can you forgive her?
By cudgel
@cudgel (216)
Nigeria
12 responses
@delladidit (466)
• United States
2 Oct 07
...Ask her what quarentee you have she will not cheat on you again. Ask her why she was tempted in the first place. Ask her if there is something missing from your relationship which needs to be addressed. Ask her what being faithful in love means to her.
...Most important, ask her if she were you, would she take her back.
...If you suspect it is happening again, let her go. She was not meant for you, if you are looking for someone to be true to you.
...Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della
@cudgel (216)
• Nigeria
8 Oct 07
Della,
I hope i need to ask her that very question which you did mentioned inhere, "IF SHE WERE ME". its a great phrase. what a rhetorical question' i will surely take that into action.
thanks for your contribution.
NOTE: will you just mail me a private message just to establish a conversation?
thanks to your expected cooperation.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
I believe in giving second chances to people, so I guess it's worth giving it a try...yup, you can forgive, but if she does it again, then that's it..no more. You have to make it clear to her. Good luck...hope you will not be cheated upon again...never allow especially that you're the man, and is supposed to be the main actor of your relationship. A hurt is a hurt, and there's always a limit to patience and even love....
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
9 Oct 07
You must forgive others. No matter what they have done.
It is the command of God.
To not forgive hurts you. If you desire God's blessing, you must forgive.
You may think it is impossible to forgive someone who has deeply wronged you. With God it is possible. He never asks us to do something we cannot do.
@cudgel (216)
• Nigeria
12 Oct 07
sweetcakes:
i really got your message and get it down to my oblongata.
i really understand the word of God about forgivness, but it just isn't an easy thing to do. as we all know.
and when it comes to relationship of a thing, i hope it should take another dimension, because this could not be considered a mistaking issue but a serious afection of emotion. which could be call a breaking of one's heart.
well, i think i will consider all the variables on ground to make my decision.
@cudgel (216)
• Nigeria
8 Oct 07
YES
those are the ranging questions on my mind, its really a difficult situation now. because i don't know what to do with it now. thou many suggestions has been given herein which i think are very useful, but i am still thinking about it.
thanks for being there.
@ragini155 (56)
• India
6 Oct 07
i dont think she deserves a second chance. no one deserves a second chance. cheating is equal to not loving the person you cheated on. Giving a second chance would only allow her to do it again.
@dreamstone (129)
• China
29 Sep 07
you'd better give her a chance.we all need second or third chance to change or remedy,right?and there are many kinds of cheaters, some cheate is well-meaning.so you must differentiate that.if your girl friend love you true and didn't make crazy mistake,forgive her,love her more.i think you will approve of your dicision.
@thelilsis1982 (36)
• United States
30 Sep 07
i say no love is love you cant turn your back on true love and cheating is a big nono when you truly love someone.
@wild_flow_r (304)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
everyone needs a second chance. give her the chance to show that it is you she loves. it might be that she learned her lesson already that it is you who really holds her heart and that she wants another chance. talk to her and ask her intentions for coming back to you. if you think she is sincere then forgive her. also, try asking yourself why he cheated on you it might be because you have taken her for granted?
@cudgel (216)
• Nigeria
25 Sep 07
yes i have being thinking on what could be the possible reasons, but only that i cant figure it out yet. because there is enough love and care. Only that i uesd to be away a bit based on my work conditions which are quiet clear to her. at time two weeks away or 4 months. yet we saty connected on air daily.
yet i appreciate your points. thanx a billionth
@skeen1981 (54)
• Australia
30 Sep 07
Once a cheater always a cheater!
Find someone who can love you for you and not need to go looking for another man to fullfill her.
Good Luck
