Your money, my money, our money, who's money is it?

Hi Feona1962, my partner and I do the same as you are doing - sharing everything, the bank accounts and the mortgage, and loans. There is no "my money" or "your money" between us, and we never fight about who spends what, and I feel so lucky with my partner really, he is my dream guy, and never selfish, and always placing me on top of all his priorities for which I am so grateful and try to do and be the same for him :) TheFortunes

Since I am single and live alone, it is just my money. I do deposit my paycheck each month and pay bills first. Whatever is left gets budgetted out by the week since I only get paid once a month. I then allow myself that weekly amount to buy clothes, eat out, see a movie, etc. Sometimes I will save the extra for a few weeks and go away for a weekend.

I pay the rent and the car payment. I also buy part of the groceries and pay for any gifts that need to be purchased. He pays for cable/internet, phone, lights, heating, car insurance and groceries. Whatever is leftover after we put gas in the cars and food on the table goes in the bank for a rainy day.

We do it the same way you do it. I don't make that much money though.LOL. At my son's house its very different and sometimes I want to slap him upside the head. LOL. He thinks his money is his money and his girlfriends is hers. He pays his share of the bills but doesn't like to contribute to anything else. I raised him better than that but he has his father's stubborn stupidity. LOL

Money is shared in our house. I work and she goes to school full time but it has never been a your money my money type thing. She does our budget and makes sure the bills are paid. If there is something she wants or something I want then we go and get it. We are a partnership and thats how our home is run, there is no one person greater than the other, we both have equal say in what happens.

I give the same amount of money to my boyfriend every week and he pays everything. Since hemake 3x more then me, of course he pays more then me. Even if e pay and buy more thing the me, I still buy things for the house. When I buy him stuff at wal-mart, I never ask him to pay me back :P

It's our money in our household,but I do have a I can take care of myself with or without my spouse account for myself. It's no secret he knows that I have it and it does not bother him.

I've had it both ways. In my first marriage I didn't work so my husband took care of all the financial business. Second marriage it was the same way you describe although my husband just put his money in the pot and I took the responsibility of making sure everything was paid correctly.

It's "our" money regardless of who makes it. We share eveything too and it so happens that he is the breadwinner and we pay off our bills first and the rest is left for whatever we need on a daily basis.

Well my wife and I have our seperate accounts and cards, but it's all the same. Just depends who takes their purse/wallet when the bill is due.

For household bills such as property taxes, home insurances, utility bills, broadband and cellphone charges, conservancy charges, newspaper bills, etc. both my wife and I jointly pay for these. When we set up our household, we opened a joint account with the bank, and both of us contribute equally to it. Then we pay for these regular household payments, drawing from this account. If we buy things for the household such as supermarket items, we will also draw the money from this account. Equal sharing works well for us.

Hello Feona1962, We are also practising the same thing. We share to pay our bills and the balance is up to us, how we want to spend it. But my husband is not a compulsive buyer like me and so he always has more money left with him compare to me!

Money... actually it is not ours. The money is only come and go. Like what people said, easy come easy go... :P. We just only hold the money for a moment. The money come, and we will distribute them to utility(bills), bank(loans), s.market(household)... etc.

I have all my bills paid automatically every month from my bank account. I am not married but I do live with my boyfriend. He pays half of the bills but he just gives me a check at the end of the month for the bills I pay. I don't know what we will do if we get married. He will make more money then I will so I will probably pay the bills still but he will pay more of them. That is the plan

thats the best way to go for I dont get it this is my money this is your money if you live together it is our money to buy or pay for what ever you need,

Hi Feona! We put our money together to. So we are both in the checking account together and we both pay bills. If I see a bill has to be paid I will write a check out. And vice versa. Thats the way it should be.

That's what we do too. We each get our own "spending money" to do with what we wish, after all the bills are paid and groceries are bought. Annie

Mine is different. I pay every bill plus give an allowance for my wife (for her make up, clothes etc). Just I always give my wife a chance to help me financially if she willing to..