Dealing with a jealous ex-wife

I tried calling her a few months ago. I left a voice messge and just asked her if we could try to communicate better for the sake of the children. I told her what wonderful children she has etc.. SHE CALLED AND THREW A FIT TO MY BOYFRIEND. I AM NEVER TO CALL HER AGAIN. =-( I don't think there is any hope. Thanks for the response.

I disagree. I have seen both sides. I divorced and signed those papers. My choice. If you ARE a good mom, NO ONE will ever take your place. You realize you may remarry a man, don't you think your ex husband may feel another man may take his place!!!!!! I was never jealous of my ex husbands new wife! It's about my kids. NOT ME. They have since divorced. My kids still love her. My new husband had never been married or ha children else where. Now my daughter is 13 years younger than her bf. they have been together for 2 years. She is a school teacher and would never try to take the place of this woman. Yet this woman ha done nothing but complained about my daughters age and tried to dig up anything from the past to run her off. This woman dated 5 months then married someone 6-8 years younger than herself AND hangs out with Girls 6 years younger than my daughter. So you see it isn't age, it isn't she thinks she is trying to take her place. She constantly text her ex husband comments and my daughter is always the reason for any decision he makes!!! She also sent him a photo of my daughter and a group of ladies and said "cool". Why? She left him for another man! And frankly my daughter isn't going to leave! So she is the joke at all friend/family get-togethers. The friends tell him if he ever take that dumb b back they aren't friends! The ladies discuss her and laugh. My daughter is very mature and not into drama. This lady has text, called and threatened her. We have told her that If it continues she will be arrested! So you tell me if this is a normal loving mom. And they trade the kids every week. She is a controller and when she has no control she become angry and text,calls trying to do whatever!!!! Guess she hasn't learned she IS remarried and he is in love with my daughter and she has NO powers here. Lol. So moral is be happy in your life. The man has to control the crazy. Don't focus on the crazy and be happy. Don't make her the center of your world, as she makes you the center. She is only Jealous!!!.

This is an old post again but I find myself in similar situation only last year. The funny thing is: my husband divorced his ex-wife 12 years ago! She was unfaithful and wanted him out of her life then. For 12 years he was an absolute wreck and she was able to control him. It's like she doesn't want him but would like him to be at her beck and call in the name of the children. This continued till he found me, and she tried several times to break us up because I taught my husband how to say NO to her! I guess ex-wives are called ex for a good reason. They should stay as their titles: in the past. Luckily my husband now wakes up to what she is really like and we are now fighting her together. However we still live in constant fear of what she would do next. I've even talked my husband into giving up on his 2 teenage sons. They will be adults soon, and they will leave their parents anyway.

I found out the hard way and my partner and me split up because the ex wife had all the control, even though she left the marriage, had an affair with a woman!! The 4 children and their Dad were put through hell, literally. I lived with him and the children, briefly, the ex-wife's influence and control freak behaviour was too much. I had a lot of health problems, which are on going and I was getting very little support from my partner. I worked full time, (still do) cooked, cleaned and shopped and supported their Father on every level and never asked for anything in return. He was my absolute priority and due to his job in the military, he needed all the help he could get as the ex wife DID NOTHING to help. NOTHING. We eventually had to resolve matters with the solicitor due to harrassment and threatening behaviour from the ex wife. This all got turned on me, in the end, the children turned against me and then eventually their Father. It has been an awful year and I had to go to hospital for my third surgery. I miss my ex, so so much, but I cannot go back to that hellish situation. If your man doesn't support you over the ex, then you can forget it, it will be doomed until you take serious action and firmly stand up for yourself as nobody else will. Do not be a doormat. It's awful and it's the last thing anyone wants. My ex was never going to tell me the truth about his ex wife as he knew I would leave from the start if I found out. It happened. Hopefully he will wake up and realise what he has lost. His ex wife was the one who ruined him with her deceit and lies. Ex wives get personality disorders and you end up dragged down with it all. Unless your boyfriend/husband takes absolute control of the situation and stops the ex wife interfering and the children for that matter. I hope he wakes up some day, for himself more than anything. It's amazing what some people will put up with for "the sake of the children". That is absolute rubbish. Children get far more stressed and anxious and hurt in the longterm with a Mother they cannot trust or are being manipulated by. It's sad as they cannot see it or understand it. I agree, if you meet a man with an ex wife and children then he comes as a 'package' not necessarily 'baggage' but at the same time, these ex wives became an ex for a reason, i.e they signed the divorce papers and knew what would be in store for the future too. That is why their is decree nisi and decree absolute in the course of Law. They wanted the divorce just as much. Then their ex husband moves on, someone else comes on the scene and the ex wife goes crazy?! its like they are the 'boss' because they WERE married. MOVE OVER RED ROVER!!! Get over it and do yourselves a favour and believe in your marriage vows or don't bother nor jumping up an down, stamping your feer when you don't get your way and use your children to weild your hurt and anger. I guess some women thrive off bitterness and jealousy and regret. It's best to get out of the way of it or it will end up causing too much pain and hurt. You end up stressed out, hurt and vulnerable, when all you did was fall in love...