Who to choose? family or your love?
By erica41484
@erica41484 (15)
China
October 3, 2007 11:10am CST
It is quite an old issue that a filipino citizen with a chinese origin needs to stick to their tradition of marrying the same race. Some says it is just a matter of facing the consequences that will happen and to stand still on whatever decisions you have made. But when will you know if that person is worth fighting for? Will you risk your family for the present love you are having at this point? What does it take to face this old time racist thing? Is it really impossible to keep both? "Blood thicker than water" or "Love conquers all." What will you choose? Does tradition means a collection of proper habits or both good and bad habits? Does those habits meant to be broken or to be followed??? :-I
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4 responses
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Oct 07
The Bible says that you are to leave father and mother and be joined together and the two shall become one flesh. I know a guy who is both Filipino and Hispanic. I believe that he was born here in the United States.
It should be totally up to you to decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with. I understand that old traditions(especially racist ones) die hard. But, you need to do what is best for you.
@wishme_luck (249)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
thats hard, but i might say im lucky, i love my family, and i never remember even once my family interfer with our love life, my mom and dad are very supportive, and i guess becouse since we are young my mom and dad always talk about life and how to choice the one we marry. so as of now i dont see any problem with it reagrd to the marriage of my brother and sister. in that case , i think if your family loves you they will always there for you no matter what you been trough.i think i should follow my heart. becouse i know my family will never give up on me.
@infoguy (210)
• India
4 Oct 07
No Tradition Origin, Religion or anything should be a reason for both of them to depart....When both are comfortable wit each other, when both feel can live a life happily...Go Ahead ...Shud never give up your parents but indeed try to convince them............Love conquers
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
4 Oct 07
Ideally we wouldn't have to make a choice and people would respect what is best for us - or what we feel it's best for us.
I do not agree with any tradition that tells me I have to marry the same race. Why? Is my race better? Worse? We're all the same.
I have in the past been the subject of that same racism oddly enough from opposite parties - once because I was too white, once because I wasn't white enough - go figure.
I still have hopes that one day people wont' be holding onto silly things like race, colour, gender preference, etc etc. But we still have a lot to go. Meanwhile for my part, all I can do is to raise my children to be free of that kind of prejudice and to look into the heart of people, not their colour or race.
