My Gender Rant

Ssshhh,,, Don't tell anyone, but I can sew & cook. I also don't care to watch sports on TV. If I'm not playing in them, I don't care. If I wanted to watch cars zip by I'd sit on the side of the highway. At least then it wouldn't be the same cars every time. If you want me to watch football edit the game down to just the really bad hits where it looks like the guys head is going to fly off. That's amusing. Now that we've tossed out the stereotypical molds... Hope your day gets better.

Sing it, Lecanis! I've been saying the same thing for years. I've stressed how stupid the effects of social conditioning and gender roles are. These things aren't undeniable facts, they're OPTIONS. A girl can like pink and make-up if she wants...but then, so can guys. A guy can like working on cars and fixing things...but so can girls. It doesn't freaking matter. We're ALL individuals.

You said exactly how I feel. I think this shows that women are not being treated as equally as we believe they are. I had a heated discussion with a coworker about that. He asked me and a colleague how long we have been married and she said 33 years and I said 17. He said, well we must have done something right to be married that long, so my response was, and since when is it all up the woman to make a marriage last? Are you implying that if we were divorced we must have done something wrong? Another thing is, the assumption that women like to clean so therefore let's leave all the cleaning up to them even if she works as many if not more hours a week then the man! And one more thing, I don't have PMS just because I tell someone where to go and how to get there if they piss me the hell off!

*sighs* I work with 3 women who are all going through or have recently gone through a divorce. I hear male negativity every day. Finally I said hey if you 3 had a clue what I have been through in two marriages you might not see it just from the womens point of view. They have toned things down a bit since I said soemthing.

I can understand your frustration. I'm a housewife for right now but its not my thing. I was never in dolls - liked books a lot better. Never good at doing my own nails and such. I also like to consider myself a nice mixture of yin and yang. A combination of what is considered masculine and feminine. Strength and softness, assertiveness (in certain situations - like professional - talking to a director about a new idea or something that isn't appropriate) and laidbackness(yeah made up word!). You know. Psychics who have seen specifics about my current life have said they've seen me as a warrior in a past life, one said they saw me in full battle gear on a mountain roaring into the night. Sounded right, just as right as the claims that I was priestess. Anyway, hope you're not in a ranting mood. What others think isn't important - what you think, feel and believe is.

Hi lecanis, Good for you! It's about time someone said this. Excellent. Blessings.

I know what you mean as I do not fall into the stereotypical view of what a woman should be and I often get comments made to me about this and it pisses me off too. "A Geezer Bird" is one I get called as I drink pints and love football, what the F*CK! I have been in places where men sit in one corner and women sit in the other and the two never meet when going out in groups of couples. I end up sitting with the men as the womens conversations are so boring...diets, handbags or shoes!!! Once I was watching a boxing match with this bloke and I kept trying to tell him that the boxer he was betting on was going to loose. I was completely ignored by him and when I said it again he looked at me, pointed to my partner and said "Thats your husband". I was furious with him as he felt because I was a woman I had no right to advise him, because a woman knows nothing about boxing. Well, I was right and he lost lots of money because he would not take my advise...just desserts!! I work with kids and I do see that boys and girls are different in many ways due to their genetic make-up and how much testosterone they have. But this does not mean that they are different in every way and so we should not just decide we all have the same traits as this is definately not true. I am who I am, and yes I am female, but don't judge me on your stereotypical views of what a female should be, otherwise, like you Lecanis, I will box them on the nose!!!....and not scratch their eyes out!!LOL

It all comes back to stereotypes, doesn't it. I hate to shop. But I am a woman and women love to shop. I can fix my own car. But I am a woman, so I should't be mechancally inclined. I love sports. But...well, you get the point. The fact of the matter is that we are all individuals inside and we shouldn't be forced into gender roles that we are not comfortable with. I am a person, plain and simple. And this person can do whatever she wants to do and can understand whatever she feels. But maybe it's just a "girl thing." LOL. Don't hit me. LOL

You go girl! you know, there's that, and then, then, there's age!! you think that way because your young, your still young, that'll change, your young, you have lots of time, you'll grow up and think differently blah blah blah, well the new thing i say to people like that - Being young teaches me not to be like you when i'm old!!! And yeah that woman thing ticks me off, i'm one of those gals that doesn't think like a female most of the time and it gets right on my last nerve when people pull that woman crap, and moreso when they do the age game. ugh, people.

I'm sick and tired of how people categorize women as "weak" though we're stronger than men in some points in the society. Yes, God gave men the authority to head the household and women should submit themselves to their husbands. But, hey, men aren't really superior. I agree that stereotyping is the worst way in judging people. Of course, judging people itself is a bad thing. Since every person is genuine and unique in their own simple ways, then, no two persons are the same. It is just sad that they base the personality of someone with their gender. How they belittle women when it comes to strength. How they misunderstood women's feelings because they thought women can't handle such things. Sociality is an issue, so as to discrimination.

