I'm not going to bore you with the whole story,but....

hi,lightningMD.I am sorry for you.For anyone,this is an unmanageable problem.If I were you,I would do my best to take good care of her and let her feel life is still beautiful.Have a good luck.

Sometimes people do this out of depression, for feeling of being neglected and can't easily handle frustrations. They feel like being alone and with no one to turn to, so they look for what they think would relieve these sort of emptiness in their part. I guess all they need is support, understanding and focusing to deal with their "real" problems..

Sometimes I think there is no understanding people. Who knows why people end up the way they do? Perhaps it's a mental disability or a troubled past. Some people can get past their issues and some can't. I feel bad for your step daughter. Hopefully you and her father can break the news to her as gently as possible and maybe make special plans this weekend to keep her mind off not being able to see her mom. Good luck.

It is hard to believe but if you think about it, How long were they married for? Memories, moments, time is as long and valuable for one person as it is for another. Losing someone you love. Losing someone you chose to get married to. Having a daughter. And then, in that very split second everything changes. Confused, not knowing where to turn to. Haunting memories. Passing by places where there is nothing left but remnants of what was once beautiful. The lost loved one, with someone else now possibly in a better place. And? What does this person have. Friends, family, and pain. Even with all the friends in the world and the most loving family, it doesn't make the situation any less hurtful. It's very easy to give up on yourself at such a point. With nothing more than those haunting memories clouding your mind, judgment and character, escapism is the closest door. For 5$ a rock, you can escape for 20 seconds. Sure it doesn't seem much but is 20 seconds enough? I understand very well how and why people would do such things to themself and their families. It's because they feel like *they have nothing left to live for*. You can't shake such a feeling off by just comforting. They have to realize it themselves. And remember, people won't listen to things they just don't want to hear. "It'll be okay. You'll find someone new". The fact is, they're without someone at the very moment and that is a scary thing to deal with. People won't leave their abusive spouses for just that reason. Send that woman my regards. And if possible, a hug as well. Cause the best thing you can do for a person in that situation, is to be there for them and continuing to comfort them even if it doesn't change their mindset.

i am sorry for you, anyhow ,people should responsible for his or her family, she have a daughter ,how can she do such this thing,if let her daughter know that,just meke her upset and disppointed