38 Year old Female with 25 year old male

I'm 33 and my hubby is 26, I too was concerning myself with things like that. When we got together he was almost 21 and I was 27 with a kid, at that point in time I was concerned he wouldn't want to be tied down with a woman with a child. Obviously, I was wrong. My advice to you is not to worry about things like that. We have no control over them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and even though you age it doesn't mean he will find you any less attractive. Shoot, I don't look like I did when I was 27 and my hubby still chases me around like we're teenagers! If it feels right and the relationship is strong why not get married?

You really shouldn't worry about what may or may not happen in the future - relationships can founder at any time and for any reason. You could be with a guy your own age and it may still go wrong one day - accept that he loves you and wants to marry you and if you want that then go for it!

If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him go for it. Dotn worry about the age the guy knows what he wants you are the choice he made. Congrats!

All I can say is that don't mind the age difference between the two of you instead try to weigh his maturity level in handling things in the relationship. As for me, I consider more the maturity level and how he handles things especially if there are problems because you have to remember there are a lot of different struggles and decisions that we will make in our marriage life and cowards are not welcome. hehehe. Guess what, we are in the reverse situation. My husband is 37 and I'll be turning 24 this january. We are married June of this year and was engaged for a year and half. I don't hella care with our age difference. And like you he doesn't look in his age.

There are pleanty of people in relationships that have very different ages. I think it is about what you feel is right. My best friend is 29 in love with a 39 year old. He has decided to change his life to be with her. Our looks will age just like he will and the truth is you want a friend to be by your side no matter what you look like. So the question is do you think he is going to be that friend?

if you love him why does it matter?

As the society is developing ,there are more and more people getting married like ur case,nowdays people is getting start to accept the truth, why can't u matter the age so much? I know ur hesitance,life is full of the unpredictable, u can't control everything in the future, so just ask yourself:"Do u really love him?Do u wanna be together with him no matter what happen in the tomorrow?Do u trust him ?"If the answer is yes, there is no problem between u and him any more, just beleive yourself and him, several years later, if he changed, don't regret ur choose , coz that's ur choose , but i really hope that could never happen, i wish u can get happiness,best regards!

Age does not matter if you both like each other. I think it will not become a problem. If he really wants to marry you, and love you, this will be OK i hope. Few people get afraid about this but its ok.

As for the relationship per se, there should be no problem. But I have to admit marriage is a different, much bigger thing. And if you do have apprehensions then don't rush into it. Take time to address your concerns and when you feel more secure with him, go ahead and follow your heart.

Age shouldn't be a big problem for the marriage. Nobody can make sure what will happpen tomorrow. At least if you think right now you love each other deeply, and it's just fine to get married. Thinking a lot of this kind of issues won't be much more helpful. Marriage is a feeling. The love can't be analysed and you can't judge it by your logic.

It totally depends on you both, however the fact is that over the period of time, age will tell and as he grows up, you will grow older. Much as he may say no today, the chances of it happening are there, so just think carefully. He should not be looking at a mother figure in you. There are lots of cases where youngsters are attracted to elder women to find a mother figure in them. If you do marry him, you have to be mentally prepared for anything. Good Luck to both of you. Think carefully before you jump into wedlock.

My mother is nine and a half years older than my father (not 10- as my mother will always remind us). They have lived a long and happy life together. They had three daughters, 11 grandchildren and I've lost count how many great grandchildren. If you really love each other age does not matter. I believe that by watching my parents.

I am 38, my husband will be 30 this November. Age doesn't make a difference! I used to worry about it but now it's like the saying goes, "Age ain't nothing but a number". Enjoy your life!! As long as both of you are happy & truly love each other, age makes no difference.

It seems that you still don't know him and understand him well. Even you are not sure if you love each other and want to stay for a period of time. Before that, please make clear that if you two can agree and accept your different view of value. It is not the problem relate to age, but I will never marry a male younger than me.

havent been in the situation myself really. I declined starting a relationship with a much younger girl myself. But my friends neighboor is 34 and with a guy at 26, and they seem to work out very well. I dont mind big differences in ages. Not at all. My parents are 18 years apart, and they work well together too. They have silver wedding (25years) upcoming next week. I just dont see myself in it. Dont let yourself be bothered by any age differences. The relationship wont hurt because of it, if both are aware of it (and Im pretty sure you are :D).

My sister-in-law is 6 years older than her husband. She's 37 and he's 31. What we do notice about their relationship is that there really is a marked difference in terms of maturity. She is the one who gives direction to their relationship. Since he's younger, he can still be selfish sometimes so she keeps him in line and helps him focus on their family. We don't know where it'll lead but if you're the type who wants a firm hand instead of being the one to provide it, then the maturity of your partner will be a factor on whether you should get married or not. I want to believe that love solves everything but unfortunately it doesn't guarantee a smooth relationship. But I do believe that you should trust your heart and not get married if you have any doubts.

My husband is about 6 years younger than me and I believe acts very mature and responsible. I do not have to take control of the relationship and lead with a firm hand like the previous poster stated. We take equal responsibilities in the relationship. We have been together for almost 10 years and any issues we have had would have been had regardless of age. When we first started dating I too thought one day as we got older he would leave me for a younger woman but as our relationship progressed I realized it has absolutely nothing to do with age and everything to do with the two individuals involved in the relationship. So yes in the begining the age thing will bother you because of what you have been bombarded with in the public eye but take age out of the equation and take a good look at him and ask yourself is this the person I could spend my life with, then take all the annoying things he does and ask yourself are these things I can put up with. If the answer is yes to both than go for it. Every relationship is going to have its bumps but age isn't a bump it is a state of mind. At least that is how I feel, and to be honest having a younger husband makes me feel much younger:)