Is it everything going well, for what you had been planned for your life?
By leha1512
@leha1512 (81)
Brunei Darussalam
October 6, 2007 3:34am CST
I am failure but I want to improve my life for my kids. Before I planned, to get graduate, have a good job and marry with the one love (These are our majority hope). But beside of that, when I was at college, I got pregnant. I married with my boyfriend when I was 17 years old. After I have a kid, I tried to look for a job. Is hard for me to find one, at last I got one. I worked start on 1:30 pm and get back home around 11:00pm. I didnt have much time with my family, my salay was $350 only. Now I got 3 kids. My husband left me with my kids. Right now I have big responsibilty and I must make it better no matter how is it. Even though it ends up in choas way, but for me it make me more stronger. At this moment I cannot give up. So how about you, Is it that you plan for your life going well? Share with me.
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10 responses
@BayleighGray (4334)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Hi Leha,
Im not working, looking desperately and finding nothing. I know the stresses of wanting a good paying job and not finding one. I just do the best that I can. I thankfully was blessed with a good man in my life, and he takes care of things while Im not working. I couldnt ask for more than what I have now, except for a job! lol We dont have any kids so that makes things a bit easier for us.
I do hope that your ex is helping you with the 3 children that you created together. If he is not, then I would contact some sort of resource to aid you in this. Its not only your responsibility, its his as well. Do your best to go back to school and get some sort of education.
I wish you the best, and I think your daughter is simply beautiful!! Dont give up! Your not a failure!
Bay xx
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Hi leha! Your not a failure at all.Hey life doesnt always work out so picture perfect. You are so lucky to have 3 children. That inself is truely a gift. Please treasure these moments with them. My sister is in the same situation as you. And you sound strong like her. She never gave up and now she has a good job and she is renting a nice house. She use to live in a tiny apartment. Things will work out for you too.
@kikiss (429)
• Australia
6 Oct 07
Its really encouraging to hear your story. Yess the most important thing is to never give up as someone says to me you can not change your past but you can change you future. I used to be afailure as well , iam diagnosed with psychosi and lost my job few times, i have been christian for 6 years and i learn God grace that what keeps me going , GRACE..., now iam studying at college part time and work 2 days a week . i believe that i might sick but i am not a hopeless person and my believe actually shape my life , i also learn to be gratefull for things that i have . sometimes thing is hard but i can see things is improving in my life.:)
@leha1512 (81)
• Brunei Darussalam
8 Oct 07
Anything that happpens in out life, it must go on. Thats our responsibility. I dont have someone to talk with and share my problem with. Most of the time I spend my time alone and I pray to Allah, how am I going to solve my problem. Slowly my heart except all those things and it makes my life more meaning full because of my beloved kids. Thanx for your support
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
6 Oct 07
Life is never what you plan it to be, that is why do not plan for it to happen.
@vivianyan (29)
• China
7 Oct 07
Hi Leha, You are not failure.And I think you are a great woman. So brave, so smart. You born 3 kids, you try to make your life better always, I try to make my life better than yesterday as well.
So i always believe that hard working can make me rich.
@wseayuan (372)
• China
6 Oct 07
Hi,friend.i may can't help you. but i also want to say i support you,you are a strong mother,respectable mother.my plan is that,find a job ,get married,have two kids,live with my parents happily.that is my hope,just like you.maybe the future may not be what we want ,but i will try to find happiness and enjoy life.maybe there are more miserable people then me . i will face that .hope you too.good luck!
@leha1512 (81)
• Brunei Darussalam
8 Oct 07
Yeap you are right dear. We never expect what happen to our future, how good we plan it sometime it doesnt work. For me, for all these matter I already accepted with open heart. I will be a good mother even though I am not a good daugther for my parents. Thaks again
@25th_Stargazer (887)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
My goals in life didn't work out as well. Being depressed is a normal reaction and you may just feel useless for a time. Then life must go on, one need to do something for the present and not look back and cry about what might have been. You can never get back what you have lost especially time.
@NICUsJodL (77)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
first, don't call yourself a failure.you must remember that everything happens for a reason.i can see that despite all your problems you are doing your best to go on.. for that i salute you.
my life is not going the same path as i planned it to be either.but its not as life altering circumstances as yours. for example, i planned to take a masteral at the age of 28, i am 28 now and it seems farfetched for me to study because of my load in my current work. its ok even if my plans dont work out i still count my blessings.\
god bless on your undertakings..
@mingming841225 (17)
• China
6 Oct 07
Never give up,and everything will do well.
Working hard is the best way.
