Professor - Student Relationship. Bad Situation, Help Needed !

Dr. Professor is playing with dynamite. As a former university professor I can tell you that it's a sure-fire way for him to lose his job. You cannot have interpersonal relationships with students! It has to do with ethics and the power imbalance of student-professor relationships. If your friend is at all concerned about his career, she needs to back off. There are no penalties for the student, but the professor will get raked over the coals ...

This is most stubborn case I ever tried to advise my female friend to not make a relationship with someone who is married, if old but single is not a matter, but if he has a relationship, it is another story. You may start from what she likes, if she loves to read magazine, find for her a magazine that discussion about those who had a problem with another person who had a marriage life. If she loves to chat or surfing, you may get near her, and tried to make an approaching how to convince her to see the articles about this resources. If you or she knew someone else, who had been through this and had bad result (to what I heard and see, there is only 1% person who succeed with marriage-affair, and these people mostly are very rich, now you know what is the cause). Try to start this topic and let her know about that person experience. And find everything you can. This is very hard, because if a person whose heart had trusted someone, even the concrete wall is not harder than heart's will. If you had done all you can, if she still doesn't want to listen. Don't push it anymore, or you will lose her later. Then, it will be her own destiny. Because she wants it, she should know and accept what might be the later consequences are. And yet, you had done your best part as a best friend to her. Good Luck, my friend.

Well the only thing you can really do is be there for her when it all blows up. If they start dating and the school finds out they will both be kicked out of school. If his wife finds out she could out them to the school or even worse she could go after your friend. When dating married people it doesn't usually work because either the mistress can't deal with it in the end or the wife/hubby finds out and that hurts everyone involved in the end.

This is quite a situation. I have known many people having this kind of experience and the outcome is always bad. Well, it also depends whether the professor is married or not. If the professor is still single then there would be less pain in the butt. But if the situation is like your friend's then she is in big trouble. Getting involved with someone already married is a bad idea. Better stop her while she is not that deeply stuck on that professor of hers.

Well only your friend can help herself but I can tell you nothing good ever comes from an affair. Im assuming your friend is at least half of her teachers age and if the teacher is married she could be risking breaking their relationship up. I know your friend is not all to blame for this but she should`nt be leading this guy on with calls and so forth. All I can say is I hope your friend all the luck in the world and hopefully she makes the right decision and leave that teacher alone. Your right also when it comes to students having `day dreams` about their teachers but you should never act on them.

ho, what a terrible situation, why you are concerned this much. if your friend like this means better you not to involve in this. if she like let her. :D

Flirting around with a married man twice her age and that too her professor can never come to a happy ending. You need to distract your friend from this guy. Maybe both of you could go out a lil more and perhaps try and meet new and young guys more your age.... if you tell her anything bad abt this guy you risk losing her friendship. You could perhaps show your dislike abt this relationship in subtle ways that might get across to her

If a student is dating a teacher, it never turns out to be a good thing. I have never heard of student-teacher romances working out for the best. Tell your friend that he is a lost cause, and if he is married, that is worse. Again, it is a bad situation all around.

It has become a trend that students are very often falling for thier professors and it is taken as very regular thing in campus. Even teachers take this as a compliment and feel proud if any student has a soft corner for them.

It is better not to look into others work, what they do. Keeping a little bit distance is safe, for good leavings. Thanks

She will have to learn for herself in the long run to be honest. You can only do so much for her. You can still be a friend to her, but if she has not listened by now then she will not until she has learned from the experience.

Well, everything in this story seems okay..... except for that tiny little detail that the professor is MARRIED! So he's 48, married, always flirting with a young girl. What does that make him? I think it's called DOM -- Dirty Old Man! I think your friend is better off finding a man more suitable, and more available.

Youre friend is playing with fire and surely she will get herself burn badly at the end. The professor is just taking adavnateg of her vulnerable emotions. Advised your friend to stay away from him and guard her tightly. He will just ruin her life and her future. I don't know why there are professional and mature persons who act that way. Professors should have good morals to earn the respect of their students. In the Philippines, we have the Civil Service Commission that can dismiss you from any government office due to immoral acts. But there should be a complaint filed in their office first before they could act. Do you have a similar office in your place? If there is, then you could seek the help of the said agency.

if i were you, tell her the consequenses when she continue doing it. tell her the bad side. there are many men in this world than consuming her time with this kind of man. and you as a friend ask her out spend time with her in order for her to forget about him.do something new that she is interested in. in that way she may change her focus on that proffessor. i hope this will help

ahhhh, no, tell her run away, run away, run away! On her side... if he's willing to sleep around behind his wife's back, he'd sleep around on her (your friend). On his side, is a relationship on the side really worth a marriage and a career? Bah.