he loves you, you love him but you're committed with anybody else..

This does ring a bell..=) I had been in this situation before. I believe you would just choose the only thing that's right -- keep that forbidden love to yourself and be faithful to the boyfriend..and pray that fate would intervene. In my case, fate did intervene. I ended up neither of the 2 guys.

I think that if you are already committed with somebody, maybe a very serious commitment like marriage, then you have to control your emotions and stop what you feel with your co-worker. The reason why God puts our head above our heart is because brain should rule over emotions. If our feelings will lead us astray, then sensible thinking dictates that we should not go the wrong way. Its not fair to be unfaithful with somebody you are commited with, you end up hurting your partner, your relationship and at the end yourself also. What if you realized at the end that what you feel with your co-worker is just a fleeting emotions? I suggest that we should not play with fire and jeopardize our present relationship.

Well, in that case, you should both know that there are things not meant to be. In our quest for happiness we should always remember not to cause any harm to other people, like in this case, I think it would be better if you will focus yourself with your present relationship. Try to refocus to your partner, date more often and try to make things work between you.

Oh boy, does this bring back memories! I was in the same situation once. I was attracted to one of my co-workers and ended up sleeping with him. BAD MISTAKE! I liked him more as a friend but he was into the romantic thing. Next thing I know I'm pregnant, then married to him. Needless to say the marriage didn't work out but having my daughter is the best thing that's happened in my life!