When it rains, it pours...

Hi lecanis, I am so sorry that it is "pouring" for you and your family right now. I have never had this personally happen to me or my family, but they do say bad things happen in threes. Hopefully nothing else happens and you all feel better soon. Please keep us updated! Love & Hugzz, Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear ;)

yes when it rains it pours! this is not how it pours for me thjough things just keep going wrong and i never get a break everything comes in threes my butt. it just never ends. i dont deal too well with it right now being pregnant so i dont know what to say about that

Hi Lecanis, genuinely sorry to hear about the trouble your family is going thru. If you believed and were here in India, I would have taken you to an astrologer for some celestial intervention lol. but seriously, I can understand what you are going thru and I think this is more of a domino effect…you know the kid falling sick, the mom falling sick looking after the kid and then the dad falling sick worrying about the family. This has never happened between me and my parents (we are three too), and between our kid and us but strangely enough this does happen between my hubby and me. Sometimes its he first and sometimes its me first but invariably if something happens to either one, the other is sure to have the same ailment sooner or later. Right now hubby is suffering from sore throat and I had gone thru this some 2 to 3 weeks back. This stretches to falls and pains too, like if his arm is paining today, I am sure to have the same sometime soon. Thankfully kiddo is left out of this. There is a joke between us (I say it mostly), that when the time comes and one of us goes, the other is sure to follow very soon. Anyway, I know your house is in a mess right now with everybody sick and nobody to take care of anybody in particular (I hate the smell of medicine in the house) and so are your lives. But this phase will definitely pass soon and you will emerge stronger as always (tho the vertigo case does worry me, it does not allow you to lead a completely normal life you know) and till then I wish you three early recovery and good health. Sudipta

Lecanis, bad things come in cluster and it has been seen that we all suffer from this pouring at some point or the other. It feels helpless! Perhaps God wants to test our patience and perseverence and we do become stronger and braver. I am sorry to hear about your family emergency and do hope you all get out out of it soon. God bless.

I am so sorry to hear about everyone. I hope everyone feels better real soon. I haven't had it happen where everyone is ill at once. but bad things do come in threes.Do you have a favorite hobby that you can do?Maybe a time out can help with the stress. What I wish I could do is kidnap you to a spa for a week , but maybe there is something you can do that is almost as relaxing.Take Care. Hugs to hubby and son.

yeah it happens sometime,tough time for u no doubt abt it ,but remember tough time never last tough people do .lol friend

Perhaps it's stress that's at the root of all your illnesses. Did you consider that? What I mean to say is that when one person in a family gets stressed, and ultimately becomes ill, then the others in that family also tend to become stressed and go rapidly downhill healthwise. It happens. I've know this situation occasionally, but it's not commonplace for a whole family to suffer at the same time, I wouldn't think. I would imagine, Lecanis that you're "well up" on herbs and their uses, and the significance of certain essential oils. Try placing some pot pourri or burners around your home with anti-stress oils or herbs in, such as lavender. I think you might find this will make a difference. It's certainly worth a try anyway. Brightest Blessings my friend... hope things get better real soon. x

You either hope that someone in the home has a great insurance plan or that you all have some type of medical coverage. You then take the appointments one at a time as you can, the diagnoses one at a time as you can, the treatments one at a time as you can; and try to live in the Here and Now. I think that you and I have discussed before that people who say that marriage is a 50:50 thing are way off base. That is a very rare circumstance. For most of our relationships one person gives while the other holds up; knowing that when they fall down, the other person will give. And, darn it, Lecanis, it's about time Dusty started pulling some weight around the house! He can't go on being a suckubus (sp) forever! That boy needs to start helping out a bit. If he's not willing to get a job, he can at least help out by putting his bottles in the sink and folding up his blankets. You and your husband need some help! How does anyone deal with the stress? -Some meditate -Some drink -Some get high -Some write and/or journal -Some become abusive toward self or others -Some get therapy -Some exercise -Some go for long walks -Some isolate -Some ask for help in discussion rooms We all have our own ways, some are appropriate and some are not. If we choose an inappropriate method, we have to know that eventually we will have to face the consequence of that choice. I am always in your corner rooting for you. Don't throw in the towel. (Yikes! Did I just speak in not only sports terminology, but in boxing terminology? What has happened to me? Where have I gone? I want me back!)

About all I can say is to think in terms of being healthy, your family being healthy and everyone you know living in good health. I am sending you my love and thoughts for good health. And, of course, little snow in the winter...lol. There is only stress to the degree you let it be present. I hope only the best for you and your family.

Seems like bad things always do come in three's doesn't it, makes sense that there's a force behind it all... A couple of days ago i was battling chest pain and back pain, as well as just got over a panic attack, then we took hubby into an eye specialist and it turns out he's got early stages glaucoma, and nothing's ended up wrong with the roommate but now it turns out that the propane company is threatening to take away our tank, so it's not all health related but it's life, i guess that's all we can say. please keep updating on your conditions, i hope everyone's okay, hows the hubby after the heart problems? you and baby as well?

Lecanis I am sorry to hear this, Why do bad things happen to good people. I have never been able to understand nor have I ever heard a fit answer. There have been some pretty dark times in my life, and yes I have felt that snowballing effect more then I want to. But I think more important is how we meet it head on. How you meet and conquer the challenges is more important then the why. I believe in you and I know you and your family will come out of this ahead. Sugar my heart and thoughts are with you.

Hi lecanis, well like you say, when it rains it pours. Yes I've known that sort of thing to happen before. There was one year when I wondered if it would ever end. As far as stress is concerned, everyone deals with it differently. Blessings friend.

I don't know either hon but it does seem to happen that way. To deal with the stress is to take it one day at a time. That's all you can do really. Deal with one problem at a time and one day at a time.

Misfortune never comes singly.Sometimes we have to face with such misfortunes.Luckly,It seems not very seriously.Believe it is a challenge for your family.When you together overcome all bad things,you may find you all feel closer to each other than ever before:) God bless your family.

Dear lecanis, I am writing this because you will find strange but it is true. In our building there are five flat owners including me. A person living in first floor had heart attack. Within 3 months the person staying next to me apartment got heart attack and had heart surgery spending more than $7000/-. Next I had a heart attack. I had to spend more $1000/-. My wife had urinery problem and I had to spend more than $5000. My next flat owners wife had accident while going to office. That had happened twice. Of couse her expenses were borne by the office. This is the sitation we are living. I feel diseases are contagious. Subsequently somebody suggested to put a God's statue in front of our house as our house is situated at the corner of the road. We also put our God's statue. Afterwards we started living somewhat peaceful life till date.

Well, just as what you said in the subject, when it rains, it pours. Or let's say, misfortune never comes alone. Well, when we pass through the difficult times, we will treasure the happiness more and understand how good it is if we are in a good condition. Just shape up! God bless you and everthing will be OK soon. Andy