Would you have your kids parties at a place your other kids couldn't participate
@njrealestategirl (369)
United States
October 7, 2007 10:59pm CST
My birthday boy will be 8 and my two little ones are 4 and 2. My son wants a "Fear Factor" party at this place near our house. The problem is is that the party is perfect for 8 and up but the owner said the little kids cannot participate because they are too little and will not be able to perform the stunts (none of the stunts are real like Fear Factor on TV but fake). Do you think it's fair to my other 2? My little guy will not even care but I explained it to my daughter who's 4 and she had a dance party last year with her little girlfriends and my older boy came but did not participate so she understands that she will eat pizza and cake and do the pinata but not the actually "party". Do you think I'm doing the right thing by having it at a place they can't enjoy?
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
it is not fair of course. what would you feel if you are now watching the video clippings of your 8 year old son's birthday without the presence of your younger kids? what would you feel if you are compiling the pictures of that said event and there are no pictures of your younger kids? i mean would you like your sibblings to have a party and your not invited? maybe they are too young to understand but when the time comes and they saw the pix and video how could you explain it?
@njrealestategirl (369)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I was going to invite them but they just can't do the fear factor thing. It's a hard decision because of the age gap. I don't think it's fair to limit my 8 year old to a 2 year old party event but in the same token I feel bad for the little ones. Again, they will color the picture for the scrapbook, have pizza, sing happy bday, have cake, do the pinata and get a goody bag but the fear factor is just too difficult for them. My friend mentioned having them just be on one of the teams and just have them help out. Thank you for your response. It was much appreciated.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
yes the age difference is the problem here. well i just hope you can find something during the event that would keep the younger kids busy and not feel left out. goodluck
@josh_caare (252)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
that is going to be a pretty tough decision. Well, lets just make it simple. GRANT what the celebrator WANTS! Maybe you can have a separate activity for the little ones. BUt thats gonna be another story because you need someone to supervise them. Or maybe you can have the food serve at your house.. and give different activities/games for the little ones.. while the older ones are in the fear factor thingy. Make sure though that both games (the one for the little ones and the older ones) will end at the same point so everyone eats at the same time in one area. ITs still a get together for everyone. So the rule basically is, GAME before MEAL. eheheeh
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
8 Oct 07
well, when it all comes down to it, it's a birthday party for the 8 year old and not the other two. If your two little ones feel left out, you could have them plan a surprise party for their older sib, where they are the only guest. They could play games with him, and help bake him a cake. That way they get to celebrate with their older sib, but he gets to have his party too. Good luck!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Oct 07
no...i don't think you are wrong at all as long as the younger ones fully understand that they can't participate in certain activities. They still will be a part of the celebration! I say that you should just go for it and let your son have the party he wants.
@jennwhite07 (130)
• United States
8 Oct 07
My personal feeling on this is that this is something all family members should celebrate together. To make it fair, maybe have a simple "family only" get together a day or two before, so that when your birthday boy wants to have the other one, the younger children aren't feeling left out.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I think it's fine. As long as your 4 year old understands that she can't participate but will still get to have pizza and cake. Ultimately, it should be an activity that the birthday boy wants to do. When it's her birthday, she gets to pick something that she want's to do, and maybe her brother can't or doesn't want to do.
