Living-in before getting married?

I don't necessarily agree with it, but sometimes it has become a necessary evil in this society. I did live with my husband before we were married. It gives you a taste of what is to come lol. I hate to say that our world has come to this, many people did not do this because it was unacceptable in past times and marriages worked for better or for worse for the most part. Today's society it seems we are in a disposable marriage society, we live together, don't get married, or we get married after we live together and then we get divorced because after a few years it isn't working. One thing is for sure, things have changed in the last few years lol.

I would definitly recommend living together first. I grew up in a time when it was taboo to live together first but things were just beginning to change. I got married becuz it was the "right" thing to do...wanted to please the parents etc. No regrets but we could have saved ourselves alot of heartache and money. The wedding was costly and so was the divorce.

So many times you see a relationship or friendship crumble because you didn't realize how incompatible you were until you lived together. Why not make sure that you can last before jumping into a life-long commitment? Marriage should be for better or for worse but why take chances? If you are going to commit the rest of your life to a person then why not make sure that they aren't going to make you miserable in the process? I personally would rather try it out and find it didn't work out and go our separate ways without getting married than to get married, move in together and realize that we made a huge mistake. Then we either have to go and get divorced or we are stuck taking anti-depressants for the rest of our lives so that we can cope with the mistake we made. Neither one is ok with me so I would rather move in together first! You can't please everyone!!!

in a sense i do agree with that because they say that you really only know someone until you live with them which i think is totally true! on the other hand, my beliefs say that you shouldnt...so what to do???

Yes, I have nothing against living in before getting into marriage. I believe that we could enter anytime to marriage but once we are there it would be difficult to go out. I think it would be better if we make sure for ourselves that we are really ready for everything. Marriage is not a simple thing. WE have to be sure about it so that we wont be miserable in the end.

My sister lived with the man she was engaged to. After sometime living together they set a date for the wedding and got married. I think that she really got to know him when she lived with him instead of just dating him. They found that they got on very well living together. Now they have successfully been married for about twelve years and have got four children. My sister believes in marriage for life and I don't think she would ever get divorced. If she hadn't lived with my brother in law before marrying him she would not have known if they were compatible. Luckily they were are still are. I have taught many children that have had parents that have split up and got divorced. Such an event can affect a child greatly in the two years after the parents get a divorce. One girl had a mum and dad that could not stand being in the same room as each other. Perhaps if her parents had lived together they would not have rushed into marriage at an early age. They might have realized that they were not compatible. Perhaps in the past people worked hard at staying married. They did not live together before getting married. Times have changed though and many people try out living together before marrying. I think this is a sensible thing to do.

For me it doesnt matter living-in before getting married or married before living together, what is the important is that we live happily ever after,,, some people are too concious and many blah blah and married before living together but after the wedding they had only the honeymoon and then divorce hated each other for the rest of their lives...so what is wron on living-in together before married.

I think it depends on the relationship. My husband and I lived together before we got married, mostly for financial convenience - we couldn't afford the wedding at the time, but it didn't seem practical to have two apartments. My cousin and her husband both lived with their parents until about a month before they got married. She stayed at her parents until they actually got married, he moved into their new place to set things up. They seem happy, too.

I dont find anything wrong in living together without marriage. These days, even after marriage if there is no compatibility, couples are not waiting for any reason to stay with each other and even some of the divorces do happen after couple of days of marriage. So, in short marriages have no meaning for people so better not insult the value and worth of marriage and stay together without marriage. If later you feel that you need and want to get married, who will stop you.

I think it's a good idea, because there are too many divorces theese days. People often reason them with character differences because they really don't know eachother before marriage wich is sad to me. Maybe if they would live with eachother for a year before marriage they would be better prepared or they wouldn't mak a step;)

No, I am not agreeing with it. First you must meet to know each other. Then decide whether you will make a good pair or not. Living together is not at all necessary for it.At first you must have faith in yourself.

yah i do agree with that, well my brother and sisters they had nice weading before but relationship took long.for me its better to live in one roof to know eachothe or relationship works or not before ending up married.

I think for me, marriage has all this pressure attached and moving in with someone you have never lived with before just adds to it. I moved in with my partner a while ago, I couldnt have been happier. It has been a year and I could not have lived in a healthier, more enjoyable environment. At the same time, some people also feel that when you move in with someone it just acts as an excuse to hold off the marriage. But to be honest, I am perfectly happy with the way things are, sure I would not mind getting married and doing the whole shin-dig but I am the kind of person who likes to take things one step at a time. Anyways, I hope that you find what is right for you. r.

I defiently agree that you should live with you partner before you get married. Think about it, you don;t really know a person until you are around them the majority of the time. Yea dating is fun but at the end of the date you's both go your separate ways. If one can decide whether they can or cannot live together could take away alot of stress in the future. If you marry someone and can;t stand them after living with them it than leads to divorce. Let's put it this way, you defiently would not buy a car without a test drive. I believe the same goes with marriage. Why not test it out before you actually do it. Instead of being divorced 6 months later, dividing all the possessions and paying expensive lawyers fees

no i dont agree in that kind of an idea because its not the time to have a trail for marriage and what if a girl looses her virgin during that time and does she expect the father to be different person instead of the person who was responsible for that. so its safe not to have trail before marriage. the breaking up is in our hands only if we move together why is the chance of breaking up ah...

My brother's fiance, her mother is well let's be nice and say a very horrible person, so she ended up moving in with my family. Then my brother and his fiance moved out into their own place together. They've been engaged for 3 years now, they would get married, but can't afford it at the moment. I think it's fine living together before being married, because it gives you the chance to see what people are like before marriage.

i think its advisable in living in together first that's the way you can barely know each other well and you will also make yourself more comfortable with each other..and in living together you will see each other working out on your relationship step by step rather than marrying to fast it was a long learning process and you dont even know what was the result after married faster.