Are they The Mr. And Mrs. if she doesn't take his name?
By AndreaM76
@AndreaM76 (1164)
United States
October 13, 2007 10:16pm CST
Just curious and confused about something. I have a friend who is a newlywed and I didn't know till maybe a month ago she didn't take his last name. I don't her reason nor did I pry. I'm just confused as to how I mail a card to them. Are they still Mr and Mrs. or do I address it by both thier names. I feel a little to silly to ask her. Can someone shed some light on this?
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
14 Oct 07
Well I have never come across this either but if it was me I would hyphenate it like Mr. & Mrs. Blank-Blank that way you are covering your bases LOL
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
14 Oct 07
oh you are saying like mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Doe? That is a good way, but hmmm how does this make her Mrs.?
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
14 Oct 07
The name has nothing to do with the Mrs. The Mrs. refers to being married. if your not married your a miss or ms you will never see a Mrs that isn't married.
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
14 Oct 07
By Hyphenate it I mean if his lastname is Smith and hers is Doe then put Mr. & Mrs. Smith-Doe.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
14 Oct 07
After 23 years of being Ms. I can tell you that Hubby and I got married last year and although I sometimes use his last name and sometimes I use my maiden name I always consider myself a Mrs. now. As for the card, I'd address it to Mr. and Mrs. since they are in fact married.
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@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
14 Oct 07
I wonder if there is a place to find ettiquite on this. Thanks for the help,maybe I should be bold and just ask her how she wants to be addressed.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
If they are married, they are married and she gets his last name. If they are living common-law, they are not married, and she does not get his last name. I have a niece who is the same way. My husband says they are married, but I say they are just living common-law and have been it so long that they think they are legally married.
If you have photos of them in the church before the pastor taking their vows, they are married, or if you see the marriage certificate - but to be safe, you use both their last names hyphenated but I do not know if his name or her last name comes first.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
14 Oct 07
wow thats a good one. I have had a similar case my aunt divorced and changed her surname but my cousin kept his fathers so I had no idea what to write so I addressed it to him. I would not know what to do in this situation probably put both surnames.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
14 Oct 07
That makes it difficult when they are family and have diffrent names. I wonder if there is someplace to find ettiquite on this. thanks.
