Is it neccessary to have a baby ?

I think you should be applauded for taking the time to think it through, on all the angles, before making such a heavy decision to bring a child into the world. Good for you! It's a shame how many don't. Having a child, and raising it properly, is a huge responsibility. Aside from the time and energy invested, it's a huge financial responsibility. And a person can't help but wonder what type of world they're bringing the child into. I have some friends who have chosen never to procreate. I have others that have chosen not to have children because of the drastic overpopulation of children sitting in foster care already needing homes ... they've chosen to adopt instead and fill that void. Then there are others who've chosen to have their children. I'm one of those. None of the above are wrong. It's a personal decision that only the person involved is qualified to make. :) I do have to say that with your mindset, the way you think things through beforehand .... that this is the mentality required to raise responsible children. I think that if you do make that decision, you'll do wonderfully. That being said, whatever decision you make is the right one for you, and that's all that matters. I wish you luck. :)

My views about this is that the life is meaningless without children, there is a great pleasure in becoming parents and grow children. After few years of your marriage you will feel loneliness and would feel yourself to have children, think of those people who can't have them and go for various options like adopting a child etc.

No, it is not absolutely necessary to have a baby. A baby comes to this world not by its own choice but because we chose to have it…so the entire responsibility of providing a secure future for it is ours and on no pretext can we escape this. A see a lot of couple going on having babies without having the proper means of raising them. By ‘proper’ I mean a good education, wholesome food, clean clothes and a loving family. If any of these are missing, the child grows up as an incomplete adult. So if you feel that you are at present unable to provide any of these, please don’t bring another life into this world and leave it to its own fate. As it is, we have millions of children who lack everything in life, who are just dumped outside hospitals and adoption centers. If ever you feel that you can give your child a stable future then only take the plunge and if by then it is too late for you biologically, you can always sponsor some unlucky angel with money, food clothes etc.

Its not That silly. I know what you are thinking. I'm male, 74, a Grandpa, and I've been around. A baby will change your life. If you don't have your family when you are young, later on you will wish you did. Life is can be a difficult struggle, and seemingly uncertain, but things have a way of working out. My advise would be ... Have your baby as soon as you can. Things always work out for those who have a plan and stick to it. The extra costs, and the lack of income, will be more than offset by the pleasure of having your Baby. This is what makes Life complete! Go for it, and have Fun!

Kudos to you for asking this question of yourself. I waited for a very long time to have a child for many of the same reasons. Finance is a big issue with having a child. I am actually not having a 2nd one at this time because of money. (Which makes me sad!!) But for me, I wanted to make sure we were secure in our relationship as well as in the work we do and our financial situation before having a child. I knew between the extra costs at home plus the child care (which is expensive where I am) that we'd need to be very smart about how we did it. I still work (which breaks my heart) but we just couldn't afford to have me stay home with our daughter. It is a sad day in the world when people can't just have a child as a representation of their love rather than having to weigh whether they can afford to or not.

Well, i have not married. But i want to say i will have several babies after marrying.Because i think we should not think much about the future of my child and the pressure .What should i do is teach them moral charaters and the way how to live happily.I am sure if the person own the moral character ,the success wii follow him.I like the saying:In the end ,there are always mends.I also sure,if you want to enjoy the happiness ,you should like the pain that come with it.I like child ,they are the tomorrow .

To have a baby or not is a personal choice. Having a baby is a lot of work and responsibility. The fact that you are considering all aspects is a first step in the right direction. I have friends who have decided not to have a baby because they feel they are not in a position (financial) to have one right now. They do miss having a child around, but they fell that it probably would be worse if a child is born and they are not able to afford a decent standard of living...or maybe the finances would be so tight that they would not be able to enjoy the child or parenting. This is my friend's opinion and her's alone. I thought I would share it. This should be discussed with your husband and you should be able to work out something that suits you best.

My husband and I want to be fully prepared, too. That being said, there is no perfect time to have a child, either. I think it would be stressful to have a child right now, when we are barely making ends meet, but in a year or two, when things are a bit better, we will probably try.

to move ur generation ahead u definately need to have the babies, regards

I say whatever you're comfortable with. I would decide at what age you think you might want a child. i think it is a personal choice. there are a lot of people who don't have children, it's not a requirement of living.

