do you think you have been a good son or daughter to your parents?
By joshboz
@joshboz (1209)
Australia
October 3, 2007 6:44pm CST
i know that being human we have parents and i just want to ask anybody if they think they have been a good son/daughter to their parents and that they you can say your parents are proud of you right now?
as for me, i have finished my college, i have started a job and i vist our house to heck them up every week in this simple ways i make my parents proud. the only problem is they dotn want me yet to have a girlfriend. i have a girlfriend and we have been together for atleast 2 years and our relationship is yet kept secret. i think sometimes i feel i still dont honor my parents because of this relationship that i keep as secret to them.
so how about you, do you think you have been a good son or daughter to your parents?
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22 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
Yes, I have definitely been a good daughter to my parents *wink* *Lol* I think I have. Yes there are occasional misunderstandings and debates, but I am always there for them. I support their decisions (though sometimes question them) plus I do what I can to help them out in anything they do specially if they ask for the assistance. Though I haven't been much on the financial side (well, they're richer than me) I have always been the only daughter they have and I am not spoiled nor do I ask for anything.
=)
Well, I think I have been a good daughter. But it all boils down to one thing ~ you must go ask them.
=)
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
5 Oct 07
your right but no need to ask them for that. you know yourself already and that you stated that you are good then i BRAVO you for that friend. continue to be a good daughter because if they know you are then they are already thankful in their lives that atleast they made you a good daughter and a responsible citizen. nevermind the financial side if you cannot support that much, love and care is not always shown through money my friend.thanks for responding.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
I guess there's a thin line at between being a 'good' daughter or son and about being a 'good' parent.
I think it must come both ways. A person couldn't be a 'good' daughter or son if the parents weren't very supportive at all during his/her growth stages.
I think the best question here is "Do you think you are a good parent".. hmm.. I think I'd want to open that topic. hehehe
=)
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
i think thats pretty unfair for your girlfriend to keep it discreet for 2 long years..but anyway, yes i am always been a good daughter to my parents..i stop my college due to i need to work and even if i didn't finish my college i have a decent paying job that can cover up the whole family for my monthly salary..i've been the bread winner for 10 long years now and i pay all the bills with my own money..i sent my siblings to school and i give them a nice apartment..i buy them things they need..same as my mom..so i guess there's nothing they can ask for more coz i never said anything nor felt any bad about doing all this..
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@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
hi angel, my girlfriend family doesnt also support our relationship and that's why we keep it discreet and plan to continue until we can justify ourselves for having our relationship. anyway, im a amazed because you are more than a good daughter but a very responsible one. you are the savior and angel of your family. if im your sibbling, i cannot really ask for more but ill just think on how to repay you someday for all the kindness. may god bless you angel of charm for being so good in life. i appreciate it much.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
4 Oct 07
Yes, I think I had been a good daughter to my parents.
From my childhood i have always respected them,
Have always look after them.
As now I am earning I look after their well beings.
I look after them and try my best to keep them happy.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
5 Oct 07
thats very very nice. i hope you are honest? ^_^ but i know you are. and for that may god bless you becasue you nave obeyed one of the 10 commandments he had given. to hear people being good makes my heart smile because it takes a lot of guts and honesty to say you are good to them.bless you.thanks for responding.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
16 Oct 07
I know I have lapses as a human but as much as I can do I try to be a good daughter to them. So, my answer is YES. I am a good daughter and I am trying my best to be one until they're alive. Even that I'm married already, my parents are never out of my life, in my plans. They are always a part of it. Good discussion here josh.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
hi marie i also love my parents very much and that's why im working hard and obedient to them so that atleast i can repay them for everything they have done to me. in this lifetime. wow i appreciate you more because you are married and i know its hard to divide time among your parents and to your husband and children of your own, but you do it. may god bless you more for honoring your parents and i hope your children will honor you too. thanks for responding and its a honor to make good topics.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
16 Oct 07
thanks josh, I am happy to know how much you value your parents. I just got married, don't have kids yet but I hope if i'll have in the future, they will also give me much importance. Right now, I miss my parents so much because I am very far from them. Despite of that, I am still doing my best to let them know how much I love them. And they're always grateful to that. I just feel very happy if they're happy. My husband is very supportive too, so there's no problem. Thanks God!
@redbubbles (329)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
I cannot rate myself how good am I as a daugther to my parents because I would be bias if I do. I am the only girl but I'm not a spoiled child so as my other siblings. We were treated fairly, without favoritism, except that our youngest has the good things that we never have during his school days since he was the only one who's in school when we have graduated in college already. I already have a family of my own and the only child living near them and I see to it that I visit them always. Their grandchildren are their joys now so I really make it a point to bring my children when I visit them. Of course we still have misunderstandings especially when the issue concerns their grandchildren but it's normal. I believed me and my siblings have been good children to them. We bring them pride, as everyone of us are succesful professionals, respectable and have a good, respectful families.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
5 Oct 07
to say and believe that you have been good to your parent takes a lot of god and honesty.and thats why i believe on what you have said. if you said you bring them pride and joy, put that smile on their face for just seconds is a remarkable joy of atmosphere in your family and its always a positive sign. continue to be good and god will always bless you because its part of the ten commandments of being good to your parents.thanks for responding.
