Does My mom Love me Less

First of all, I'm sorry for your situation .. yours and most especially your mothers. With that said, let me assure you that most children believe they are singled out, or that their siblings are preferred. I always felt that way too, and for similiar reasons. My mother divorced my father shortly after I was born, due to severe abuse. I felt, growing up, that she treated my younger brothers better than me because I was a reminder of the abuse she'd gone through with my father. I kept that mindset for years, and the only person it hurt was myself. Especially considering it's untrue. I notice your nickname has the word 'mom' in it. Does that mean you're now a mother? If so, can you tell me that having two children or more would cause you to love one any less? The maternal instinct is strong .. we love our children. No matter how rotten they can be, no matter what painful memories we attach to them, we don't love them any less. It's no different for your mother. Her not speaking of it to you seems to be simply either trying to spare you some difficult and painful details, and likely her own pain and inability to discuss a very painful time in her past. Try to remember. Regardless of how bad the situation was, she chose to have you, and keep you, when there were other choices she could have made. That alone is testament to her feelings for you. I really think you need to talk to her, honestly and openly, remembering that the entire situation is probably very difficult for her to discuss. Only after you hear it from her own mouth that she loves you unconditionally will you completely believe it. Best of luck.

Hi noeliasmom. Don't feel sad. Your mother really loves you. You just feel that you are less love but the truth is she really loves you and she cares for you a lot. A lot of parents now a days don't care for their children. They just don't care what their children will be. There are also a lot of street children because they were abandoned by their parents. You're lucky enough to have your mom. She petted you when you were still small. She gave birth to you. You should be happy and give thanks to the Lord that you still have a parent who cares so much for you. Have a nice day and God speed!

noticed no one else said it but if you ever want to go for holidays in another country you will need a passport and will need that information and more to get it. you might just bring back bad memories when your mother looks at you but don't think deep down that she loves you any less cause if she did could have given you away or had an abortion at the time it happened. you seem older and it might seem like your not getting treated like the others but maybe your mom does't think you need to be treated the same anymore as you are older and have a child to bring up yourself. could be just the way you are seeing things from your point of view. take care my young friend...

I think your Mom loves you just as much as she loves your half sisters, but she is still hurting from the rape. THis was a trumatic experience that has left her Scared. Now that you know the story you can Help your mom to Accept and Forgive your Father for the wrong that he did. Let your mom know that you Love her very much. Be there for your mom whenever you get a chance.Try to understand the pain your mom went through. Send her thoughts of Love, and don't expect too much. If you are able to do these things, your mom will soon begin to respond to your thoughts of Love.

i am regret for that and maybe you should not know the truth ,all the mom must love his child ,so your mom is .you should understand her

I think maybe the existence of you wii remind your Mother the terrible memory . So I don't think your Mum don't love you,but she could not forget that experience. just try your best to tell your mum how much you love her and let her feel your love. that is the solution.

As a mom let me assure you that your mom does love you. she kept you didn't she? we love each child differently because thay are all different. That doesn't mean we love one less that the other. We are expected to treat each child the same but we can't because they are all didderent. With great delecaticy talk to your mon. it might be that if she tries to talk about what happened she ends up crying and can't talk about it. You should let her know that you love her.

I think that she loves you. She had a good reason not to speak of him. Maybe she was trying to avoid you feeling the way that you do now so that why perhaps she did not want to talk about it. I think one day you and your mom should sit down and have a talk. Tell her what you are feeling. Ask her if she loves you the same as your other sisters? Just hearing her tell you how much she loves you should really do you well.

noticed no one else said it but if you ever want to go for holidays in another country you will need a passport and will need that information and more to get it. you might just bring back bad memories when your mother looks at you but don't think deep down that she loves you any less cause if she did could have given you away or had an abortion at the time it happened. you seem older and it might seem like your not getting treated like the others but maybe your mom does't think you need to be treated the same anymore as you are older and have a child to bring up yourself. could be just the way you are seeing things from your point of view. take care my young friend...

Though I can understand the pain, it is not fair for your mother to love you less than your sisters. The rape was no fault of your own. You yourself had your share of difficulty growing up not having a father figure. Prove to your mother that you didn't inherit your father's negative traits and she will be very proud of you.

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if you are 21 then you should realize that parents don't treat all their children alike..even with the same father and mother each child is treated a little differently...for a long time I was the youngest child with two older brothers and an older sister and I was "the baby of the family" for 14 years..i hated it..and so did my older brothers and sister..but that is life..then along came my younger brother and she became "the baby of the family" but by then my older brothers and sister had left the nest...their is always different treatment amonst a families children...it may not be fair but that is life... my only sister grew up to be a bitter and selfish women because she always thought she should be #1 and nobodies opinion mattered but hers..she had a competition with her own mother as she had a baby about the same time my youngest brother was born...and she wanted her mother to have an abortion as this was to embarrasing for her to have her mother have a baby ( my mom was 43 and my dad was 46 at the time) and my sister could not stand the competion..(in her own head)..but you can see where jealous feelings can turn into ruining your life? maybe your mother does not like to talk about your real father...you are opening old wounds that run deep in her heart...rape"?" this is not a good memory...maybe you should see a counsellor to get to the root of your problem...it should have been offered to your mother a long time ago...but even today people shy away from doctors as it is hard to find one you can trust..but keep searching...i have two children myself..one girl and one boy..and they are 36 and 37 asn yes you do have different kinds of feeling towards your children...it happens..it is called being human.. there is different kinds of love for different people..now that you are 21 you should find an inner peace you can live with...just because you are 21 it does not mean you will understand everything ...somethings you just have to take on faith. good luck...as I have a wife with issues too that i have to deal with...so I know for a fact that most of us mortls live our lives in quiet desperation..good luck

it must have been terrible for your mother. She could have chosen to abort or have you adopted, i know that sounds cold. She chose to have you, and I think that the fact she hasn't told you how you came into this world shows she loves you, she's probably felt she was protecting you. Your bound to have very mixed emotions on hearing this, and now you do know you should be told properly by your mother. Maybe it would help you to have somone impartial to talk too, your head must be swimming.