Great rant - I agree totally, I am so sick of having to 'defend' myself, Ok, I am a women but I am very very independant, love trying new things and will tell you I can repair plumbing, do carpentry work, and mud drywall better than the majority of men I've known. I also know a lot of 'men' who are 100 times better cooks than me.. Don't put me in a cubby hole because of narrow mindedness.

I'd say "Amen!" but, well, I'm not the right religion. LOL Many people base their opinions on first impression and stereotypes. If their first impression is that you are a woman they will try to force you into all of their female stereotypes. I hate it, but it's too common. And not jsut with women. Whatever small detail they cling to is what they will use to define you.

Ha,ha, I knew there was a reason I like you, lecanis, you sound like my daughter when she rants and raves.. Don't even get her started, she won't stop until someone agrees with her, because if you disagree, that gives her fuel to debate..lol Anyways, I see what you mean by stereotypes, my daughter makes sure I don't do that and in a way, I agree, why say a female doesn't know? I know females that can do home construction much better then men and if I had the money, I probably would hire a female construction worker because they know what my needs are..

Yes, This happens. People make you stereo types and then make scapegoats out of you. They'll label you that you are a woman and you are supposed to behave like this. You are not supposed to behave like a boy. Girls should be soft and gentle and boys can be rough and rude etc. That too in India, it is always said what to wear if you are a girl, what all you should do and how you should behave with others. sometimes one gets too tired and irritated hearing all this. I have been all these days.

Shhhhhh...lecanis, dont kill anybody because of gender steretyping, it takes a long period of staying with someone before you can locate him or her to the right gender-my uncle's wife was a woman of amazing strength both in character and attitude,she did much of the hard things for her family survival and if hard work and family security is a role usually ascribed to men, then she turned the social order upside down and made my uncle look like a woman! But if you lecanis met this woman today on the streets of your city, you will first and foremost attitudewise, treat and handle her as a woman-you will not know that she has the traits for strength and family leadership that is usually apportioned to men! So before you kill anybody today, give them a little chance to know you better, if after showing your true colours they still keep you were you dont belong, then I would join you in mudering such damn headed fellas! But get it from me, this gender thing is not about to go away-you are luckier than your foremothers, they went through disspeakable stereotyping than you are going through today, things will get better and you dont need to kill anybody just yet LOL!

Well... there is no doubt that it is a stereotype thing. But at the same time... the reverse is true. Women don't understand men anymore than men understand women. "You think this way because you are a woman!" That is exactly right! Men and women think differently. Women are conservative... while men are risk takers. Men don't let every little things worry them... while women do. Not so long ago... men and women played a distinctive role in society. Women decided to change the rules... which is fine. But why do you want to drag the men into your new world? Why do we need to try to understand you wanting to do everything a man can do? While at the same time you want to force us to change... by making us do the dishes... If you don't want to do the dishes... get a dishwasher. If you don't want to have to clean the mess your man makes... don't get married. We have no problem with you not wanting to be women anymore. But leave us out of it. It is not our problem. There are still plenty of women in this world who are prepared to act like women.

I am going through this right now with someone. I am told everything that comes out of my mouth is a lie. Why? Because I am a woman! Ugh!!! I don't agree with sterotypes even though I have been guilty a time or two of using them against men. At least I can admit it was wrong of me. ;)

hahahhaha ,i'm ready to take u are a dear friend.i'd also put my opinion in my own way,broadly there is no difference between a male and female but.... because of some hormone secretion and different brain orientation we do have some difference and then we women are better then men,i'm very sure about it.

Yep , you wrote that because you're a woman , so imple , a woman is kinder than a man , more sensible , understandable , if you're a man you won't complain first , and if you wanna do , you'll wonder why they tell you , you're sarcastic because you're a man, you're violant because of your manly nature , you don't love my cousin kids because you don't have emotion because you're a man, you have to work and bring money because you're the responsible one because you're a man and the list so long , just there will still a difference among man and woman! Men don't claim their internal emotions and moods directly and women do!

I truly understand where you're coming from! I've given up on being diplomatic and call all men to the carpet when they start in on the sexist lingo. The sad truth of the matter is that we're living in a man's world and so women suffer the emotional, physical, behavioral and financial consequences of this fact. I laugh when I listen to men moan about reverse discrimination in the workplace and welcome them to the back of the bus! I don't care about a person's gender either. I think that focusing on gender dehumanizes all of us and makes people feel like a pile of body parts. People are all about their mind, heart and soul.