Why husband can't understand to hes wife sometimes?
By sexylc
@sexylc (501)
United States
October 5, 2007 10:01am CST
Boy's please share here why some husband didn't understand to hes wife sometimes? It same didn't think whats womans like or happiness.My husband and I always arguing for some non-sense matter.Like I feel he didn't understand what I really like.Or he just try to ignore what I like..grrrrrrr! I do really hate now.
10 responses
@dreamstone (129)
• China
5 Oct 07
I am a husband,i love my wife very much.i remember her birthday ,her taste and so on.for example,when i cook,the food are what her most love.but in sometimes,we brawl for many things.many thing her want to let me to do,but she don't tell me,she think that i should know how to do.but i hate to guess,i am not goldly,how can i konw what she thought.
so,tell your husband what you thought,talk with him.
that is my idea.
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@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
5 Oct 07
That's VERY true, dreamstone. I always try to tell my hubby anything so that he doesn't get confused. Usually the women feel that it's corny or "silly" 'coz they assume that their guys SHOULD understand what they need and want, but that's not true 'coz women and men are SO different. :-))))
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@smilelxp (17)
• China
5 Oct 07
I have got married just for one month. But I really have the same feeling with you. My husband often said sincerely to me that he loves me very much. He always do a lot of things for me. But there is no good to our love. He really do not know what I really like and need. Sometimes, he buy a lot of things for me,but I have no interests on them. He is very worried for such problem. It is the same to me. I just know that after a long time, he will no passion to do anything for me. He will be hitted with the condition. So, I am so worried about my marriage. Can somebody give some suggestion to me?
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@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
5 Oct 07
Different people show love differently. Have you read "5 Love Languages"?
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html
Maybe both of you have different love languages. For example, if your love language is service and his love language is gifts, then he'll be giving you gifts 'coz that's how he feels loved...but you don't feel the love 'coz what you need is for him to (for example) help you with the dishes or other stuff.
Another example: if your love language is service and his love language is words of affirmation...you keep on serving him in every possible way (making him dinner, massaging him, etc.) and you feel that you're loving him that way, but he doesn't feel loved 'coz the way to his heart is by saying to him how great he is, how sensitive he is, that he's a hard worker, etc.
I don't know if this would help you out, but GOOD LUCK!!! At least it's helped me and my hubby to get to know each other. Plus we talk about what we need from each other in most aspects. Sometimes you just need to talk things out.
@buliangxianren (425)
• China
6 Oct 07
i don't know you have say that. but it is ture that there are some differeces between man and woman. the way man live and think is different from women's. but i don't think man can not understand the thoughts in woman's mind.
it must cost some time for man to think as a woman. they think it as a man first ,then as a woman. they don't know their wivies 'idea on time. sometimes what they think is more reality . they must think more .so the presence is that he is ignore it or they didn't understand you. it is a good method to get rid of the request of our girlfriends and let them not be angry very much.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
6 Oct 07
If a couple want to understand each other, there must be a two way line of communication. Both parties should learn about each other, they should know what the other likes and how she likes it. Marriage is an institution that does not end, it is a lifelong education about each other. You cant learn enough of your partiner. So if you want your husband to understand you, it is you to lead and guide him, tell him that you like this and you hate this, also asks him what he likes and hates and all shall be fine. Sometimes even brothers and sisters seem not to understand each other. thats the nature of human being.
@anup12 (4177)
• India
5 Oct 07
It is not always that husbands are like that. I think the mutual trust and understanding has to be there between both the persons involved in the marriage. The husband has to think about a lot of other things. He is more stressed I guess.
@bhawnam (1436)
• India
5 Oct 07
ask him and he will say the same.. that his wife does not understands him at times or gets angry on very petty issues.. its like that with everyone.. until we realize the reality of life.. that if two people live together then differences are bound to occur.. he would do many things you dont like and you would do many things he wont like.. so one has to figure out a way between the two.. and the best way to end such things is talking.. talking to each other with total honesty and making each other understand what you expected or what you want and also listening what he wants.. try to understand each other and if you love each other than try to make other person happy sometimes by doing what he wants.. :)
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@trialrun01 (644)
• India
6 Oct 07
Its not about boys or girls its just that each and every individual differs in thier likes, dislikes and behaiors and specially in case of marriage two people from different backgrounds meet and are forced to stay together without giving them time to understand each other. One should respect other's likes, dislikes and behaviours and life will be as smooth as creme...trust me
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@jcyap888 (721)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
no he doenst ignore you! he just being protective to you! he just dont understand on what a person been so bored in a house. like i have discuss in my discussion what if we change our position man stay at home and woman work! some think they are under, but for me saving money for future while you are young! dont take the pride! it is our necessity, you will understand it if you grow older when someone dont even like to hire you anymore if you are over 40 of age!
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