Do you have mother and father-in law? How was your relationship with them?
By cristalkate
@cristalkate (536)
Portugal
October 2, 2007 12:42am CST
I don't have parents-in-law.:( My hubby's parents died in a massacre on their own place when he was 3 years of age. He was raised by his grandma, mom of his mom. Yet grandma died on our early stage of marriage.
I'm wondering how it feels. How was it having parent's-in-law?
Well, he still have brothers and sisters whom I love most coz I feel like I am their real sis. But I was away from them so I couldn't feel the changes anymore.
Speaking of changes, some say parent-in-laws changed a lot. Do they? How do they change? From better to worse or from worse to better?
I am very much please and willing to listen your experiences on this.
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12 responses
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Oct 07
I have my parents-in-law. They are just like my own parents,so nice and kind to me. They treat me like their own sons. I love them a lot like the way I love my own parents. They offer lots of help to my family and take care of my son when my wife is here with me for a month as I work faraway from my hometown. They are very nice and kind parents-in-law.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Oct 07
Thank you very much for your response, buddy.
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
You were always welcome buddy william coz I feel that you are a good natured guy like our buddy lowell too.:)
Guys like you were always be given a salute for you were highly regarded by us. *smile*
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Hi there buddy william.:)
It was really nice to hear that your parents-in-law can take good care of your son when you and your wife were out.
Since I don't have parents-in-law, but I was thankful too coz my parents were still giving their time and efforts for my kids if I will not be around though they were kinda busy at work.
It is so nice to hear that each of you were helping each other. :)
I would like to congratulate you buddy william, as well as the other mylotters who responded here for having their nice parents-in-law. I am very much happy for you are keeping them up to your hearts. :)
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@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
Both my husbands parents are still alive and i get along with them very well... unlike others who hate their in-laws... i love mine because they treat me like i am the very own daughter... they are also the ones taking care of my baby when i am at work... they volunteered to do this because they love their granddaughter very much...
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Wow, that's nice aseretdd.*smile* Thanks for dropping here on my discussion too.
Yeah as my grandma said before that grandchildren are most loved because they really missed those times of taking care of thier angels before. They said it was wonderful to hold, care and love a baby from her beloved children too. They felt something special on it.
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Oh yeah aseretdd, I agree on you that grandparents are good than nannies. Well, in my case, my parents were busy at work so they can't do it as always though they like to do such things. :)
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@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
2 Oct 07
yes,i have.i have a good relation with the mother in law,but with father-in-law i am not too close.she gave me a lot of advices,i can talk to her better than i talk with my mom on different subjects,she tells me more than she dares to tell to her own son.i guess she is a good mother-in -law,as she sees also her son's bad parts not only mines.but she doesn't fight with me,she tells me very calm if she thinks i am wrong
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Good day andre.:) Thanks for taking a step here on my discussion.*smile*
I remember those times too when my father wasn't talking to my hubby. My hubby cried that time coz he wished to feel the love of my parents for he thought he had atlast in the person of my parents. But sad to say that he was failed to have it, coz that was the time too that he haven't had a job and my parents were upset with him coz we broke financially. That is why we decided that he should go away from us to take that job offered for him. So now there it was. And my parents were good at him again. Well, that was what I had observed when he came back here for a vacation last May 'till the first week of July.
It is okay andre, I guess you just have to take the first move to approach your father-in-law. I think he will just having a feeling of fear that you will take away his loving daughter.:)
I wanna kiss your mother-in-law for showing you a good and decent approach when you were wrong sometimes. Mwwwaahhhh to her. *smile* It is because our nieghbors mother-in-laws here were not like that. They preferred to nag at their son-in-laws. :D
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
2 Oct 07
My husband's mother was my dear and close and wonderful miracle of a friend from before we even met. She loved me because her son loved me, but then we built our own relationship. We never considered the differences in our ages, our backgrounds, our beliefs... every time we were together we talked and laughed, and taught each other things, and shared joy. I have missed her so badly these last 6 years... a brain tumor took her from use, but took her quickly.
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
OOhhhh...that's sad too.:(
It is okay alamode; life were always moving on. Honestly I was kinda touch too coz you were best of friends and it is really painful to see them leaving forever.
Well, all we can do is to treasured all those memories and practice it on our own for the future too. I wish to be like that. I mean, I like to be the best friend of my children's partner too. I like to leave them the sweetest memories I can do for them.:)
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
You're very much welcome alamode. It is so good that your parents-in-law have you in their lives. You've made her smile 'till her last breath. Keep it up. I am so happy for you friend. :D
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
2 Oct 07
Thank you, my friend, for BR... I will keep it as a tribute to Mom Doris and what a wonderful person she was. She is in my mind and heart always.
@ssf12ster (488)
• India
2 Oct 07
yes my fathr in law expred 8 years ago. my mom in law is sick and require major knees surgery.she has lots of diabetes and high bp.she is suffering bad.she has 4 sons and 2 daughters and she stays with her last son.its better to worse only as far as health is concerned.cange in what manner may i ask?
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
3 Oct 07
oh ok. That's nice for yah ssf. Keep it up.:)
see yah around *smile*
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Ohhh my deepest sympathy my friend ssf.:(
At this moment, she needs all of you for at least your presence can ease the pain she has now. Always support her, and this is the time that you may show all your love and care for her. And always be there to check her health.
I will pray for her too.
Pardon ssf? What is it that you want to ask? :)
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@ssf12ster (488)
• India
3 Oct 07
u mean the change in relationship?if yes there is no change.they ly lead their life we lead ours.so i do not see any change at all.
