Does it bother you when you help someone and they don't even say thanks?

That is the meaning of HELP. That is why if I hope for appreciations or gratifications I won't help people or any third party. The hurt parts will remain in our mind forever. Once called for HELP, will be considered as giving HELP. If not it will be term as giving HOPE but not HELP. After giving my help, I will say thanks to them and definitely they will spontaneously reply THANK YOU for me. So I got the mentioning of THANK YOU if I bother for it.

I already learn to myself that never hink for return, because it happen already to me to the people i help her in abroad, even i herad to one of my friend that they denied me that i help her in that time, i simple answer only i say god know what i did for that person. anyway i dint owe him something.

It bothers me a lot.I go to the extent of reminding them to say thanks.

dont hurt any one to say thanks. I say it ever time some one opens a door for me or other small things and that woman should really have said thanks to you.

Though it is indeed natural to us to help and be helped, I believe that we shuld all be thankful for the extra effort we receive from others. It would be nice to receive certificates or any form appreciation, as I believe we don't need any applause but a simple thank you. The simpliest way to look at it is, we would earn what we have given from the One who mostly sees us!;) Just do every little thing we can, don't expect any return since things has changed now..

of course we need thanks from them with our help. only that situation that's person don't know how to say thanks. maybe her family think a word "thanks" is not important to them or in family maybe.

Sometimes it bothers me, if it is a person that I know and it is something that happens repetetively. I mean, I hate getting the feeling that someone is taking me for granted. However, I generally try to help without expecting something in return just because it makes me feel good to help someone else. And I believe in Karma as well. Like, if I do good deeds without expecting anything in return, then I am bound to get help from others when I need it too. I actually had someone really wonderful help me out today. We are having a terrible snow storm where I live, and I was coming out of the grocery store with my 2 little ones, and trying to push the cart and get the th car as quickly as possible to try to get my kids in the car and out of the wind. Well, as I was putting the baby in the back seat, a woman in a mini-van pulled up next to my car and rolled down her window. Apparently I had dropped a whole case of diapers that I had in the bottom of my cart. She saw me drop them and brought them to me. Now anyone coudl have just grabbed those, or she could have just ignored it, but she was nice enough to care, bad weather and everything, and get out of her vehicle, pick them up, and bring them to me. What a great woman! I am glad for people like that so I of course thanked her immensely! I like it when people thank me for acts of kindness like that too, but it doesn't throw my whole day out of balance if I don't get a thanks. I just move on.

It does bother me a little bit but I tend to get over things quickly. Even if the person I helped is ungrateful I know I did something good and that makes me feel better. It would not discourage me from helping another in the same way. I know I would want somebody to help me so i'm not going to let one persons rudeness get in the way.

yes it do bothers me.... but that was before. i got used to it already. for me it is okay if they wont say thanks as long as i know to myself that i lend a helping hand. but i never forget to say thank you to people who had helped me.

I have had that to happen to me. once I spent the last of my EBT (food stamp)money to help this person who was standing around begging for some food or money. I felt he was high, but I went back and got some food for him and he just took it and left without a word of thanks or nothing. I am like this, a thank you is sufficient at all times because a person don't owe you nothing. If a person goes out of the way to help you, be kind enough to show your gratitude. I may not say thanks, but Lord knows I will try to give or do something to help them. That is just me. Yesterday, I went to Christmas dinner with some family friends, and to be honest, I wanted to get her something nice, but didn't know what to get her.

well, i guess ultimately we have to give without expecting any thanks in return. it was kinda funny that the mom was too busy giving her son the scolding of his lifetime. some more protective moms would just be cooing over the kid, wondering whether he hurt himself. and also ignore the good samaritan. don't be discouraged, keep doing good! I like your avatar btw, it's really cute!!

Yes, it does bother me. I hold the door for people let them out in front of me in traffic and they dont even say anything. It is rude they have no manners.

it doesn't bother me too much.when i lend hands to others, i'll never expect anything especial in return.coz that's just what i choose to do.and i will try my best to help everyone who need me especilly my best friends.i don't care much about if they say thanks after receive my help,but i'll feel more happy if they do that way.

yes i kinda does bother me because you have been helping them and they don't even say thank you or something nice to you to show you thank they are proud of what you have done for them

look now i am beyond that limit of being bothered by this type of behaviour. it is due to the fact that it has happened to me many times.Most of the time i have helped few people so much and now they even don't have any contact with me. May be i was destined for it.

Yes it does. A simple smile would suffice but some people wouldn't even acknowledge you. But it irks me more if a person bumps into you and wouldn't even say sorry.

I don't think it is the small things that bother me. But when I do a huge favor something and recieve a thank you, then the person goes and gets into the same mess again, that really bothers me. Like my SIL, she was very late on her car payment and 2 days from having it repoed. We made her car payment for her with the understanding that she was working and would be able to make her next car payment. Come to find out, she lost her job and couldn't make her car payment. The fact that we helped and she didn't have plans on making the next car payment really pissed me off. So it is when I do a big favor, and that is how people behave, that is what gets me

I'm bothered with that, I'm this kind of person. if I accidentaly step on someone's foot in the bus I say "I'm sorry" because I was rised this way. "Sorry, thank you, please" - these are three words people should have known since kindergarden. And when someone ignore others help or good will it's not nice. But what I really don't uderstand is why some of my nieighbours ignore me when I meet them on the street and say "Good morning". That really bugs me out._.

Several days ago, my mom told me she forgot to say thanks to a person who helped her take down her luggage from the rack. She felt regretted for it. At that time, she just thought of leaving the train and seeing me as soon as possible. I think, sometimes, some people forget to say thanks indeed.

YES I hate that. Today unfortunately people are so careless they don't say thanks but I find it very rude. I know a girl who never in her life said thanks. I did a few things for her and I even gave her few things for nothing and she never ever said thanks. I will never do anything for her again. When such a thing happen just feen discouraged to help other people and I think that's not good because its great to help people.