What do you do while your children are with your ex?
By delladidit
@delladidit (466)
United States
October 13, 2007 12:39pm CST
...Sometimes I look forward to my kids being gone. Sometimes, I feel like I need the break. Most of the time, I hate it when they are with my ex. I do not sleep well at all. I wake up several times during the night and wonder if they are alright. He has never gotten up with them when they were sick or crying. He doesn't know what medications to give them. He doesn't feed them well.
...How do you feel when your children are gone with your ex? Does it get more comfortable as time goes by? Am I worrying too much? I need to hear from others, including men on this subject.
...Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della
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3 responses
@5WaystoSaveMoney (16)
• United States
15 Oct 07
This is a tough topic to answer. I feel the same way at times. Since you feel so worried, call the kids once or twice while they are away with you ex. Just to say hi, I am thinking about you. This is what I do and it helps. Also, while they are away get some of the things done that you need to or occupy yourself with things that interest you. Do you remember what interests you?
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@delladidit (466)
• United States
15 Oct 07
...Thank you for taking on this tough question. Calling them hasn't worked, my ex screens the calls and doesn't answer. I get his voice mail and ask him to have the kids call me back. Sometimes they do and I do feel better.
...When I was single, I used to vaccuum if I could not sleep. I discovered I can vaccuum the whole house when they are gone anytime, day or night. I do the laundry while they are gone. I unpack boxes and bake special cookies for my son who is on a theraputic diet for liver disease. The new man in my life does his best to keep me from thinking about them. It has become our time.
...It is at night I have the hardest time. I wake up often, if I can even fall asleep. Since I am not sure if they are alright, I worry because I know he will not get up with them if they are ill. My daughter came home coughing this evening. She said her father gave her several pills, but none of them helped. She isn't able to tell me what they were.
...This too shall pass...however, I fear for what is happening to the kids.
...Thanks again for your response. Peace be with you.
=(^;^)= Della
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@THKOhio (329)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I always enjoy the time when my children spend weekends with Dad. I can sleep in, I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, and I can focus just on ME for those days. I take long hot baths, listen to music I like, watch movies I like, read for hours on end, and replenish my energy. Then, when they come home, I'm rested, relaxed, and ready to be an even better mom.
@THKOhio (329)
• United States
30 Oct 07
You really just have to trust him. He's their father, and while he may do things differently than you would, you have to believe that he's going to take good care of them and have their best interests at heart. Just learn not to sweat the small stuff, and focus on how much they need the time with Dad.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
3 Nov 07
I will let you know the day either of my children's fathers ever bother taking them. Neither of them have spent ANY time alone with them. I get no alone time, but then again I don't think I would let them take them even if they wanted to. They can't not be in a kids life and just expect to be able to take them when they finally decide to.
