Does your Pre-Teen/Teenager have you ready to pull your hair out?

Mine will be 12 next month. I need to hang a sign on her door that says "House of the Perpetual Huff". She doesn't argue much, and is good about her chores, after several reminders and several eye rolls and huffs, but her mouth has been getting her in trouble lately. I also have a sister in law who is the same age and my in laws are having their hands full with her. She's worried about boys, etc..and lies like a rug, only they don't see it. I guess I should be thankful my daughter is more concerned with soccer than boys, and she gets good grades. As far as the clothes go I have a jeans and sweatshirt kid, just like me (thank God), but the clothing they make for young girls today is nothing short of vulgar. Hang in their Gypsy, about 15 years from now your daughter will look back and go "mom was right" and it'll all be worth it.

My kids aren't teenagers any more and I'm still pulling my hair out. The are 31, 38 and 40 and it hasn't gotten any better! When my middle daughter was 15 she came home one day with a pink mohawk! It was the style at the time but she didn't ask me if she could because she knew what my answer would be. Another time she had one ear pierced in 6 different places! lol...another fad at the time. Now what they do is a lot different since they are adults but I'm still pulling out my hair. When does it end? lolol...

My 12 yr old daughter is very much like i was as a kid..I wasnt into fashion and all that stuff and neither is my girl..she's a tomboy through and through BUT YES she drives me nuts at times...My kids have been through alot in their short yrs and in many ways have grown up very very quickly so they are older than their yrs if that makes sense..add to that the fact that like any 12 yr old kid my girl is caught between "being a little girl" and "becoming a young woman" and yea...she drives me batty LOL.. when it comes to how she dresses she's usually a pants and baggy sweaters type kid...which is fine...My son who is 14 on the other hand bounces between Punk and Gothish and he's the one who's a pain in the rump when it comes to wardrobe LOL Chores.....LOL they know better than to cross me on it...of course they try to push the limits at times but its short lived cause I get right ticked about it and thats somethign they dont care for at all...But they do try...and I have no problem at all taking away their tv room, video games, phone and internet privilages etc etc... I would suggest that you, your husband and your girl sit down and have an open discussion about your concerns etc....Let her know how you feel and what you expect of her BUT also let her speak FREELY and listen to what she has to say then the 3 of you come up with some sort of agreement etc....

My problem isn't a teen daughter, it's my 13 yr old son! He drives me crazy. I will ask him to do something and he always says, "Hold Up." Well, I can't stand that response! He then never does what I ask. He has a rude remark to make at whatever I am saying. I have 2 older boys and they never went threw this!

I have a 12 year old son who does the same thing about doing chores, and he is into thinking that he is the boss and wants me to do everything for him. I don't know what it is, but he is talking back and becoming too big for his britches, as my dad used to say. I remember going through a period like this with my parents, but one spanking and grounding got me over it real quick. I know that is not the answer today, and I have tried talking to my son and laying down the rules so that he knows how things go, but nothing seems to help. Hopefully these stages will end as quickly as they came, sorry I can't be of more help! Good luck!

yes it's possible for children of her age to behave in this kinnd of manner,but it's not her fault alone.Generally it happens b'cauz of harmonical growths taking place in ur body after the age of 10 or 11,& it's quite natural also.One more reason beyond this can b the enviorment in which she lives in like cauz of her frnds,seniors,or any other person who hav influenced her or cauz of certain T.V shows.U need not to worry about her,it's quite natural. I don't know her exactly but can advice U to listen to her hobbies,desires and other things in a cool and calm way and try to b in her side & on the other hand keep motivating her indirectly for the right asspects and convince her in a considerable manner by treating her as a frnd. All the best........

not nesscerlaiy my daughter. but i can say my younger sister, i know she drives my mother bonkers and by doing so it drives me over the edge!! and the worst thing is shes rubbing off on my 6year old daughter who now thanks to my sister thinks shes the teenage drama queen!! im 25 and already have almost as much grey as my mother does!! Between makeup and music and video games and food and laundry and not having enough clothes to wear and the 4 showers a day and the needing to dye her hair every 2 weeks totally differnt colors and the slamming the doors and the 'you just dont understand" man i ask my mom if i was like that and she gave me one of those you betcha giggles and then wait til your daughter gets older looks... AHHHHHH!

Hello gypsylady, All of my own children are grown now. Thank goodness!! I had a couple of years with 5 teenagers in the house at the same time. All of them my own!! This is when I was pulling out my hair. Now I am watching my children pull out their with their own children, how fitting. We have 5 children from 3 of my children that are 12 and 13. It amazes me the things they can come up with. The fads and trends they follow, the friends they pick and why, their attitudes about everything. What amazes me the most, is the difference amongst them. Happy posting..