Being in the bottom.

hi,laurika i'm sally, to some extend, you are right,sometimes,i don't think i am me.who i am and where i should go.right,as human being,we have the weakpoint that it too self-confident, it will show up when you meet something urgent and difficult.so in order to hide my bad character,i'm trying to be nice and friendly to everyone.and i know it's better to give than to accept.but sometimes,i'm at loss.i won't beg for food from others as long as i can move.but i can't control my behavior is changing,you know,society is changing rapidly,i can't control.i'm trying to find the way that is suitable for me.

There is a motto:survive of the fittest.If we can't change the surroundings,what we could do is changing ourselves.

Yes, our behavoir does change when we hit rock bottom. I have been there and it is degrading. I have had to go to a food pantry to just feed my child. I did odd jobs to pay some of the bills. When I am not at rock bottom, I feel self confident and worthy. I feel that I can accomplish anything.

I think if we are really hard-pressed or down-and-out, most of us will change our behaviour to improve the situation. But there again, those who are already rock bottom, may be there because they won't change the way they act in life.

I believe it depends entirely on the person. There are some things that happen which could be viewed as life-changing events that might change one person and not another. Also the way in which one person changes might be completely different from how another person changes. For instance, maybe one person loses everything and goes out and starts all over again with a fresh outlook on life, but another person might become bitter and reluctant to expend any more effort.

I must say that our behavior can be influenced by situational change. However, the amount of time needed to effect change would depend on the degree of a person's inherent stubborness to change or to adopt to the obtaining condition. I think however that a self confident person is entirely different from a proud person. When you are self confident and still become a failure, your self confidence will become your hope of finding a way out of the mesh you are in to success. But a proud and a stubborn person would find failure a very hard pill to swallow. He would find it hard to adjust to failure and would invariably wallow in his past pleasure before finally facing the hard facts of his situation and finally considering begging.

YOu have been pumping a lot of discussion topic without any regard for giving responses. I switched off the notify key. However, I found one response from you and here I am reciprocating. Being in the bottom is always good for everyone, so that they come to know how many of their friends are sincere and standy by you during the times of crisis. This occasion also helps you to avoid reckless spending, reckless borrowing and try to live within the means. As you said this gives a lot of confidence to recover. One should not lose heart during this period, because that would kill the confidence.

Very extreme situations can force a person to change their behavior. But to actually change a person, that person has to want to be changed. Real self-confidence doesn't depend on your place on your social ladder, and doesn't fade when you fall.