how long have you been with your partner?

China
October 9, 2007 1:07am CST
how long have you been with your current partner? do you love each other? do you quarrel with each other? what are you quarreling for? is it normal to have the following feeling: i hate her, i dont want be with her any more. have you ever had such feeling?
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• United States
10 Oct 07
I've been with him for almost 4 years, yes we're in love and yes we fight. A lot, over everything. But, I think it's just that we're both still young and get really passionate, emotional and worked up pretty easily. I expect we'll mellow out eventually. A lot of it is also that he was never taught any kind of manners, organization or ettiquete in anything and I'm extremely fastideous so we clash a lot. Yes I do feel I hate him sometimes and that life would be a lot easier if I got rid of him, but there's just a really deep connection that overrides those feelings in the end.
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@nadezna (203)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
my husband and i are stick with each other weve been 4 years from now since were married. it is normal to argue it makes us more stronger when arguing it doesnt mean you didnt love each other anymore you only may think that you hate him that day but when hatred goes away you always think how your relationship been going how you treasure it and how much you love him it makes your love for each other grows again..
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
9 Oct 07
I do not know from what country you come from. In India, marriage is treated as a sacred institution and once select a part, in 99% cases, it lasts till the end of the life. It is an everlasting be it arranged or love marriage. People here do not change wife like changing shirts. Family bondage is so high, the love and affection is not expressed here in public in the form of kissing. It is always there despite the differences of opinion, minor quarrels between them, it is the children who unite them again. That is the family and I am part of it and I like it. I have been with my wife for 18 years and I am sure we both like each other for ever.
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@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
Were on our 1 year anniversary and yes up to now we still love eacg other very much. We do have petty quarrels but very rare and it usually last for few hours. Im glad that id ont have feelings like that like i hate him or whatever. I love him and am very happy! =)
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@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
9 Oct 07
I have been with my husband for 23 years, since I was 20. Well, married that long. With him for a year longer than that. Heck yes, we argue. Little things get on our nerves, etc. We have been through some bigger problems too but, in the end, the choice was always clear. We vowed to stay together and we are. I never hated him and hope he never hated me though! I have told him I want a divorce (in the heat of the moment) and he has said he wanted to walk out and never come back but here we are! lol. I think it is very natural to get frustrated with a partner, espacially after so long but the prevailing feeling is love and loyality.
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@huntbird (277)
• China
10 Oct 07
I just apart with my partner,this time is forever i know,it is hard to recover.we havn't quarreling,just apart,maybe both of us already have no feel to each other,but we still friends.
@alamode (3071)
• United States
10 Oct 07
I have been with my partner for 44 years... we raised our kids, had 2 businesses together, have lived through illness and injury with each other, taken care of each other... and fight when we need to! But when we fight, we never bring up anything from the past, and we get mad at the problem, not each other. When I was very young, I had some of those feelings, but they were just anger speaking.
@taskata10 (627)
• China
10 Oct 07
Hi! I have been with my wife for eight years. I love her and my kid. in fact, before we had our kid, we often got angry at some little things. Until now, I still don't know why. Since we had our kid, we have seldom get angry. Maybe the kid makes us love each other more. I remember one time, I was so angry that I said "divorce" to her. So was her and my kid is very afraid. She and my kid went out and she said to me" i will never come back." But at last, she came back with our kid. i felt sorry to her, especially to my kid. I won't do that again. i won't let my kid unhappy just because of our quarrel for a little thing.