What does marriage mean to you?
By SViswan
@SViswan (12051)
India
14 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Marriage to me means imprisonment. Once I am married , i am my husband's property.You can find and live with your soulmate without having to marry them.Here in the States, marriage isn't a social requirement.Here, there are many couples that aren't married and they stay together longer than some married couples.There are some religions that have a marriage requirement but thankfully my religion isn't one of them.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
27 Nov 07
Why does marriage mean that you are your husband's property?
I'm not against people living together if that's the right thing for them and they think they have found their soulmate.
Even then, what does being together mean? Being with your soulmate? Or sharing your life with another person?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Nov 07
Being with your soulmate means whatever the couple agree it means.For some, that would mean living together.For others it wouldn't.Where marriage is concerned, I am very old fashioned.It is done to honor the state and your family.I would belong to my husband.And I am to have the babies.That's the way I see it. That is why I am not the marrying kind.Especially because I never wanted children.My soulmate doesn't want to marry me, he will want to be with me.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
5 Nov 07
Marriage is the license to do that thing in life which is otherwise considered "bad" to our society - it's cliched, isn't it?
No that's not my perception and understanding of the term. Marriage is more subtle, deep and a life time experience. Marriage is the root to our heritage, genetics and propagation of race. Marriage is beautiful for the family we strive to make, its sweeter because of the love, respect and bond. For me, it's lovely for it has given me my parents and the love that we share with my sisters.
Blessed are those who are into good marriages and I wish all a very happy married life for ever.
Thanks.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
6 Nov 07
Dear,
you have just made my day. Thanks for the BR. I am glad that we are friends.
smiles...
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
30 Jan 08
LOL my husband and I actually CAN'T define our marriage other than "it works"....The way we have it is totally differnet to anyone we know ya know....I really dont view marriage like anyone else does, not by a long shot...I dont think its a necessity nor do I think it "proves" anything all things considered
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
31 Jan 08
Could you elaborate a little more?
Everyone's marriage (or any relationship for that matter) is different. I wanted to know the different ways in which a relationship can be viewed. If you've gone through the previous posts, you can see how it's so different for different people and the reasons stated for being married are also various.
If you don't mind, I'd like to know what YOU think of marriage(besides the fact that it is not a necessity or proves nothing....which I agree on).
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Nov 07
Marriage has a wide meaning. We only realise its meaning and its importance once we start spending our married life. Before that, it is very difficult to assess about marriage. All the things, which you have mentioned comprise marriage.
We definitely get a life-time partner, once we are married. I cannot say...in arranged marriages, all the partners turn out to be Soul mates of each other or not.
No doubt, it is a social practice and custom to get married. It has been going on since ages and most of us follow it as our elders have accomplished it.
Marriage is also necessry to bring in new generation in this world. Otherwise, the world will be over one day. It helps in keeping up the cycle of birth, re-birth etc going.
What is your own opinion about it?
Have a great day!
Deepak
@SViswan (12051)
• India
6 Nov 07
I've got a mixed opinion. Well, I believe that marriage is a joining of two people (soulmates or not) and it also is a social custom (which I personally do not want to change. It is a strong bond I believe which has to be built on (especially in an arranged marriage). Being in love is different and marriage is different. Most of the time I feel that the youngsters are in love with being in love and fail to understand the other's qualities and how it fits with theirs (can't blame them..too young and no guidance). I'm not against love marriage but I feel marriage should be given a lot of thought (from various angles). It is a bonding of two people, two families and different adjustments for different people. To people who believe in it, the strength of marriage is strong and can overcome many of the burdens of live.
I believe my partner should be my pillar and likewise I will be his when he needs it. It's a give and take and as faras marriage is concerned (for me), I expect partners to complement each other.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 07
Impressive thoughts by you, I really feel glad to go through your opinion. You are clear what does or what should a marriage mean.
@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Well for me - it's definitely that my husband is not only my soulmate but also my best friend - we can talk about anything and everything together!! As for religion - that to me in a marriage is not a great concern - as long as you are with a person who accepts you for all that you are - religion doesn't matter.
Of course we have been together since High School - so it's probably really different for those who have either been married before or consider getting married nothing more than a legal document stating that you are!!!
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
Marriage means a lot to me. I gave importance to marriage that much... too bad I've got a failed marriage with my former husband. I wanted my relationship with my partner to be under the sacrament of marriage so i hope we could do that when the time comes that my marriage with my former husband be annulled.
@SirLeandenor7 (79)
• Philippines
3 Oct 07
For me its purely a social and legal requirement. It has nothing to do with love. I don't think religion has something to do with it. I thik the system of marriage will still be invented even without religious introduction.
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@furqanoops (363)
• Pakistan
3 Oct 07
marriage is the neat relatio between girl and boy and is the legal way to make love and produce childerns, i love to be angaged in this relation, i don't like to live alone for my whole life like most of us want too
people don't know the feature of this relation that is why they do not like to be married
well havn't describe your idea about that what is yur opinion abot the marriage
@SViswan (12051)
• India
4 Oct 07
In my opinion, it's a personal choice. Personally for me, I'm a very private person and don't open up to everyone. I need my spouse to be my best friend and the one I can confide in and having a family is also important for me.
I didn't write my opinion earlier because I thought it might affect the responses.
There are people willing to live together without getting married (perfectly right in their opinion and I don't judge them anyway). They do almost everything like married couples, except that they don't have a legal license. But they are committed to each other.
Each one's opinion is different.
Some think they should get married for the sake of being married and can marry anyone their parents point out or someone they randomly choose themselves. In their book, that's right too.
I just needed to know the various reasons why people get married (or don't)and how they viewed marriage.
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
4 Oct 07
for me, marriage is only the start of REAL relationship. it is really up to both the person to save the relationship or not if trials do happen.
i don't really think of it as a negative thing, i think that marriage is the legal binding of two people in the eyes of God.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
30 Jan 08
I didn't see this one before, and I like it! I agree with what balasri said. For me it is more like soul mates. I don't really care much for what society says about it, but there are good reasons to give marriage a legal definition.
I'm not a big fan of Plato, but several thousand years ago when he said
we are like twin souls where when we find each other we become "lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other's sight even for a moment" he pretty much described it for all of time. I have been lucky in marriage and wish you the same forever.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
30 Jan 08
Oh yes! I am lucky in marriage...especially since mine was arranged....don't get me wrong...most people from other countries equate "arranged marriages" with "forced marriages". That wasn't the case....but we didn't have a long courtship and we learnt more about each other only after we were married.
@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
31 Jan 08
the object of matromny is happiness.
you wish her to be happy
she wishes you to be happy..
if momma is not happy ..then nobody happy
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
19 Oct 07
Marriage to me is a union between 2 people that love each other and want to spend the rest of their lifes together. those 2 people have to be comited to each other and have love, trust and respect for one another. The marriage is not bed of roses but it should be worked at.
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