What to wear to a wedding

United States
September 24, 2007 2:16pm CST
I've been invited to a wedding this weekend and I've been going thru my closet in an attempt to figure out what to wear. Most of the dresses I have pulled out as possible candidates are dark colors (blue, black, gray) as these colors make up a large portion of my wardrobe due to their versatility. My question is this: Are dark colors OK to wear to a wedding? The last wedding I attended, my mother-in-law wanted me to wear light colors & pretty much insisted that I wear a bright color instead of what I had packed. While the light tangerine or melon colored suit she loaned me did look nice, it's not something I would have selected for the occasion, but I wore it to keep peace in the family. :P
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@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
25 Sep 07
If the dark colored, versatile clothes are who you are, then that is what you should wear. Accessorize with something light or bright, maybe. Or you can wear some other nice jewelry pieces. It is fall and more sober clothes are okay. You are not one of the wedding party are you? Then it does not really matter.
@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
25 Sep 07
It sounds very classy. It would be something I would like for sure.
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• United States
25 Sep 07
I'm not in the wedding party, just a friend of the bride's mother. I decided to wear a sleeveless sweater dress in gray with silver jewelery. It's a very simple dress with a draped neckline and it's a mixture of light and dark gray with silver threads. I just hope it won't be too warm as the temperatures are still pretty high here in Texas. :)
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• United States
25 Sep 07
I really love the dress. The neckline reminded me of the dresses I've seen my grandmother and my mother wore when they were young. I'll be sure to post pics next week so you can see it. :)
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Sep 07
Dark colors are definately okay to wear to a wedding. In fact, it is fashionable to wear black to a wedding. DH & I got married last December and almost everyone was wearing black or a very dark color (even I was wearing black & eggplant).
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
25 Sep 07
Only a few people knew the wedding colors so it was most coincidence. We did get married in December and from what I understand it is very common for Fall/Winter weddings to be all dark colors.
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• United States
25 Sep 07
LOL, when I got married over 23 years ago, I wore white but my bridesmaid was in forest green and my flowers were peach. We got married in April so I suppose I should have gone with lighter colors, but I really liked this color combination. :)
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Interesting! Out of curiosity, did you let everyone know your colors ahead of time or was it just coincidence that everyone was in dark colors?
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I went to a wedding last weekend at a country club and wore a black suit. There were others in black suits also but did notice the majority of the ladies, ages varied, wore black, sleeveless dresses. Others wore various dresses but did notice most of them were also sleeveless. I think almost anything goes today. Because it is officially fall I would have guessed more people would wear dark colors. I wore a basic necklace because. Well, nobody asked me to leave! Also, very few women had on pantyhose or any kind of nylons. Most were in dress sandals. Have fun.
• United States
25 Sep 07
Hello and welcome to MyLot carolbee. I'm glad to know that so many wear dark colors to weddings. As hot as it is here in Texas still, I pretty much had to go with a sleeveless or short sleeved dress for comfort. I just hope the sweater dress I've selected won't be too warm. :)
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
24 Sep 07
You can wear anything you want! The last wedding I went to some girls were even wearing jeans. I also saw one woman wearing black during that same wedding.
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• United States
25 Sep 07
LOL, OK I'll admit that one of the dresses I was considering was in denim but quite dressy. I don't think I would feel comfortable in blue jeans at a wedding though.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I think you can get away with the dark colors. Especially now as fall is right around the corner. Perhaps a scarf or something to brighten it up if you wanted but I don't believe that would be necessary.
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Thanks makingpots. In Texas, even fall is pretty warm, so I've selected a sleeveless sweater dress in light and dark gray with silver threads. I'm hoping the silver jewelery I've selected will set it off nicely. :)
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• Israel
25 Sep 07
i thinks darker colours are best suited u should not be to flashy so as not to cause too much attention sfterall it is not ur weeding u shold just be allright
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Hello and welcome to MyLot CRYPTONEXUS. I'm going with something very simple & I definately won't be trying to outshine the bride. :)
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@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
24 Sep 07
I think it would be OK to wear dark colors, especially since fall is here. You might try adding some colorful accessories to brighten the dress up for the occasion!
