Have I done the right thing?

Brava! I am proud of you. You should have done it as soon as you found out that she was with your ex.You deserve a best friend that would never go after your boyfriend.There are friends out there that wouldn't even think of going after a guy you like.She is out there so go out and find her.You know what. If I were you, I would go out the 29th and have fun that night.so even if your "friend" tries to contact you, you will be out having fun.

it's probably the right thing to do. In my opinion you're pretty brave to do so. As for me, there's one of my ex who is on my msn and yahoo messenger list, and I am so contemplating on whether I should delete him or not. We are still friends, but I don't want to see/talk to him only, don't want to know when he comes online, nor do i want to see his display picture. so i block him on msn and yahoo. I so want to delete him! I just don't know why I can't bring myself to delete him off my list, just don't have the heart to or something. When he added me on friendster, I didn't approve his request .

I would have done the same. If someone betrays me instead of getting all mad or upset and doing any revenge thing I just cut them out of my life. It makes it so much easier if you aren't in each others faces. My best friend from high school...and my bf at the time...did this to me. She is still....after 40 years trying to make it up to me. I can't understand why! Anyway.....you did the right thing if it feels good to you!

You should even ask this question? I would have deleted them both from every list in the universe. Go ahead and spare yourself of any trouble that dares to stick its nasty little tongue out at you. You Rock! Rule your own universe, grrrl!

I would have deleted my "bestfriend" from my life if she messed with me and betrayed my trust that way. I think you have every right to delete them. I know that I have taken people off my friend's list on myspace because they were there to check up on me and read my friends only blogs. People are so weird. You did the right thing for you!

A sad thing that a friend have become memory,especially one of your best one.I feel bad and a bit of complexed.I am betrayed ,and this is what I can't stand.Can I trust others from now on,and will someone betray me one day?I feel puzzled.However ,your choice is right.She ever betray you ,and there may be the next time.

I would have done the same thing. I mean why would you still want to be friends with either of them after betraying you like that especially the best friend. Friends should never hook up with friends guys no matter how close you are. You did the right thing.

I think in terms of your ex, good idea. They really are no good. In terms of your best friend, I dont know the details, but whilst I think it is awful that she hooked up with your ex, he was in fact an ex. I dont necessarily think that she can get away with it, but perhaps completely discounting her as a friend is not the way to go. Perhaps wish her a happy birthday, go out with her or whatever, just dont let her have the same amount of trust that she used to enjoy. Perhaps be friends rather than best friends. Saying that you meet heaps of people in your time, so I wouldn't worry too much :)

I completely support you decision and I would have done the same much before . Its very bad who have done such betrayl to you. there was somewhat same happened to me. Here the person I thought my best friend betrayed me. I can never forgive him. I have also deleted hjim immediately from my orkut list.

I think deleting your ex boyfriend and your bestfriend can help you in your recovery for the broken relationship you have. The relationship of your ex boyfriend and your bestfriend's betrayal. In my opinion your bestfriend is not a true friend. She should consider your feelings first. If however, that you will said that you already recover from your past relatioship then I think she will ask you if it would be okay to have a relationship with your ex- bf. But I think she consider first her feelings and figth for it over your friendship. Maybe she really love your ex that much that she destroy your trust. But don't worry you can still find many friends. The world has many good people. But I am still hoping that the three of you will have peace someday even if it is hard to restore your old relationshiop again. But I think it needs time and space. Good luck with your life and move on.

First of all, I am a guy and I truly believe you did the right thing. You need to go ahead and move on. You are probably someone who has feelings and really do care about your friends and your ex (at one time or another) but they have downright stabbed you in the back. This is not good. You did the right thing by deleting them, but I am quite sure that they will find a way to make your life miserable. Do not bring yourself down to their level. I feel that I can tell you this because this has happened to me too many times for me to remember. I wish you all the best and good luck. Find the friend that you are looking for and really "feel them out" because you certainly do not want to get hurt again.

Its a very good thing hat you have done i think and i hope and pray that all remains well with you too. Yes, i can very well understand what you must have gone through and this decision would not have been an easy one for you too, but i think its for the best, and just the fact that you have gone along so much ahead for so many years is soemthing in itself too. Its been a few years since you have broken up and still you were letting him in the friend list is something in itself too, and i think its better this ways, to let bygones be bygones and start afresh with a new beginning. Similarly with your best friend too, i think that you should let her go, as maybe as you said that she preferred your ex, over your friendship an that was not good of her, so let her be, and god willing there will be better pastures ahead for you. When God closes one door he always opens another one, we just have to wait and be a little patient i think, and am sure within no time, you will find better friends than these ones, but yes, you had to shut these doors, so that other doors and ventures could be opened. Hoping for the best for you :)

I don't blame you, I would have done the same thing. So yes I agree you did the right thing.

tag i think you shoud take a deeply think ,each coin has two sides,so which weighs more important on your balance?

I would have done exactly as you have already done. As for them bothering you,they must believe the old saying...*there is nothing like rubbing salt into the wound*. So I would have removed them, also. There are better friends to be found.

Poor you. It is bad enough losing a boyfriend but even harder when you lose your best friend. You did the right thing as it would be hard for anyone to forgive this. I hope you find better friends and a great boyfriend so you can put all this behind you.

It is always best to just move on. It is best to surrond ourselves with people who build us up. Betrayal tears us down. Move on and feel good about it. You are doing the right thing.

Oh my world, your ex- and your best-friend betrayed you? Or hang on? Was he your boyfriend before and then your best friend come into the picture? Hmnn... That's a tota betrayal in your part. Too bad, friendship is like a jewel. Treasured and keep for years. Well, it's a good way to start that you delete all your memories about your ex,,,that's a smart thing to do. Anyway, I feel sorry for your best-friend, she chose a boy between a real friend. Well, it's really a good news that you know how to bounce back. I admire women like that. try to look at this link... http://www.socyberty.com/Relationships/How-to-Get-Over-an-Ex.47768

I would have deleted them long ago! It is difficult to put the past behind you when you have a reminder staring at you from a computer screen. You will make a new best friend so I would not worry about her, you are a better person, you have forgiveness in your heart. Keep on smiling and let the old go, its a great start!

Hi dreamleaper, I think u have done the right thing because they have lied to you. U want to delete them from your friends' list, maybe you will feel angry what your friend done for you. Hope you can forgive them after year times because want to forgive somebody take time. So, hope you can enjoy your new life without them.