesn't love me any more, then even if I still love him, I won't say it to him. Because I have my own dignity and I don't want him to know I still love him.

This may sound cold, but DO NOT TELL HIM. I think even staying friends stops you from finding love in your own life. If you are staying in any sort of relationship with an ex (even a friendship), one of you still believes you are going to get back together. Keep yourself busy until you no longer have these feelings. It's the best thing for you. Just my own opinion based on my own experiences of course. You do whatever is right for you.

My ex and I broke up after being together for 7 years, he knew I still loved him, he doesn't like talking to me, face to face, due to the fact that he still cares about me too, and it hurts because he was my best friend and now I feel like because of his parents, I had to lose everything. I've moved on now, but I just hope he has...