women and men - on courtship?

I kept giving this guy a hint that I was available, I liked him, and finally that he could date me. But he had given up on any woman liking him. He is not considered handsome and all the woman talk to him about other men they would like to day. He is like their big brother. lSo he thought I was just stating or complaining that I was available. Then when I indicated I liked him, he thought I meant like a brother. When I indicated he could date me, he thought I was picking on him. So I called someone else who acted as a go-between, matchmaker. She called him up and asked him if he was dense or what? So he explained. She told him to give me a call and gave him (with my permission) my number. He was very surprised and thought she might be picking on him or I had put her up to picking on him. But he called and cautiously started a conversation with me. We talked and we went out, eventually, once he realized I was serious, not using him to get back at an ex-boyfriend, or playing some other kind of game. It took a long time and a lot of confidence building, but we went steady and he eventually asked me to marry him. But I thought I was going to have to hit him over the head with an anvil to get the point! He just thought no woman would love him, just be friends with him. So he could not and would not believe it at first. But we are now married and very happily so. But if I had waited for him to make the first move, we'd both still be single or I'd be married to someone else and not half as happy.

In our case, I didn't initiate any move but when he told me that he likes me so much the first time he saw my pics and slowly fell inlove with me day by day, I didn't even have a second thought to answer him when he asked me if I have a feelings for him. I told him right there and then, "yes I do & I am willing to know you better". It was then the start of everything until he proposed to me and we got married. We both got NO regret. *smile*

I called my husband first, but in the course of that conversation, he asked me out. He also paid for many of our dinner dates. I don't think he would have cared had I asked him out first.

Of course for me my husband did the first move, and he courted me. I still believe in courtship which is the man will do the first move and the woman will just wait for that man to court her. As a woman it is improper to be one to initiates or show his feeling to the man she loves.

hello. i am in a relationship right now and we just had our anniversary. i am not shy to say that i made some initiatives to tell my bf that i like him. well we have a very long and complicated story. when my bf first courted me i dumped him and after almost 4 years i realized that he was the one for me all along. so i made some very obvious ways to show him that i like him. haha. now i am happy being with him and being loved by him. :) hope and pray we'll end up to be happily together for a lifetime.. :) i am happy to hear stories like yours ROUWEL.. :)

Hum,yes,the world is changing now,many women want to seed something include boy friends,but I like boy to pursue me,because I like to be taken good care. Maybe I didin't meet my true love,if I meet it,I may be on initiative.Good luck,god bless.

Keep smiling, don’t think so much about negatives. There is so much of it around already that killing will only add to it.

I courtshiped my husband. He was shy and inexperieced. Were happily married now and i would do it all over again.