Do you have trust in Love?
By poohgal
@poohgal (6845)
Singapore
October 13, 2007 1:48pm CST
Hello there. Recently I have been listening to this Chinese song and there's this line that goes "Many things I've said before, you believe in all. A simple 'I love you', you do not believe"Personally, I can relate to this. Nowadays I have very little trust in love. Whenever a guy tells me 'I love you', instead of feeling happy or touched, I feel skeptical and do not believe.
I do not like myself being so distrusting of love. I am learning to trust.=D
8 responses
@sumitsonu (598)
• India
14 Oct 07
Yes people are really loosing trust in love, love has just became a play in the society , but to tell you their are still people in the society who die for love , I do trust love completely, you know I love a girl who is my best friend since 1 year, but I haven't told her my feelings yet , and I care for her very much , I can do anything for her , but because our families won't allow as she is elder to me by 3 years , I don't want to hurt her so i didn't confess my feelings , and I am never gonna do so also, I will love her whole my life , although I know I can never get her.
I hope my life experience will bring some trust about love back in you, before just feeling that the guy who said "I love you" to you a crap, try to analyze whether he truly does , you know sometimes you can miss on a guy who can be yours forever , and then you will regret whole your life for missing on him.
@sumitsonu (598)
• India
15 Oct 07
thanks for your response, and I really treasure her , I do almost everything she asks me too ,and this she also knows very well that I never say no to her, and I am happy in having her as my best friend
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
14 Oct 07
Thanks for sharing. I am so touched by your love for your best friend. So what if she is 3 years older, Love has no boundaries. I think you should go for it and confess your love for her. It's not easy to find someone who you truly love. Do treasure her. Miracles do happen. If you persevere, I believe she will accept you. I wish you all the best!
Thanks for sharing. I really appreciate it.
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@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
14 Oct 07
I have some issues with believing a man when he says he loves me, but I know my boyfriend now loves me without a doubt.
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@fracktion (154)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
You have to. Otherwise you will end up losing everybody who wants to enter your heart. Learn from your mistakes but that doesnt mean that you have to close your heart to everybody. Life is hard and its not always fair. If you choose not to love since you dont trust nobody, you might not get hurt yes, but that means you will never grow as a person and certainly you will be lonely.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
15 Oct 07
is either u have been hurt very badly b4 or u dun believe in love at all.. Trust is hard to build trust and easily crumble.. But from the way guys tell u they u love u, u can judge from the tone of their voice and know if they really meant it.. ONce u can feel it, it means u trust him too ;)
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
15 Oct 07
LOL. I think it's a combination of both. Actually, it's my previous experience that affects my faith in love. I wouldn't say I do not believe in it. I still have a little belief.
Anyway, some guys are really good actors. I find it difficult to differentiate those that are real and those that are not. Also, It's not all about whether the guy likes you or not. It's also about whether you like the guy. A guy may be true and sincere but you do not like him. A guy may not be true but you like him.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
15 Oct 07
It all depends alot of both guys and gals.. Like u say, good ones we dun like, but we like the bad ones.. And i agree with u that guys tend to act good but inreality they are not like that.. However it is, if someone is serious about u, they wun give up so eaily as patience is 1 thing not everybody has it..
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
21 Oct 07
Hi, poohgal!
Maybe you've been burnt before so now you're still in the healing process still?
Well, I believe in love. Even though sometimes it means the other person doesn't love us back, it's still worth it. After all, when you love someone, you're leaving a legacy of love. In time when you find someone who loves you back as much as you love that person, then you'll see that every heartbreak that you've experienced is worth it. Because through loving others (even though you may be hurt in the process), you learn more about yourself and others. :-)))
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
21 Oct 07
Thanks for the encouragement. Actually, I have already recovered from the heartbreak. However, I still have problems believing when a guy says he likes me. I do understand what you mean. I hope I can be as brave as you one day when it comes to loving. I believe it takes a lot of courage to love.
God bless you!
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
21 Oct 07
I find that the only thing you can do is to pray that God opens your eyes and mind and heart when you meet someone new so that you see the guy for who he REALLY is before you make further commitment (like marriage) to him. I think it's the safest bet...asking God to help us be aware...but we also have to ask for sensitivity and willingness to hear His alarms, otherwise we'll still be blinded by our feelings.
God bless you too, poohgal! :-))))
@shraddhaswnt211 (418)
• India
14 Oct 07
Trust is a feeling which i personally feel u get it automatically.its d inner sense dat helps u in judging people around u.Most of d guys i believe r casonavas n hardly understand the essence of true love n feeling.so dats d matter dat u stop trusting anyone further wen such things happen.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
15 Oct 07
That's the problem. My feeling has not been 100% correct so far. That's why I am afraid of following my heart and making decisions. I am afraid of making mistakes again. But on the other hand, 'You never try, You never know'.
I feel that some guys are casanovas too.
Thanks for sharing. =D
@downaalice (209)
• China
14 Oct 07
yes i think so .i really think love is not only words but action.if a person just say "i love you "without action,i will certainly doubt it.
