Feeling useless

I'm sure you do feel useless, but you have to remember that you are not well and need to rest. What kind of work do you do? Are you thinking of returning to that when you're disability is over? I would like to talk to you about what my husband and I do from home - it's great because you work around your own schedule! It was just a thought, and if you were contributing, it might help with your outlook a little more and aid in your health too... If you're interested, check out my profile and go to my website. Feel free to fill out the Get More Info tab and I'll get back to you right away. Have a good day!!!

Don't feel like that remember every thing happens for a reason and maybe the headaches are to slow ya down so nothing else will happen to ya it is okay to skip the chores they will still be there when ya feel like doing them I have very bad sinses headache and i know almost about how ya feel just take this time to resr your body and keep the faith things will work out will be praying fo ya God bless

I can't believe you got disability for migraines... I have really bad fibromyalgia where I get bad muscle spazems and a rare form of mono that I have for life that lowers my immune system so I get sick so easily I can't keep a job and I can't get disability. I think you should think about all the people not getting that financial help with their disabilities and the fact you do have it to help you not fall behind on your bills due to your disability. My husband has to pull most of the weight in this household. I have a couple of work at home things going but I don't make as much as I could if I could go back to one of my old jobs. Also you have a very supportive fiancee and brother. You have tons of positive perspectives on this issue. And I see you joined mylot for something to do to make a little pocket change. Count your blessings... I'm sure you have a lot.

I'm having pretty much the same problem! I've been off work since mid-June because of vertigo and hearing loss issues. It was originally diagnosed as Meniere's disease, but now they think it's a neurological problem. But since it's not something people can "see", other than me being wobbly and falling down and not hearing them, even my husband doesn't really understand that I'm sick sometimes. I have to try to watch my young son all the time, even in my condition, and often I have to make my husband get out of bed to do it (he works nights, thus sleeps during the day) because I can't. It's frustrating feeling so useless. I'm not really sure how to gain a positive perspective, since I'm still working on that myself. I just try to remind myself that I am getting treatment, and doing everything I can do to get better, and that's my "job" right now.

I also was disabled for over a year and I felt useless but it is all in the mind! No one judges us harder tha we judge ourselves. I was depressed and unhappy about the situation but it does get better. The key is to do whatever you can, when you can. I longed to go back to work and felt as if I were a burden to my family and friends, of course this far from reality. Just give yourself time and before you know it you will feel better about your situation!

I wonder if your brother and fiancee are really unhappy with you or are you feeling guilty? I have been disabled for about a year. My family is really great but I went through the same thing. It was just me feeling guilty and not them being unhappy. What I do is when I am feeling good I do extra things. Like cook great meals, do extra house work, and then that makes me feel better! Keep your head up there are better days ahead. Make sure you let the guys know how much you love them! Good luck!

You have very supportive people around you and you should help them to cheer up for you by avoiding the negative attitude you are pursuing in the feeling of uselessness-you are not useless, disability doesnt condemn anybody to a useless corner of life-your thoughts do and so avoid that defeatist attitude, it will make you lose your fiancee and even your brother then you will see what it really means to be useless. I live with a dsability myself xena251, and mine is a permanent one-just incase you want to know how it happened check this article, Permanent mark of October 24, 1993 here http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/105067/gabie_nic.html I insist, cheer up look good in body and soul for you r brother and most of all for fiancee!

You are very lucky to have very understanding people on your side. It somehow helps to relieve the pain that you are feeling if there are people who are supporting you especially when you are on disability. It is really depressing if there are no people supporting you. Try to consult a physician and follow his recommendations. Don't skip a meal also. I never experinced to be on disability on my work but I already have the idea on what to feel when I'm in this type of situation. Well, just see the doctor. I think it is the best way to lessen your migraine. Get well soon!

I'm disabled, too. I have cerebral palsy. Although I've always had my disability and led an active life, a few years ago I got really ill and unable tdo much. This was really depressing for me. I think it's vital to try to be as active as possible each day without injuring yourself further. I know that even on my worst day attempting to be productive felt better than just laying in my bed all day.

hey its 5 month now when u was in depression i think might be now u have got out from it and living wonderful life . i know after few time u get happy.

Do you actually want to try to get rid of your headaches? Talk to your doctor...I posted last month about how I stopped my migraines ... Vitamin B-2 is known as Riboflavin. You can order a year's supply online for about $10... then you take one with a magnesium tablet and a stress-formula B-complex tablet. I used to have 3-4 migraines a month... I haven't had a headache now in 5 months! It will take a couple of weeks to work, then be sure to take them every day.

feeling stressed,and useless.are noraml specialy when you are not used to your situation now.i hope you help your self.and be possitive. dont be weak, your fiancee and your brother never give up on you. show them that thier supports are worth..its make you more sick when you are stress and feeling weak.good luck. i wish you all the best and get weel soon. just dont give up.

Hi,hope you are feeling better. Migraines are no fun. I know. You are in treatment, then I beleive you are doing great! You don´t need to do more, just function on getting better. Useless? Noone is useless. Migraines & depressions are signs from your body. Telling you to look after you. Listen to your signs. Don´t worry about others. They don´t have those migraines. They are lucky! Take care.

Well depression is common in this busy world..though its bitter fact. So dont take it emotional to heart and try to come out of the past. Please dont give up confidence. Do yoga, you will feel a great heal and confidence. God bless you friend! Things will be better soon, dont give up.

Well first you have to get better then you will be able to contribute but untill then just relax and enjoy it. If you go back to work to soon then you might start to get migraines again. Best of luck

I can soooo relate! I've been on disability for almost 8 years now and have hated every day. My problem is manic depression and I was afraid to try to get a job even with the meds I take. I finally got up the guts to go out and get one and guess what? I'm working part time...2 days a week 4 hours a day and I'm feeling so good about myself. I felt useless and would only leave my apartment when I absolutely had to. Getting this job is the best thing I've done for myself in 8 years. Aren't you taking medication for your problems? It seems you should be able to at least try a part time job for to boost your self esteem. You may want to give that a try. Whatever you do Good LUck!

I feel exactly the same. I know that it must be very diffycult for my partner and other family members to understand me, because I dont even understand myself. I feel utterly hopeless and useless, and very guilty.