@nadezna (203)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
sometimes being good means you have to respect everything but how about you? yes you love you parents but you also loved somebody to make your life complete if you choose to be happy maybe they respect you also as you respect them that's your decision but you have to approach them nicely if they didnt agree, do the best thing choose who's right being happy or being luck and tied to what your parents like...be strong and be happy GOOD LUCK^^
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
9 Oct 07
thanks for the tip nadezna. i will do what you have just requested okay no problem. i agree with it but how about you? are you good to your parents?yes or no? why? i hope you can reply back but if you cannot its alright also. its your choice. thanks for responding.
@nadezna (203)
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
i love my parents a lot i always see them as much as i can even i have my own family, it is because they were the only person i can run too the only person who can love me without hesitations accept me even i do bad things such as decision who mislead me in to trouble and also they are the one who really knows what i feel and understand me without asking what happen..they are treasures for me a gift no person can give me that's why i always thank god for giving such wonderful parents to me.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
17 Oct 07
you know jb-I can't honestly say yes to that question-I feel like I have been a disappointment on many levels but I won't know the answers to my questions until I'm w/ my true Father God b/c my Momma has passed away & I no longer communicate w/ the man I know as my father.
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@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
17 Oct 07
hi again meme. the best thing you can do my friend is to pray for her soul as well as continue to live your life in the right and better way. if your living your life that you know your mother will be proud and that you also love that life tthen i guess she is smiling to you wherever she is. if you had not made it for your mistakes during her lifetime then atleast live the right way after she had passed away. goodluck and god bless.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
5 Oct 07
I was a good daughter to my parents. I did get into a little trouble, but not as much as others. I do not want to talk about it, because I did not do any great things and I am still upset that my dad took the money mother had set aside for my university education and I had to get work after I finished grade 12.
Also I am not here to make points on how wonderful I was, had I gotten a university education, I could have made a lot of money and my parents's had they lived, would have had something to brag about.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
9 Oct 07
hi there suspenseful. gee, your father is bad for getting that very important money and that you suffered from it by working as early as 12. yes, finishing something is very important and hope you can still make a lot of money even not achieving this. you are a smart person suspenseful so i dont think you need to rely what you dont have but rather rely more with what you are capable now. thakns for responding.
@kishusia (1066)
• India
5 Oct 07
Parents are like God in Hinduism. The duty of a son or daughter is to make their parents proud of them. They should not do anything which might put their parents and family to shame. As a daughter, I lived with my parents till I was married. After marriage I came to live with my in-laws. My in-laws are like my second parents. They love me as their real daughter.
I have been a good daughter to my parents and is a good daughter-in-law to my in-laws.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
9 Oct 07
hi friend, yes its really through that parents are very important and that's why we must value them. i think almost every religion has law that requires as children to respect their parents so this respect is universal. continue to be good to your in laws as well as your parents and in anyways, may the gods bless you for your good deeds. thakns for responding.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
12 Oct 07
I was good and I was bad as a young person. But I think I made up for it by being by my Mother's side until the end when she was dying of cancer. She didn't die alone.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
hi friend. wow at least you made to do the most important thing to them, they accompanied since you were young and for any reason i think a child accompanies their parent in their greatest trial in their life. i believe more that you had been more a good person rather than the bad one. i hope some they if ever your a parent of your own, you will be a good one to them. wishing the best for you. joshboz.
@Nlearning (63)
• China
17 Oct 07
I think i am a good daughter for my parents.I and my old sister always bring laughter to my parents.We talking things happened surround us,change opinions,sometimes make a joke.Nowadays,i and my old sister leave for college,we all miss each other very much.when my parents' birthday,i will send a gift to them.They always be proud of us.I'm going to graduate from college,it also makes them worry about,such as my job,my marriage or my future.I will try my best ,i don't want my parents bother me about my future.I love them forever.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
17 Oct 07
hi friend.im amazed on the words you say,it expresses how much you love your parents. surely, you will do your best in life to make them proud. but sometimes you cannot also avoid committing mistakes. continue to study hard in your school so that you land to a great job and atleast treat your parents on your first salary. welcome here also in mylot. i hope to see you in ohter discussion or with each other discussions. god bless you always my friend.
@chinaman_ddp (90)
• China
11 Oct 07
maybe .i haven't be a man that they hope to ,but i am going on another way .i love them ,and miss them .since i live with my friends ,i cannot go to see them ,though it doesn't decrease my love .so i think i am .