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@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
2 Oct 07
My mother-in-law and I have a very wonderful relationship. Infact, I treat her like my real Mom. My parents are far from me so it is my mother-in-law whom I talk to if I need some advice. She is my friend and a very good confidant too, the point that I told her even if it has to do with her son either good or kinda upseting. LOL. In return, she also treats me like her own daughter.
Before, I also thought that mother-in-laws are always monster-in-laws. Well, not for me but to some it may be.
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
3 Oct 07
Aaawww! Thanks my friend marie for stoppin' by here on my discussion.*smile*
That's what I like to do too if I have the chance to have parents-in-laws. Like telling them if I will be upset on hubby. Hahahha I like your charm girl. Keep it up!
Yeah maybe to some it may be not that good. Well, maybe it is a matter of misunderstanding to each of them.
And good for you that you had lure them by your charm dear marie. It sound sweet though.*wink* hehehe
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
3 Oct 07
How lucky you are my friend marie for having parents-in-law like them.*smile*
It showed that they really loved you as they loved their son. Wow! I am so happy for you marie dear.*smile
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Thanks cristal! Well, I guess she obseerved how much I love her son and how good we get along together. Oh, and I forgot to mention about my dad-in-law. Well, he is very nice to us too. They are divorced with my mom-in-law and he is in California right now while we are in Texas. He will call us from time-to-time and he'll talk to me ask me how I am doing the past few days, if my husband and the whole family here in Texas is helping me to adjust with my new place and always remind me that if my husband will not treat me right all I have to do is to call him and he'll be the one to do an action. For me, those words of care and assurances are really very important for a person like me who is new to the place and have no family here. I am really very thankful to have them. (BTW, I am an immigrant from the Philippines and just arrive here in the US on May.)
@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
15 Oct 07
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's parents! That's so sad. I have parents-in-law now, although I feel like I'm still sort of getting to know them. I'm new to the family since my husband and I haven't been married for very long, but they've been very welcoming and nice to me. I email back and forth with my mother-in-law sometimes and we try to keep in touch since we live in different states. I would like to be a little bit closer with my husband's family, but I think that will happen with time.
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
Hello Sis ^_^. Do I still need to spill it out? Isn't it obvious. LOL! In my case im glad to say that i am blessed having a good relationship with them. hehehhehe... duh (blushing).
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
hahahah..Yeah I can also feel that sis. We are so glad to have yah in our circle! Mwwaaaah to that! and a biiiiiggg hug. hahaha
Let's rock our family! Cheers to that! :))
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@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
hahaha.. thanks a lot sis! yeah let's rock it and Cheers!^_^
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@clamarco808 (312)
• United States
3 Oct 07
Sorry to hear about your in-laws. I get along great with my in-laws. Funniest thing is that I was best friends with my husband's father's girlfriend before my husband & I got together. Everybody told me that my father-in-law had a major crush on me when I used to hang out with his girlfriend which I never found out til after I was married to my husband already. I don't know about changes. I haven't dealt with one yet.
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
3 Oct 07
Hello clamarco dear, it is nice to meet you here on my discussion.*smile*
It's ok clamarco dear.:) Aaawww! That was awesome though. Getting along with your father-in-law is a good thing that may happened. I guess you're the favorite of your father-in-law among your competitors. hahahha *wink* Great! right?
That's good that you have'nt dealt with those what they call changes from better to worse. hahah So that means your having a great charm too. hehhehe right?
@shy_gal (235)
• Malaysia
2 Oct 07
Hi cristalkate,
At this moment, i haven't marry so do not have mother and father in law!!
But sometime i will go to my boyfriend house. If his parent at home, they will talk with me with some topics. His mother will ask me try the food that cook by her.
Sometime we will having dinner at outside if there have any occasion. They will tell me do not shy, just eat which i like. They are nice to me.
ON this early of this year, i have go to travelling with his family. We have enjoy the trip.
Although i do not have much topics to chat with them, so i wish i have more things to chat with them in the coming time.
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Good to hear that shy_gal! That is good though. Building a good rapport to your bf's family will leads you to a better member of the family for you will be their favorite too.LOL
It is really nice to be their friend and soon to be their daughter. Keep it up girl. See yah around.
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@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
2 Oct 07
My in-laws are GREAT people. They welcome me and they're so kind even though we can't communicate well yet (they speak Finnish and I've just learnt to speak Finnish). We visit them every Saturday and my mother-in-law cooks for us and gives us leftovers. My in-laws are just SO NICE to me!!!!! It helps me A LOT, knowing that I'm welcomed in their house. After all, I've just left my family and friends behind around 6 months ago to be with my hubby. If my in-laws don't welcome me, I think I'll feel sad 'coz I DO want them to be my NEW family and I want to be close to them. ;-D
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
2 Oct 07
Congratulation friend ailema for having a new family like them.*smile*
I can sense that you will be happy together forever.*wink*
Oppps...before I forgot thanks for droppin' by on my discussion. I would love to hear from you more. :D
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@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
2 Oct 07
THANKS for your well-wishes! ;-D I intend on being happy, too he he he he...And wish you HAPPINESS as well even though you don't have any mother or father in-law! ;-D
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@christineli (525)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
I do and I'm lucky to have them. Not so many people have great relationships with their in-laws, I guess I belong to the lucky ones :)
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@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
3 Oct 07
Wow! I am happy for you christineli. *smile*
Yeah I had knew some friends that were not that good with their in-laws :( but I guess there will be times that they understand each other someday, somehow. And good for you that you belong to the lucky ones.:) A big hug for yah. uuuhhhhmmmm.... heheheh
Thanks for droppin' by.*smile*
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