I'm starting to miss my hubby.....
By mystic_0318
@mystic_0318 (937)
United States
October 3, 2007 8:53pm CST
As alot of you know my hubby is in prison and has been since Dec. and he has been in and out of prison our whole marriage...This time is didn't bother me when he went in and I was kinda happy cause I been trying to go on with my life...Because my marriage has been mostly bad than it has been good. And I was ready to move on..And as you know that I'm more into woman than I am men.And my hubby has known this since day 1 and that was 12 and a half yrs..But any ways I really am starting to miss him so bad...I do write to him and he writes to me and we do talk to eachother on the phone atleast once a week...We don't see eachother that often cause he is like 3and a half hours away from home.....I have never took off my wedding ring...and I never plan on it...I have thought about it just to help move on with my life but I just haven't ever been able to bring myself to do it....I do love him with all of my heart but sometimes I question myself about being in love with him...I don't get the butterflies or anything like that anymore....Ok now this last cpl of weeks I have been missing him so much I make myself sick just thinking about him and knowing he can't walk threw my door at anytime...I miss him being there,him holding me when I need held and everything....Why now am I starting to miss him? Do you think I'm crazy about missing him or am I just starting to feel lonely??? Do I move on like I want to and give me and my daughters a better life? If so How do I get over him and stop missing him? If anyone can help please do! I just hate missing anyone....
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6 responses
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
4 Oct 07
I feel for you I used to be in a marriage like that on again off again for many many years I finally got out of the co-dependancy and moved on it was the best thing I ever did for myself and my kids. I think your just starting to feel lonely and you know your life is going to change, sometimes when people have to do something that they are unfamiliar with they want to go back to what is normal for them what is comfortable for them. I'm just telling my story and what the counselers told me when I was going through life changing things. Time will heal your wounds and time will help you to get over him. When I start missing someone I try to get myself busy with other things that will take my mind off of them for awhile.
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@mystic_0318 (937)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Thank you so much for your response! It seems to make alot of sense to me and got me thinking about how much you are right..Only time will heal. And it is something really normal for me to live like I have been these last years....Thanks again and God Bless!
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
Well, sometimes love does not depend on the butterflies on the stomach everytime you kissed. Not on how brad pitt look alike he is when you look at him... love is on no matter how bad things is, how ordinary he is, you still cant get him off your mind. Its on how things may seem be ordinary but still you cant picture your life without him...
@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 07
i am sorry to hear ur hubby is in prison,i think your feeling is natural because however you love him thats why you marry him,right? but if he cant stop doing bad things that make him has to stay in prison then he didnt take his life and your life seriously.you have to learn to let him go.its not easy but it has to be done for your own sake
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@tabymclay24 (51)
• United States
4 Oct 07
i know how you feel my husband has left for a stripper none the less but when i a began to feel like that i soon realized that it was just bc i was so afraid of the changes that had happened and afraid to move on. so i took a good look at myself in the mirror and decided i was not going to let one man ruin my life any longer i had to live for me. trust me honey i know how you feel. but i would move on and begin again, it may just be whast the doctor ordered
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4 Oct 07
I suggest that you move on, as it may help your daughters to understand that he might sooner or later stay in prison for the rest of his life. And if that happens, there's no point feeling bad about yourself. It's time to move on, as it will help you in the future
