A younger mistress or older one, pretty or ugly?

A younger mistress I could comprehend, but it would be a wonder to me if my husband would go for a mistress older than me (and him). My greater worry is when he would cheat and the girl is ugly...that would be a challenge for me, and I cannot accept that. What on earth did he find in that girl that he cheated me?! I'd rather he told me what he doesn't like in me and I'd gladly let him go.

My opinion. I used to think like you. Was married once for 9 years. Had relationships later on in life. And from January 2007 found a man I love more than any man befor. I have stopped wasting my time in thinking about him having an affair. It could even happen to you. Life is full of surprises. I have learned in life, that nobody is perfect. Love always finds a way to heal. If your husband/relationship would have an affair, then the communication at home is not good. Keep talking to each other.That keeps you close. And stop worring,be happy with every good moment together. And I think now a day´s " What I don´t know won´t hurt me." Enjoy your life!Think positief not negetive. Good Luck.

if my husband is cheating on me, be it with the househelp or any colleague of his or mine or with someone younger and prettier than me, then it's the end of our relationship..that kind of thing is not to be taken into consideration.that's my opinion. if he still loves me, then he wont cheat on me..not ever..so that means he's tired of me in some way or another..it's just his cowardly way to get out of the relationship.and maybe he's not really worth my love in the end..so goodbye to him..thanks for the memories..hehe

I am no longer married but I don't care who it is or what they look like, I don't feel any challenge. I would just be done with the relationship. I don't get embarrassed, i just get gone. I have to be emotionally bonded with whoever I am with. Cheating breaks the trust and the emotional bond so much. I know there are cases where couples can overcome such a situation and even become stronger as a result. Much would depend on the situation and how strong our relationship was to begin with and most important....his remorse. i guess it would all depend on the situation.

Let's plot back to love-relation itself. We might see more high probabilities, because it's more fragile than marriage life. When your partner broke up with you, and later in near times, he/she engage with somebody else who is better in personality looks and better in wealth as well. Sounds love faith is cruel, isn't it? I had my love story with a pretty girl who broke me up and in a nearby times she made a relation with another guy who had better looks and good in financial. I had to accept that broken up with very deeply sad, progressing and maturing my love stage trying to forget her, that thinking it's an unfair and stupidity to me if I always think this over and over, as there will be no solution at the end, because in verse that time she did not feel what we feel. Almost 3 years they are in the relation, then one day I heard from her friend that they are not a couple anymore, the guy broke her because he told her he chooses her family, he is already had a wife and kid on far country. In mean time, 1 year after the broke-up I made a relationship, and saw things more clearly. I learned that time, that inner beauty of woman who will match and showing understanding to me is the better for me. In my mind, physic beauty will fade by the time. While inner beauty will stand last forever until die.

Hi friend! I would definitely pray and hope that my marriage will not end up with it. But here's my stand to this topic. Ok, I am a one-man woman and I am expecting my husband to be a one-woman man also. I want to be the only woman during our marriage life that he will devout his time with, show love and take care. Well, he can expect the same from me. God forbid but let's say in case he has a mistress I will be challenged and insulted if he will replace me with an old and ugly woman. If she's younger than me and pretty at least I can say, oh, well my husband doesn't change his taste or well, she's younger and prettier than me. Still, I am firm with my belief that I won't give second chance to cheaters. *wink*

Neither of the two choices kwenge. ^_^ I don't even like to think that my husband's having an affair with someone else. I wan't to be the only girl in his life. I don't want anybody else to go in between with our relationship. That's how possesive I am to my partner. Ok, considering what if's. I would never feel insecure, why would I? If he do it to me it's his lose not mine. I have already anticipated that time to come and i have prepared myself for that. But I know that's far thing to happen. I know my husband to be faithful with our relationship and straying away is not in his personality. :)

I cant even think or just imagine that my husband is cheating on me! Never, I'd rather he cheats on me and I dont discover, i will just cut him and his sorry lover into tiny pieces. am getting carried away n its not even true.lmao