husband vs wife
By bdazzled
@bdazzled (132)
Philippines
6 responses
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
7 Oct 07
i say the wife has to make a stand. whether she makes her own money or not, to contribute in the family, her voice has to be heard. marriage is a bout two people joined together as one. decisions has to be a joint, mutual decision. it is not about fighting for your rights, but is about respect. the wife has to find a way to make her husband understand this. many thanks, perry
@UNPINOY (361)
• Philippines
7 Oct 07
most welcome anytime. i am sure you have that special way to have your husband realize that. you can even go back to earlier days when you started, situations when you get want you want. and of course, i believe hubby loves you so much that he wanted to make decisions to make things right and make you happy but he has to know that any one;s decision is not always right. still two heads better than one. take care...
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
7 Oct 07
So what's the situation bdazzled? What is the hubby doing that is causing the suffering? Have you talked to him about this? Elaborate please?
@bdazzled (132)
• Philippines
7 Oct 07
we always argue on stuff we have to buy and he always have his way. i dont argue about it but sometimes its really annoying. how we end up not using the stuff we buy or he is the only one satisfied about it. its really hard to bare when all i have to do is for his decisions.
and at the end even if i was right, im always wrong.geez.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
8 Oct 07
My hubby and I go through the same thing occassionally. We got into a heckuva a fight last night because we are in debt do to home repairs that had to be made because of a flood, he's always on me about money, but then he orders $350 worth of woodworking tools for some hobby he's decided to take up. If I went out and spent that on stuff I wanted and wasn't actually needed he's be ticked! But I always pay him back, like I conveniently forget to do his laundry or pack his lunch and when he asks why I tell him it's because I am too busy working two jobs. The whole guilt factor.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
In that case I believe that you should talk about it because its not right that in making decision he is the only one doing that and when it comes to the consequences of his action you are the only one that will suffer.As a wife you should know that you also have the right s in everything. So you must be heard by your husband.
@shak143 (1280)
• India
7 Oct 07
you are not mentioned what your hubby has done which causes you problems.Any how first try to talk to him and explain him how you are suffering.As dicissions taken in agressive mood will makes a lot of trouble to you as well as your family.so think once before taking a decision.........
if iam in your cases i will first talk to him try to resolve the dispute wiht out a third person involment.then take a decision if it fails.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
It happened to me and to my hubby for a couple of times. Until he realized he was no longer doing the right thing. because he saw how I always suffered a lot. He decided and made his own changes. Now, we are still in the process of making mutual decisions for always. And avoid sufferings of either one of us.
