What time do your children go to bed?

@NatashaG (100)
United States
September 24, 2007 6:32pm CST
I am a 23 year old pregnant with my first child. I have a lot of friends who are the same age and allow their 4 and 5 year olds stay up to all hours of the night. It seems that every time I end up going over there( which is becoming less and less) things are just out of hand. Everyone except for me, usually end up drinking and getting wasted. The children stay up until the parents go to bed. We are usually out in the back yard and the kids run around barefoot and get ran over by the dog twice their size. When the kids are sick they don't really go to the doctor. One time in particular the oldest had a 103 fever and they just blew it off like it was the sniffles.. Anywho.. back to the main discussion.. Do you allow your young children to stay up until they pass out? Or do you have a set bed time for them?
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@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I have a 5 year old and I can tell you that she only stays up til 10 or 11 pm on a rare occasion. And its something like a movie party or a "slumber party" with us. But otherwise she's in bed between 8:30 and 9pm. My sister was like that with her kids and they had the hardest time in school because of it. As for the fever. I guess it just depends. You'll find that the doctors have their own way of watching fevers. If a child has 103 fever and is running around and playing..they don't worry as much because its not affecting them physically. But if a child has a 100 degree fever and is lethargic or its affecting day to day activities...they worry. And depends on the age too. But I still see your point. I don't like to be around parents that don't watch/take care of their kids. Congrats on your pregnancy!!!
@NatashaG (100)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Thank you Laurla.. I think that this being my first pregnancy and all I'm just seeing things in a different perspective. I've hung out with these people and they've had the same behavior but I'm just now starting to see it in this light that makes it bother me. Maybe because I'm now half way a mom..
• United States
25 Sep 07
Before my children were school age and had to get up for school each morning they were up all hours of the night because some times its fun to play games in the dark. but once school started for them their bed time is 8 for grades k-4 and 830 for grades 5-7 and then 9 for there on after. I give my children a half an hour to get ready and sso they are sent to their rooms 30 minutes prior to lights out. ohh and my children are ages 15 13 10 and 7
@NatashaG (100)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I think those are very good times.. That's what time I was sent to bed as a child. The oldest of these kids has just started school this year and on a Friday night is allowed to run about until four in the morning.. It just kinda pushes a nerve with me for some reason. Maybe because I'm about to be a new mom but I just think that that is a little ridiculous for such a young age..
• United States
25 Sep 07
I have a two and a half year old. Her bedtime has ALWAYS been 7:30pm. After her first week home, she started in her routine. Now, she's just tired at the same time, because she is so used to being put to bed at that time. Routines are VERY important in raising young children.
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
25 Sep 07
My son goes to bed sometime between 930 and 1030 every night. Sometimes he doesn't actually get to sleep until after 11, but he's in bed with the light and TV off by 10:30 at the latest. He just gets back up and plays sometimes. But as long as he is quiet, we allow him to. 11:00 would be too late for some children, but it is what works best for my child and my family. My son is a year and a half old, and I am a stay at home mom. He sleeps later in the morning, so he still gets plenty of sleep. Allowing him to stay up later allows him to spend some time with my husband that he would miss out on if he went to bed at 730 or 8. A lot of times my husband wouldn't even get to see him if he went to bed that early, since he doesn't get home until 7 or later sometimes when he works out after work. When my husband worked nights, there were some nights that my son stayed up until after midnight. That way he slept more during the day and my husband got sleep. That also gave them some time to play together in the evening before my husband went to work. We got a lot of judgmental things said to us when we let him stay out that late, but I don't really care. My son was a happy, well rested boy. He was getting plenty of sleep, even if it wasn't when most people thought he should be sleeping.
@youless (112496)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Sep 07
My child is three years old. I often tell my child to go to sleep at 9pm. But usually he will delay it. But anyway, most of the time he will go to bed at about 9:30pm and fall asleep after one hour later.
@llagosto (14)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I'm 26 years old and have 3 children of my own and a fourth i'm raising. My oldest is 10 she has had a 8 o'clock bedtime since she was at least 1 years old and because of this my second child got into this habit of falling asleep at 8 as well since he was 6 months old. I do believe children should have a bedtime because they need sleep. Also it helps parents because you can have your time when they are asleep. Most parents who dont have a set schedule in there home are usually the ones who's kids are out of control. Us as parents really need to set rules on everything our children do-including sleeping.
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
25 Sep 07
Hello Dear,I am grandmama,52 years old and I am sure that children have to go in bed before 9 o'clock pm.!!When you have children you are obligate to give them a healthy way of life!!Long and peaceful sleep is one of very important things in children life!!From the first day Children have to know there time for bed!!Mother have to do all to put them in the bed on same time everyday!!If you do that regularly and stay a little time with children's,they will go in bed happy!!Children have to learn that time for bed is different when you are a older!!
@LadyDulce (830)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I have two young boys and they stay up until 10 at the earliest. If they go to sleep any sooner, they're up at 4-5 in the morning. My boys run around barefoot in the backyard all the time; I know what's in my own yard. And I have two rather large dogs, and my boys like to roughhouse with them all the time. A kid getting knocked over every once in a while isn't going to kill him. And while I trust the dogs to play nicely, they're never around my boys unsupervised. My guys go to the doctor for regular checkups, but if they come down with something like a cold, I'm not going to rush them to the doctor. You can't cure a cold and some of the best remedies are passed down from the older generations anyway. If one of my boys are running a fever and have a change in activity level, appetite, or sleeping patterns, or I just feel they need to get professional medical help, they go right to the pediatrician. Otherwise, parents are more than capable of handling most childhood illnesses. It's just a matter of knowing your child and being informed. It comes with experience as well. A first pregnancy is an amazing time, but it's also filled with just as much worry and paranoia as the first few months of your child's life. I think most, if not all, mothers have been in your shoes, so it's normal.... but loosen up! Childhood is a time to explore and learn and grow, for both the kids and the adults. I consider it to be my second chance to see things from a kid's view, and it's incredibly fun. As long as you take some commonsense precautions, there's really very little to worry about. Not that it'll stop you, lol. Blessed Be and congratulations on your little one
• United States
25 Sep 07
I have six kids, and I put them to bed at 8pm on school nights, And 9pm on night they do not have school. I have found this works out really good. How every it took some time to get the kids going to bed like that. I had to stick to it no matter what. But through it all it was a good thing I did. I do not have as much trouble with then at night or getting the up in the mmornings. Plus the added bones I get so time for myself at night.
@vinzen (1020)
• India
25 Sep 07
Hi, i have also seen this in many parents, and i also have wondered as to how can they allow the kids to remain awake so late at night, and not take care. For me, its always been a set routine for everything, food, time, study and sleep time, along with set timings for their play and tv, and i think its always better this ways, and with time the kids also develop this habit and follow it as a routine ,and yes, whenever there are holidays or sundays and weekends, there can be a change of set routines, so that things do not become monotonous. When the kids are small and young, we have to guide and form a routine for them, so that they follow that , which suits them from all aspects, and if there sleep timings etc, are nopt set, they tend to get cranky and not get up fresh for the next day, mor so when they have school to attend, and that makes their qhole day dull and cranky as well. Kids dont realise how much sleep is needed for them, whats the right kind of food, diet that they need, what clothes to wear etc, we have to guide and tell and set all this for them, till a particular age, maybe 15-16 till it becomes a routine with them and they no longer require any more telling them things .