Leaving a husband and a baby for a woman?
By tifluvnick
@tifluvnick (52)
United States
September 27, 2007 1:52pm CST
I have this coworker who I just found out is getting a divorce and leaving the company. I was curious as to why and it was because she is not allowed to date coworkers. I found out she is basically the company doorknob but then I found out it's a female coworker she is dating.
She has a 1 year old little boy and a husband, who also worked at the company. I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that I had gotten the complete wrong impression of her. I thought she was a family girl and takes great care of her baby. But to contrast I found out she had to figure out who the father of her baby was by figuring out when she had cheated on her baby's father. They got married and she had the baby then they recently bought a house together. He's a great dad and from my own impression a great husband.
I know I may be a little bit morally prude but this girl comes back from being on leave and they had previously had feelings for eachother. That's not my problem, it's that she's willing to leave her husband and have her baby live with divorced parents. Anyone been in a similar situation to help me make sense of this? I'm really just thrown back by it.
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5 responses
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Personally, and I mean no ill will or offense to you when I say this. But it is not your call, to try and make sense of someone else's life. You do not live in her shoes and are casting far to many judgments here of your own. Some times we find things out about people that we may not agree with or we would have done it differently our selfs, but that persons life and happiness is just as important as our own. Give her a break, and take care of your life, for what ever reason she does what she does it is her choices.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
27 Sep 07
Well seems to me that shes a hooch and she doesn't care about her family or the woman she is with now. She will see it eventually it's probably gonna take a long time for her to see it but she will and when she does she will have broken her ties to anyone who actually cared for her. i would just say don't worry yourself about it. Just think of it as it's her lifes shes messin up and no one can change her mind.
@tifluvnick (52)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Above all I worry about her son who is going to get put in the middle of it. I know the father/husband is bitter because he quit his job and refused to be anywhere near her. I just wonder how someone can decide in the time period of less than a week to just give up on a marriage for someone she has a 'crush' on. I have never cheated on anyone or had the urge to so I just have a hard time understanding.
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
I feel sorry for the husband and the baby. It's like the wife never really loved him. She just slept around the whole time! I mean, why get married in the first place? And the child is so young.
I guess we need to search for our true selves first before getting married. This is such a disaster.
@zephyr_6871 (5)
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28 Sep 07
I can understand your struggle to make sense of her actions or decisions. Personally, I find it hard to understand how a mother could choose someone else over her own child. From what you said, she seems to be having a difficult time staying with just one man. I don't know, maybe she herself has been a victim of neglect or abandonment. Or maybe, it's the novelty of being with another woman.
I'm not condoning her actions but whatever her reasons are,give her time to really find herself, to find out what matters the most to her. For all we know, she also needs help. Let's just hope that when she finally learns to give meaning to her child and the marriage that she had, she will still have something to go back to.
