Who has the right to publish the book?
By MrsAdvice
@MrsAdvice (623)
United States
October 7, 2007 12:12pm CST
A mother and daughter were on Dr. Phil because the daughter wrote a book about her mom's experience being captured and escaping from a serial killer. The mom did not want the daughter to publish the book. What do you think? I think if I were the mom, I would write my own book and nobody would want to buy the one the daughter wrote when they could have the story right from the horse's mouth! Do you think anyone should be able to write a book about you and your experiences?
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10 responses
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
7 Oct 07
I always was suspicious of someone who said, "don't do that!" especially when danger was involved, because I found out that person who gave the warning often saved the day. And I would never suggest that the mother writer the book so no one would want to buy the other book. That is being selfish. If that happens, the daughter would have been afraid to do anything for fear that her mother would one-up her. Do you believe it is right?
I would think the daughter has the right to get the book published. After all, we have to know how it feels from the family's experience. The mother can also write a book. Both will go to different audiences. One that will tell how the family suffered, and the other might be used by the police or law enforcement agencies, FBI profilers, etc. on how to escape serial killers.
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@MrsAdvice (623)
• United States
7 Oct 07
Feels like I just got called, "Selfish". I guess I am trying to learn how to be a little more selfish. Selfish is not such a bad thing.
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
7 Oct 07
personaly I feel the mom has the right to object only if the daughter is using real names in her book ,she can disguise the names of those in the book and then maybee it would be ok but i dont feel anyone has the right to write about you and name you if you object !
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@smurfettewv (359)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I feel that the daughter should have discussed with the mother and its sad tht they can't see eye to eye, however the mother suffered a oredeal but so had the daughter for years hearing the stories her mother told her and reliving the experince as she did. Does it justify her writing? I dont know Im not the judge.
@houndsgood (774)
• United States
8 Oct 07
The daughter is the author of the work, so has more rights here. Really, when you think about it, this may talk about the mother's experience but unless the daughter was very journalistic and acted as neutral interviewer, the book is more likely the experience the daughter went through in this or was written for the sake of her personal healing. Everyone has a right to their story.
I think that there is precedence if a book slanders someone, but if its a true story with no liberties taken, I don't think the mother has much say.
If I were advising the daughter, I might say even though everyone may know who your mother is, change the names in the book. Or if there is one particular incident in the book that the mother feels is too graphic, there are ways of maybe referring to something without detailing it.
what I think, though, is that the mother may feel some sort of retribution if the killer is not already behind bars (as some trials can take years) and doesn't have a chance of parole. If he was a loner that's one thing but if he had pals, maybe thats what she feels.
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@xavierkyle (223)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
I think the daughter has a right to publish the book. However, the mother has a right to object if her daughter particularly said "IT'S ABOUT HER MOM ESCAPING A SERIAL KILLER". The real name will not matter in any sense as she could put everything in her novel under fiction including her mother's name.
personally, if someone will write a book about, i will not object.
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@ptrnow (57)
• Canada
8 Oct 07
There is a very fine lesson I learned about confidentiality when I attended a training seminar, confidentiality also means you have to ask yourself if the other person gave you permission to share their story. And I understand how the mother feels, that is a very private, intimate and terrifying experience in her life and I would not want any person, especially someone I haven't told, to know the details of it. It is enough for your own family to look at you and go... wow.. but soon enough the public will turn those wow's into oh my god, you poor woman. And thats the last thing that woman needs to hear, that very phrase will take away her strength, her validation. She is no poor woman, she is a strong woman who had the nerves, the guts and the strength to overcome a vicious and horrible person and moved on with her life. Now, if someone said poor woman to me after that I would rip their tongue out.
Anyways, I can completely identify with he mother. Some people don't want others to know their personal business.
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@plasma (673)
• India
7 Oct 07
Well, the one whose writing skills are good, who could get a good publisher to bind up her story who can make it a bestseller.
Who writes is not the point, what's written surely is. If the mom isn't afraid of some of the content made public, she should encourage her child to go ahead and have something wonderful which both of them can enjoy before Christmas. I think the mom is a hero here and her deed calls for a celebration, and what better can she have than her own daughter penning it all down in her own words. She might suggest changes but to change the whole idea is not worthy.
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@WiteNgtOwl (304)
• United States
7 Oct 07
I would hate for someone to write about my experiences. I would write my own book. I think that mom should write her own to. But she was scared and probibly dont want her daughter writing a book about her experince. I dont think I would want that either.
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@jennwhite07 (130)
• United States
8 Oct 07
Well if the mothers experiences in any way impacted this young lady, then yes she should be able to write and publish the story. But only to the extent of how it impacted her on a day to day basis.
Being mother and daughter they should come together, and both write the book for publishing, the mother on her thoughts, experiences and feelings on it and the daughter on how it impacted her, and both on how they got through it.
@kriszelunka (557)
• Australia
8 Oct 07
There is no copyright on ideas or experiences, so legally the daughter, or anyone really, can write about what happened and publish their work. Whether it is morally right is another thing though.
I can understand from both sides - the mother most likely doesn't want to constantly relive the experience, and probably has some pyschological issues that she's still dealing with.
The daughter may have written the book as her own form of therapy to chase away the fear and sort through her emotions regarding the incident.
It sounds like they really need to sit down and discuss things (privately, and not broadcast to the world) to try and come up with some sort of compromise so neither is hurt beyond all repair.
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