I find that talking while intimate is sexier

Well my husband and I try role playing, you know like naughty nurse and GI Jane. He likes it when I combine that with dirty talk, and it as you said "drives him bonkers". Its just a little spice to a relationship, and makes it sizzle. I like to write what I call secret letters to him, and leave them in places he will find around the house. In the letters I write things like "I want you to ____, and then _____" All kinds of things that will drive him crazy, just stuff I think would be sexy if I was man. Its really good to expirement in your relationship that way you can get a little groove on now and then.

That is so funny, after eleven years all you had to do was say something dirty =) I love that too!! It makes me go bonkers too =) I have been married for like 4 years now and it is something we just started too, not every time, just every now and then. It adds an element of "being bad" for me, I think that is why I like it. I don't really have any tips though, it is hard keeping things exciting. I try to talk dirty to my hubby during the day, letting him know what I will do or want that night, ut it doesn't really work for him. He just thinks I am being silly but it gets me going tlaking about it when I know we are not going to do it right then and there. Maybe that would work for you and your hubby. Write him a racy e-mail or note in the morning.