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Thanks for responding. The dress I've decided on is a mixture of light & dark gray with silver threads. I think the silver jewelery should dress it up nicely. :)
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@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I was going to respond, but I see after reading the thread that you have made a decision on what to wear. What you have chosen sounds lovely, and perfect! I was going to say too (which has already been said!) that black has actually become quite a popular bridesmaid color! I really think a lot of those old 'rules' are going by the wayside! Have a wonderful time at the wedding!
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Thanks crazynurse. I don't think I followed any set rules for my wedding either, lol. I put my bridesmaid in forest green. :)
25 Sep 07
There is nothing wrong with wearing dark colours to a wedding, the last wedding I attended I wore a royal purple velvet dress with a black spiderweb overdress. One of the guests wore a lovely blak suit with a sappire blue shirt, so be comfortable hun
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• United States
25 Sep 07
That sounds quite lovely. :)
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
25 Sep 07
hi paidreader here the girls wear black to a formal occasion it looks more orderly than wearing other colors it's okay if you want to wear a brighter color, as long as you can keep your look chic everything will look great on you happy dressing paidreader ^^
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Hi unuzzz. LOL, a little black dress works for most occasions doesn't it? I decided on a gray dress with silver jewelery for this wedding. Now, if I can just find the right shoes and purse to go with it. ;)
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
25 Sep 07
These days, it doesn't seem to matter what you wear to any event! I would go with comfort myself! Anyway, after reading through the responses, I see that you have decided to wear gray with silver threads through it, and it sounds perfect and very elegant. Silver jewellery will be great with it, and I think you will look very classy! Good luck.
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
27 Sep 07
Sounds like you are on to a winner if hubby likes the outfit! lol! I look forward to you posting a photograph so we can all see the finished result. Have a great time at the wedding!
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Thanks abbey19. Even hubby liked my selection. It goes quite well with his suit too. Hubby rarely dresses up so I'll be sure to get pictures this weekend so I can post them next week. :)
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• China
25 Sep 07
Personally, I think it would be better to wear light colors to a wedding because it is a happy moment. However, there are also some people, espeically stars, they like to wear black dresses, which look also beautiful. Anyway, you don't have to be worry about dressing, just choose what you like and what make you beautiful. That's ok.
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
25 Sep 07
I think it is alright to wear dark colours, as long as you are not the bride or the star of the occasion (I suppose you are not the bride's fairy godmother, right?). Just dress your best and be presentable, and you should be fine.
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• United States
25 Sep 07
LOL, no. Just a friend of the bride's mother. :)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Wear whatever makes you feel good & is comfortable. If you don't want to be all over dark colors, how about putting something colorful in there like a red or pink tank/camisole with a dark suit? Accessories can add a little color too. If the wedding is a night time event then dark colors are fine. You don't need to look like you're part of the wedding party anyhow =)
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Yes, it is an evening wedding, but I am only attending as a guest. I decided to go with a gray dress. It has light and dark gray with silver threads, so it won't be too dark.
@justme777 (446)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I would say yes it's ok!!!
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Sure - just dress it up..some jewelry, a purse, fancy shoes. It is almost OCtober not May.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Sure - just dress it up..some jewelry, a purse, fancy shoes. It is almost OCtober not May.
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
26 Sep 07
Hello there, my answer to your question is: it is OK to wear dark colors to attend a wedding. The reason your mother-in-law suggested maybe it is because they like you to have an image changed so that you look more stunning and different than other occasions. However, light color may not suit your skin color or figure etc. If you don’t mind to spend a bit more on consulting a makeup expert, you may find the light color dress that really suits you. Otherwise, you can still wear the black dress but match with the light color accessories like: peal earring, necklace, white evening bag and white high heel sandals. Alternatively, you can use the silver, golden or red accessories in a set. Believe me, you will look stunning!
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• Philippines
26 Sep 07
Hi there paidreader! Yeah, I think it's ok. But on my part, I love light/bright colors.. It reflects a happy feeling (know what i mean?)since it is a wedding, its a celebration. But if you are more comfortable with the dark colors, hey, suits yourself. What is important is that you're there to celebrate with them!
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