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
16 Oct 07
it takes a lot of heart to say that you love them and miss them so i guess you really do love them. yes some children end up growing not the way their parents expected them to become, but later they come to realize this and some children become better in the decision they have chosen rather than what their parents wanted them to be. nonetheless, you love them and that's why you know and they know what is right for you. good day friend.
@quiethorse (337)
• United States
11 Oct 07
I argued with them a lot when I was younger. I always wished I could do it over.
@shirleylu (33)
• China
17 Oct 07
I really hope I can be a good daughter to my parents but in fact I think I am not a very good daughter.My parents especially my mother worked very hard to send me to university.Now I live in a city long away from my parents and I can't companion with them every day.I came back two or three times a year. When they are sick I can't be along with them and take care of them.Since I am long away from them they often feel lonely.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
17 Oct 07
hi friend.welcome here in mylot. dont be sad you have friends here in mylot to be with you and i can be one. what you can do best is do your best at school so that you can graduate and get a job. if you finish your school properly and have done your best in school your mother will be more happier and prouder for you. so do it because you know it will make your parents more happy. good luck in study and god bless you always for being a good dauighter.
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
4 Oct 07
I know I've been a very good daughter. My parents never had problems with me and I've always been respectfull to them.
I know my mom is so proud of me right now. We are there for each other.
As for my father. I don't know. We didn't talk to each other for 6 years. For him, I think I was not a good daughter, because I was not calling him every week and that for him it's the children who have to call their parents.
But I don't think I'M the one with the problem, so I'm happy with myself :)
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
9 Oct 07
hi beyonce i guess the problem will be your father. i hope you can make it up for him and try not to consider that 6 years of no communication. remeber that you still have a father tto respect and atleast do youir best to approach him unless you have grudge against him in your heart and maybe that can be a problem. its good to hear that you are still communicating with your mom and i guess she is proud of you. thanks for responding.
@yojspew (171)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
I don't really know if I've been a good daughter or if I'm making them proud of me. I just hope that I can make them happy for what I have become. I owe a lot to my parents. They are the ones who supported me and helped become a good person I am right now.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
9 Oct 07
hi friend! why do you say that you dont know if you are a good daughter or making proud of them? when you say this words i guess there is a problem that is disliken by your parents and maybe you are not obedient enough to follow it. maybe this is private so i wont ask more further because it may require to elaborate further.
yes my friend, whatever decision you make in life which also regards your parents try thinking if its the right decision or it will just hurt your parents further because you know that they are the one who have raised you well and hope you are a good person, atleast hurtingt them is the least action you will do. thanks for responding.
@lsi_262000 (42)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
yes. my parents are proud of what i have accomplished in life from elementary until college. after college, i land a job and help my brother and sisters in their college education.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
hi firend.yes i guess helping your problem in the financial supprot for your brother and sisters education is a good thing becasue this will lessen the burden of your parent. im good to hear you are a good person and may god bless you for your deeds.thaks for responding.
@ssf12ster (488)
• India
4 Oct 07
iam the best on the world for them.nod oubt about it .yes u need to,listen to elders or u get royal shouts from them.they also listen to me and like me a lot though we r three i am middle.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
8 Oct 07
of course the three of you are the greatest treasure for them. they wont let you go to school if you are not important to them. they wont let you live in the first place if they dont like you. but because your parents loves you they will do anything for you. its good to be scolded sometimes but it doesnt mean that they dotn love you anymore. what they want is for you to learn from what is wrong and what is right for you to become a greater person.thanks for responding.
@Sammy1987 (50)
• Nigeria
4 Oct 07
You Know as human we are all bound to make mistake, we could annoyed our perent without we knowing. As for me i have been a good son to my parent, they are proud at my intelligency and brilliancy at school. Despite they don't have much for i feel comfortable with every thing they give to me. The only thing they don't like is that i don't go thier church because i have my own church i like worshiping.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
i dont know but try to tell them why do you love the religion you have choosen and try to tell them that even if i believe on something it doesnt meanthat i am not your child, the one you have raised. i suggest give them more joy in other aspects.yes its very true that we hurt our parents without noticing that we are doing it becasue i have done it many times. sometimes i feel guilty but i try to repay back and avoid the mistakes i am committing.thaks for responding.
@tintin7978 (102)
• Philippines
4 Oct 07
I've been trying to be one. I have big dreams for them and I try not to disappoint them. I can feel that both of them are very proud of me for what I have already accomplished but I'm still not satisfied with it. I'll still go on and work hard in making them happy.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
7 Oct 07
hi tintin. i also have dreams for my parents,i am trying my best to set plans in my life so that i could achieve that dream for them in the available time. im working hard in my job to earn more money so that i can make my plan into reality. somehow, more than the financial aspect i also care for them much. sometimes i also disappoint them, but only for small reasons. if you are happy with what you have achieved or where are you now then i guess they are happy in themselves too. go on live your dreams.thanks for responding.