It's up to you and your hubby. Just think it through so that you won't have any regrets in the past. I have a cousin who's decided not to have any kids. Now they're in their late forties and they're still happy and they can even help their nieces and her mother because they don't have any kids to feed on. I agree with you that having a child is our responsibility and we should be fully prepared. But if someday you have the urge or "calling" to have a baby, maybe you can just try having one. Based on my parents' experiencing in raising me and my brother, they also had financial problems, but then they said that God always helped them in the nick of time. For example: when I was old enough to go to school, my Dad got a side job and so they got enough money to pay for my tuition fees. ;-D This kind of experience happens over and over again...if you believe in God, then you should believe in His provision. OF COURSE we have to plan everything, we have to do our part, too, but I mean if you've done everything you can and still find yourself lacking financially, trust God to help you out. If you don't believe in God, I've heard some people's testimonies that life helps you out when you're stuck (after you've done everything you can again). A friend of mine also says the same thing...that blessings always come right when you need it, as long as you work hard, as well, and do your part. ;-D

I think you wud b the first one who dont wish to have a baby.every body in this world who is married lik to hav baby no matter what there situation is.there arepeople who are more poor than you but they are having childere,

If you don't want to have it, don't then. I do not want kids myself. Never like them. And I will make sure I make it clear to my partner, so after married, there will be no argument about having kids.

I think it totally depends on what you and your husband want. Don't let anyone else say whether you should or shouldn't have a child. I also think you are being very responsible by considering all the factors before deciding when/if to have a child. There are people who have children without thinking about what they will be able to give them. When my husband and I had our first child, we were doing well financially. Since our child was born, we had several financial obstacles that set us back, making things very tight for a while. However, we never regret having a child. It just depends on the type of lifestyle you want to live and what will make you happy in the end.

I think there is no other reason for having a baby than wanting to have one. Women who got pregnant and ended up aborting their baby did not really want the child in the first place even if their excuse is that they are not prepared to be a mother, a responsible one. If you and your husband want to have a child of your own, you don't have to worry about the future because your love for your child would be enough to nurture him and secure him a good one. You don't know the feeling of being a mother or a parent once you see your baby and watch him grow. Your sacrifices will be all worth it. I see some people taking care of animals but not people or humans. Why can't you take care of your own, coming from your own blood... who will take care of you in the future? Someone who can talk and can laugh with you, someone you can be proud of?

True, it would take a lot of money to support a baby, but if you have always wanted a baby, you should have a baby. But if you are not sure, then don't have a baby.And unless you are in your late 40's. there isn't a rush to make up your mind.And if you think you don't have enough money now to have the baby but you want one, then save the money up and when you think you have enough money , then try for the baby. But on the other hand, if you are not sure if you ever want a child, then that's okay too. You should follow your heart and talk it out with your hubby.As long as you agree , everything will be fine what ever you choose.

Your thought is right as i can understand that if you have a baby you cannot go for work for atleast 3 years still she attends school because she/he needs the immense care of you eventhough if you have elderly people to take care of your baby..but your marriage bondage will be colourful if you have a kid..before taking decision i would suggest you to make some savings for your kid before she/he sees this world so that you can provide all the comforts needed for your kid.. Budget the familys expenditure to meet the expenses needed when an additional member enters your family..Also consider age limit which is much essential as i have seen some couples postponing the idea to have kids and later go into some complications..I wish you go for it...best of luck..

well,i think children are not a must,nobody force us to have kids,but depends on everyone's desire.every man,every woman should have his own opinion if he/she wants and needs to have a child.but is better to think a lot about before having a child cause is a really ,really great responsability.it's a very important decision that will totaly change your hole life.so is not necesary to have a child,only you can decide and you can feel when is the right moment to have it

It's not a requirement or a law to have a baby, and you shouldn't let anyone pressure you into having one if you don't feel comfortable with it. If you and your husband are already struggling and both working, adding another mouth to feed will only make things more stressful.

i think it is neccessary to have a baby.the older,the more.because a baby can carries to you some happy and you feel very good when you play with your children.