pregnant friend

Oh i'm so sorry t hear this. How can the guy dump her just like that.. he is really irresponsible. Sorry if that hurts you. Mayan.. all what you can do now is comfort her.. she only have you now.. she needs you more then anyone. Try to calm her down and give her some encouragement words.. maybe try to get some poster of babies or some kinda books for pregnant moms and let her read that.. tell her its time.. she have to make sure the baby born in healthy condition.

That is terrible! I am sorry to hear that. It is very difficult to deal with such a heart breaking situation. The only advice I can give is to really be there for your friend throughout this pregnancy. I don't know about how the child support laws in your area are, but I would suggest you encourage her to pursue that. He helped make the baby, so he should support the baby as well. Just be a source of comfort and encouragement to her throughout. It is important she know she has someone to lean on. Take care and I hope she is ok!

Hi mayan_012285! I personally beleave that if you make a child you should be prepared to handle the consequences. Your friend has been a fool not to recognize the true colours of her lover and not insising on protection. Now that she is pregnant she should take the responsibility and think how she can offer a good life to the child. I think she would be better without her backboneless boyfriend who has no feelings for her and their child. She should keep herself happy because the child is no at fault for their acions and should not suffer the consequences.

I would just be a shoulder and an ear for her and if she is a young mom to be help her explain to her parents what is going on she needs all the love and support she can get right now..I was a young mom at 18 and could not have done it without my friends and family.

Why dont you make a report police or threathen her bf that you will tell everyone that he has made your friend pregnant if he did not take the responsibility?Maybe it will help.

Firstly, please help her to make clear that if she want this baby or not, if she will love the baby forever no matter how. Assume baby's father will never back, then she has to bare a very heavy responsibility, it is a difficulty way to go through. If she cannot or no willing, then do not let the baby come to this world. Just my opinion.

Just be there for your friend and listen to her! That is the main thing I would say, listen to her worries and concerns! People just don't seem to have enough time to listen to others, so you be the one that is willing to listen and understand!

ouch... how old is your friend? i think the best way to help her is to help her tell it to her parents. what she needs now is proper guidance.

Just be there and let her know that everything is going to be alright. If he is that much of a coward, she is better off without him anyway. I am sorry to hear that this has happened. But, it is not the end of the world. This baby can still grow up to be happy healthy and well adjusted. Besides, it is better that she know the truth about him now, that way, he does not end up disappointed the child later on. She can do bad all by herself.

Hi mayan, You must be there for your fiend, that is the only way. Do not desert her in her time of need. If the father is not a responsible person, then it's best that they not be together. Her health and that of the baby, is of the utmost importance now. Blessings.

LIke you have heard already a bunch of times just be there for her she will really appreciate it... Even if things get crazy try to be there for her the best you can.. She should prolly look for employment and such because after the baby is born she should be able to go on some kind of help (food stamps, medical insurance, WIC (WIC is great). Tell her to call her county social worker, (if she doesn't have one just call the county office and they will be able to put her in the right direction), but she will more than likely have to get some kind of employment to stay on these things as well. (I don't know how your state works or what state you are in).. Another thing she can do is call child support and they will make her list anyone that could possibly be the baby.. etc and then once the baby is born they will track them down and make them do a paternity test.. then from there they will need to pay child support or be given the chance to just sign off. which is horrible, but from the sounds of this coward -sorry- sounds like it may be her best bet... But good luck and just be there, thats the best you can do..

This is such a rough spot to be in. Thank you for being a good enough friend to be concerned and to help your friend out. If she is having trouble you might consider referring her to a local crisis pregnancy center. Sometimes they can help out with baby items, doctor referrals and just general support. Many are religious based but do not try to force any religious beliefs on the women who go there. I would suggest that after the baby is born she list this man as the father to require child support. The only problem with that is that then you run into visitation and custody issues sometimes. Perhaps he would be willing to waive his rights although he'd still have to pay. That would best be discussed with a family law attorney. The best thing you can do right now is just be there for her and help as much as possible. She is not only dealing with a pregnancy but with the loss of the relationship so it is doubly hard for her.

Well, this is a tough one. I can say that I commend you for trying to help her through this time. I am expecting a child in 3 weeks or less. I thought being on bed rest for the last month was a downer. However, I have been sooooo fortunate to have a wonderful husband, stepson, parents, in-laws, and friends through this entire experience. I can't imagine what these last 8 1/2 months would have been like without my husband and/or mine/his parents for love, support, and laughs. The fact that she made the decision to sleep with her boyfriend is something most of us has done. The deed is done and she can't go back and change it. However, if her plan is to proceed with the pregnancy and raise this child on her own, the more support and love she has from those around her the better. You may not be able to help financially, but just knowing you are there for her as a shoulder to cry on, or a friend to laugh with will mean more than you could ever imagine. JUST BE THERE!!! Also, the father of the child may come around and surprise you. Just because they are not together does not mean they will not both be good parents to this child. Keep doing what you are doing and good luck to your friennd.

I hate guys who run away in their responsibilities. I think if he don't want to accept the fact that he is already a father, we can never force him or maybe he still need time before he can accept it. Just don't leave your friends, always make her feel that she is not alone because too much stress is bad for a pregnant women. Maybe only time can tell what is good things waiting for her why it happened.

Well, this is a tough one. I can say that I commend you for trying to help her through this time. I am expecting a child in 3 weeks or less. I thought being on bed rest for the last month was a downer. However, I have been sooooo fortunate to have a wonderful husband, stepson, parents, in-laws, and friends through this entire experience. I can't imagine what these last 8 1/2 months would have been like without my husband and/or mine/his parents for love, support, and laughs. The fact that she made the decision to sleep with her boyfriend is something most of us has done. The deed is done and she can't go back and change it. However, if her plan is to proceed with the pregnancy and raise this child on her own, the more support and love she has from those around her the better. You may not be able to help financially, but just knowing you are there for her as a shoulder to cry on, or a friend to laugh with will mean more than you could ever imagine. JUST BE THERE!!! Also, the father of the child may come around and surprise you. Just because they are not together does not mean they will not both be good parents to this child. Keep doing what you are doing and good luck to your friennd.