about spanking your kids

Well spanking the kids too hard.. i dont think the problems will solve. As for my understandings there are 2 ways why you spank them. First one you spank them because they dont listen to you. This is very common and most of the parents does that. Its the anger that you show towards your kids.. that is wrong. Nothing will change your kid but maybe they might begin to hate you. I would say this is not healthy. The second one.. you spank them simply you want to teach them how to be more discipline. I feel this is ok. As a parents you should at times warn your kids and give punishment but you have to tel them first why they gonna get the punishment. Highlight their mistakes and punish them.. but not too hard.. You have to groom your kids from when they are young.. otherwise.. you might have problems when they grow up and they will never respect you or in your words; and that time it would be too late for you to realize.

You need to talk with that man. Advise him also not to spank the child when he is angry this will cause emotional and physical scars you know!

If it's only once then no, I wouldn't report it but I would talk to my husband about it and explain that he hit him too hard. (Men can be thoughtless with this kind of thing and some don't realise how hard they hit). However, if it keeps happening then yes, I would report it. Once is forgivable because your husband may just not realise how hard he was but once he knows, he should be softer. Some kids do need a smack sometimes but both you and your husband need to clearly know how hard is too hard. If he can't do it then tell him it is only you who is to spank the kids if they need it.

i have read about parenting, when we spank our kids, we should tell them why we spank them so they will know why they are beaten. but too cruel too kids we must report the parent that do that. we all know kids are kids, they can be annoying try to understand them too.

My boyfriend never or ever would lay a finger on our daughter.He leaves the "calming"down to me and i only spanked her once on the little butt not hard but it was enough to make me feel very bad and cry.I usually put her in her room if its come to that point and she understands then that i mean business,even though there will be a temper tantrum,i let her get it out on her own and after 5 minutes of "craziness"shes like herself again,lol.Lets say "IF"he was tp spank her like you said,well yes of course i would,there would be no doubt in my mind to do so.I became a strong willed person over the past couple of years and it does not matter if he is her father or not,i will still say something and defend her and do whats best in her interest,protect her and not hide from the situation like some do.I will have my say and if that does not work,well we know what will and he will just have to suffer the consequences.Grrr!:)

There are other ways to punish a child, depending on the age, I have three children two are grown and moved out of the house. I used spanking as a last resort I'm a wuse lol I always felt bad after spanking them. Everyone has thier opinion about spanking some parents only give three swats and thats it. Some don't spank at all, now if he is beating the child uncontrolably (like spanking until the child has bruises or beating the child leaving black eyes and such) then it would be time to do something serious about it. Maybe trying some parenting classes would help. I didn't spank my kids alot after they reached 8 years old I found that reasoning with them or giving them a time out, taking away the computer time worked better than spanking ever did. Every kid is different thats why I suggest the parenting classes I took some while my kids where growing up and they helped alot. Good luck.

Try talking first to the husband. Maybe he got carried away. I sometimes get carried away when my kids are really out of control. Sometimes I don't even notice that I've spanked them too hard. If he does so often at the slightest irritation then I think you'd better call for help.

I believe there is a big difference between spanking and beating. If he is leaving marks on your child then yes you need to report it. If you don't the chances of the school doing it are pretty high. Have you talked with your husband about this?

every kid has some kind of naughtiness in them.if he is not doing any kind of mischief he will not be a kid.a kid learns by trial and error.its the duty of the parent to let him know wht is wrong and wht is right.if the kid is continuously doing mischief give a lil punishment and then after some time spk to him with more love and affection this will give the kids mind the information tht he has made a mistake.both husband and wife ahd take care.i think mother can influence her child than a father