would you, could you cheat on your impotent husband?

@bdazzled (132)
Philippines
October 1, 2007 8:45pm CST
lets say youre married and you found out he was impotent. would you cheat on him? could you cheat on him because you found out he has no capability to give you a baby?
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6 responses
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
I really don't know if i can cheat him. because even before I married him, i will make it sure to myself that I am deeply in love with him and that I can take all he is. And if being impotent is part of him, then there is no reason for me to cheat him. Even we can not have a baby.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
1 May 09
I completely agree with you. If I love him enough to marry him which is something I dont take lightly, then we would find an alternative. There are so many children that need loving homes through foster care and adoption that we would look into those options to have a child.
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 07
i think cheating is not a good solution.if you cant handle the problem why not divorce? its much much better then cheating.besides i think there are other way to have baby, unless you feel you cant take the situation then do not cheat,get divorce.
@bdazzled (132)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
yup. you are exactly right.
• United States
2 Oct 07
for me the question is irrevanlut baby wise.. We have a beatuiful 6 year old daughter and twins on the way.. but theroretically speaking even if i didnt have them and he couldnt give me children. i would not cheat on him that would be moraally wrong.. We would just look into adoption if having a baby was that important to me... i married him so i would stand beside him regardless.
@bdazzled (132)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
exactly! i feel the same way. relationship is built from love. and nothing is more powerful than that. as long as you love each other, nothing can break you even if you cant have kids.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
WEll, I think in the first place he should tell it to me just before we get married. It is as if he cheated me. For me, I still stay with him because i love him. but next time I would ask him to tell me the things that i should know. Because keeping it from me, makes me feel cheated in a way. and there is no way that I would cheat... I would rather annulled our marriage.
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
2 Oct 07
Having a baby is not as important for me that i would cheat a person.Actually I am a different kind of person & how can i cheat a person just because he is handicapped by some physical problem.
@bdazzled (132)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
definitely right. you didint marry someone just to have kids anyway. you married him because of love and thats enough to keep the relationship strong.
• Canada
2 Oct 07
i would never cheat on my husband, no matter what the problem is. I already have a son of my own, and he has 7 of his own (which makes 8 altogether) . . .so i'm not in a hurry to have anymore children. as for making love in bed, that's not important to me. i'd rather have him snuggle me and show other methods of affection. if he was impotent, i would love him just as much as i do now.
@bdazzled (132)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
yup.. thats exactly what i feel. not all relationship gets ruin about this problem. because if you really love someone, the thought that you exchange vows infront of god and all. it doesnt matter what he can give you. its really how much he loves you.