what to do with a crazy sister
By rajeb1
@rajeb1 (9)
October 6, 2007 7:18pm CST
i have this sister that has angst about almost everything, hang-ups, resentment, bitterness, hatred, and has her own story of everything that happened to her (but its not the actual thing, not even close) making people and her friends believe that she is a victim. she already has two kids and still living home, rarely contributes financially with the PUB's instead she
leaves you with things to pay. my mom always come to her rescue, from her own payables down to her kids sometimes. i can't stand her mouth, she talks so much, and most of the things that comes out of her mouth is a very annoying lie. she has been like that eversince, at least 2decades already. she finished a one year course at the age of 40. she was given several chances, different good schools. what can be done???? she doesn't want to compromise, she thinks all the time that she and her family is being talked about but she is the one doing so in front of us with our household help. you wake up hearing all her stories, you go to sleep with it, i even dreamed of it too. i am so annoyed that i want to strangle her and put her inside the closet or drown her in the water tank. she is that worst for me to actually lose my last ounce of patience. and my mom is pampering her with Christianity and inability to confront her to avoid scandalous conversations for she likes to shout and let the neighboring families hear everything. can i kill her?
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4 responses
@jennwhite07 (130)
• United States
8 Oct 07
First of all your parents are making a serious mistake by continuing to allow his behavior. And I say that because they won't be around forever if they don't start showing some "tough love" what will come of her and her children when they aren't here to provide for them?
I can certainly understand your frustrations with this situation, but somewhere inside you there is a love for your sister, and her children.
Your sister seems to be very self centered and childish from what you have said above, and she is setting a terrible example for those children. She isn't teaching them good morals, she isn't teaching them self respect, she isn't teaching them indepedence. That is going to hurt those children in the long run if something isn't done about it...and in answer to your question, you can't kill her, I know it may be hard at times, but that is where you have to reach deep and find that love for her and those children
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
7 Oct 07
LOL is she worth going to jail for? I have a few family members like that myself you wouldn't happen to be related to me would ya? LOL. I know it's not funny but with people like that you just have to ignore them as much as you can they want people to feel sorry for them, it gets them attention. Thier own lives are not that exciting so they have to stretch the truth a little to make it sound interesting to others. What I do when I talk to someone like that is just nod my head and feel sympathy for them it doesn't help to call them on thier lies because they just deny it. I'm not sure what else you could try if you think of something let me know LOL.
@brandymv (2)
• United States
7 Oct 07
It's best to leave those situations alone. If your mother wishes to take care of her, so be it. You don't have to deal with it, simply don't bother with your sister. If she starts a conversation with you just kindly speak with simple "umhums," and "ahas." As far as your mother taking care of your sisters kids, she's doing the right thing. She's a grandparent, and if your sister can't handle them your mother is doing the right thing by doing it for her. By doing that she is not giving your sister an easier time, se is taking care of children who could otherwise not help themselves.
From the way you are going about this you sound jealous of your sister. You need to grow-up a bit and learn that people do things for different reasons, and they are all valid reasons. If you don't like them don't live there or visit too often. Have you ever actually sat down and spoke with your sister, in a friendly tone? It might help, but if you speak like you type that will not work.
